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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Whacking The Wine Witch Round The Chops (With Barry The Squid).

999 replies

Mouseface · 01/05/2013 17:32

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

I'm one of the Brave Babes who's travelling on this wonderful, magical, mysterious Bus, trying to hold onto my sobriety for me, and for my family.

I do drink but thanks to this Bus, I've kicked the vodka addiction into touch and the evil WineWitch has been banished far, far away so I now drink in a controlled manner, One Day At A Time. :)

By that, I mean that just for today, I won't be drinking. Tomorrow, however, I will be because it's a very special occasion. The day after will be dealt with when I wake, and the day after that, the day after etc.....

We're a Bus filled with some fantastic posters, some who drink, some who don't touch a drop ever and some who are on/off drinkers who have lovely warm seats in the side-car, some are hanging onto the roof-rack by the tips of their fingers and trying their best to resist the dreaded WineWitch's charms night after night. But they are trying, and that's all that any of us can do, is keep trying, keep starting again!

So, if you think that you're drinking too much (you probably are) why not come and say hi? We won't bite - unless you ask very nicely, manners cost nothing Wink.

There's lots of seats so pick whichever one you like and have a Brew. Just jump in, we're not a judgemental pack of quiche makers Wink

And here's a bit of light reading for you.... our latest thread and the very first one, the reason we're all here.

PREVIOUS THREAD

FIRST EVER THREAD

OP posts:
dementedma · 11/05/2013 08:40

Morning all, newbies and oldies.
purps come out, come out wherever you are.....
These are GREEN ones!

Mouseface · 11/05/2013 10:48

For those of you who remember TrinityRhino, her DP died last yesterday. Sad

She tried so hard to save him and had to watch him die.

After her losing her husband only a few years ago, and now this. She'd been sober for months, posted not that long ago and done so very well after losing her DH. She had found her DP and was so very happy.

Life is so fucked up sometimes, I really do wonder why some people are given these paths to walk. Sad

There is a thread HERE for those who might want to say something to her.

My love and thoughts are with them all Sad xx

OP posts:
Mintyy · 11/05/2013 11:04

Such an incredible tragedy. Poor poor Trinity Sad.

dementedma · 11/05/2013 18:45

Oh that's so sad.

greeneyed · 11/05/2013 19:12

So sorry Trinity.

lonnika · 11/05/2013 21:09

Hi fullofhopefullness - HALT works for me - hope it works for you too. Another thing I found works for me is going back at working through the first thread - :)
End of day 12 here -in bed watching trashy TV - drinking pomigranate and diet lemonade :). Up early tomorrow. Nearly 2 weeks sober can't believe it :). just starting to feel good after initial days of exhaustion - Good luck all, have a good evening and take care, L

fullofhopefullness · 11/05/2013 21:34

Hi ionnika - well done im hoping to someday get to day 12 but im sitting just now having last glass of the bottle and im ashamed of myself. I will start again tomorrow but think I need to totally change how I think about things! I seem to be in awful loop with worrying about stuff that might happen etc. Ww not helping at all!

lonnika · 11/05/2013 21:37

Don't be ashamed fullofhopefullness tomorrow is a new day and you can start again :).
You can do it - the reason I am in bed so early is so that I am not attempted to drink lol - Good luck with tomorrow :)

fullofhopefullness · 11/05/2013 21:46

Thx lonnika Smile tomorrow is another day! Thanks for inspiration! I be good tomorrow !

dementedma · 11/05/2013 21:48

Quiet on here today. Hope everyone OK

fullofhopefullness · 11/05/2013 21:52

Hi ma hows all going with db? Are the sa helping? I mostly just listen but am hoping all going in right direction?

dementedma · 11/05/2013 22:12

Hi full of he's pretty bad. At my mothers tonight so hoping she can cope. Goes to SA on Monday but he is very very fragile. Just got to get through tomorrow......

fullofhopefullness · 11/05/2013 22:20

Good luck ma xx to u all.

ThisIsMyTime · 11/05/2013 22:25

Hi ma fingers crossed for u both x

babyjane1 · 11/05/2013 23:17

Hi babes, can I just share a few things with you, firstly Today i read back all my old posts from the beginning of this journey and at that time my attitude was so enthusiastic and fresh, I was so determined and positive and lately my posts have been flat and short, maybe we should all go through our old posts and it may awaken our desire to achieve our goal. Secondly My dd and ex were at a local park today and an old friend of mine recognised my ex and approached them to say hi. When my daughter got home she asked how I knew this friend and I explained we were close at school and she looked at me aghast and said " OMG are you 2 the same age" lets just say it wasn't in a good way. It really made me think what toll wine has taken on my body as well as my soul? ??? Sorry to sound self indulgent but it made me feel embarrassed and sad x x

greeneyed · 11/05/2013 23:30

baby will respond properly tomorrow but i'm sorry you are sad, much of what you say resonates with me tonight. Need to kick my ass and the Wine Witch xx

greeneyed · 12/05/2013 07:47

Okay babes, it's a lovely morning. Lets rediscover our boing this week! I will be moving all wine to the back of the garage today. It's the only way for me. If it's in the house I'll drink it.

I keep putting on weight, said to DH last night I didn't know why. He said perhaps it's the booze And I am drinking a lot at the moment. He never says anything like thatBlush wake up call for me.

So removing the alcohol and preparing for a fitful night. I will spend the evenjng on my laptop in bed hiding from the WW. I have put myself at the bottom of the pile the last few months whilst we deal with various pressures but time to look after myself.

Who's joining me on day one? Xx

greeneyed · 12/05/2013 07:49

Also it's a but quiet now in the sidecar without purps need to get back on the bus, hoping she'll join me on there when she's ready x

ohcluttergotme · 12/05/2013 08:19

BabyJ sorry your feeling so low, sounds a brilliant idea to read back over your first threads & find your motivation again.
Green, does your dh drink the wine that will be at the back of the garage? Just a thought but could you pour it away? That's what I've had to do as knowing it was there at times would of been too much Hmm

I've had a bug all weekend, felt exhausted but glad I've resisted ww as would of felt a million times worse.

Wishing babes a good Sunday xx

babyjane1 · 12/05/2013 11:18

green I'm with you girl, time for to buck my ideas up!!!!

greeneyed · 12/05/2013 14:17

That's great baby we'll unite against the WW this evening. Enough with the self loathing and time to be kind to ourselves in body and mind. ohclutter i think I'll be safe with it in the garage. If not I'll get rid of it. X

Mintyy · 12/05/2013 14:36

Great stuff greeneyed and babyjane! Have you got a plan for what you will do when ww comes a-calling?

greeneyed · 12/05/2013 14:41

Hide in my bedroom, PJs on in bed, teeth brushed . Not really feasible till after 8pm though :) in the meantime I'll just keep looking at myself in the mirror to remind me why I need to do this!

aliasjoey · 12/05/2013 14:45

ma hope everything goes okay for you and your family today.. it's so sad that a charity has had to step in where the NHS has failed

babyjane aww you poor thing, that must have been a horrid thing to hear! Are you sure she meant it that way? Also, your illness has surely taken its toll - your body has done pretty well to cope so far!

clutter hope you're feeling better today?

I think I'm going to be in the sidecar tonight, I had my once-a-week drink last night, but am getting very anxious about GP appointment tomorrow - and bought more wine today. It's self-medicating isn't it? I know that, but just at a loss how to deal with this anxiety any longer.

It's been 18 months since the fatigue started, and nearly a year since my meds were changed and the anxiety really ramped up. Since then, as well as 4/5 different drugs, herbal tablets, vitamins etc, have also had therapy, counselling, online CBT tools, and (actually quite helpful) podcasts from the Mental Health Foundation. I guess I'm worried that the doc will say there's nothing more to be done, or its my own fault...

Also I'll have to take time off work, and I'm stressing about that, only 30 mins but I'm dreading asking my boss.

greeneyed · 12/05/2013 15:02

Joey are you going to the GP to discuss your anxiety?

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