The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Whacking The Wine Witch Round The Chops (With Barry The Squid).

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Hello, I'm Mouse :)

I'm one of the Brave Babes who's travelling on this wonderful, magical, mysterious Bus, trying to hold onto my sobriety for me, and for my family.

I do drink but thanks to this Bus, I've kicked the vodka addiction into touch and the evil WineWitch has been banished far, far away so I now drink in a controlled manner, One Day At A Time. :)

By that, I mean that just for today, I won't be drinking. Tomorrow, however, I will be because it's a very special occasion. The day after will be dealt with when I wake, and the day after that, the day after etc.....

We're a Bus filled with some fantastic posters, some who drink, some who don't touch a drop ever and some who are on/off drinkers who have lovely warm seats in the side-car, some are hanging onto the roof-rack by the tips of their fingers and trying their best to resist the dreaded WineWitch's charms night after night. But they are trying, and that's all that any of us can do, is keep trying, keep starting again!

So, if you think that you're drinking too much (you probably are) why not come and say hi? We won't bite - unless you ask very nicely, manners cost nothing .

There's lots of seats so pick whichever one you like and have a . Just jump in, we're not a judgemental pack of quiche makers

And here's a bit of light reading for you.... our latest thread and the very first one, the reason we're all here.

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FIRST EVER THREAD

oh purple dont go. I have been hogging the bus these last few days and people have been responding to my cries for help. i am so sorry if that has caused others to be overlooked I love your posts purps and barrie loves you too. Please stay. i have opal fruits......
lonnika just to correct, he DID go in the ambulance on Monday to A and E but was sent home. He also went in it last night when they would only take him to the GP, who also sent him home.
Ok, my last post on Richard - and it is GOOD NEWS!
The Salvation Army will take him on Monday for 6 weeks and supervise a medical detox. He will then have 5 weeks of help. I am so so happy. Just have to keep him alive over the weekend but there IS hope now. Thank God for the Sally Army and thank all of you for your tremendous help. i am going to collate all the info and links so that if anyone needs them again, I will have them. If you want to pm me with links to organisations in your area I will make a file (who can do spreadsheets?) and between us, we will build up a database of help and support.
I will stop all the me me me stuff now and will be in a better place to support other Babes on this bus.
Welcome marfisa

Thanks Lemony and joey. I have had some paracetamol and chocolate and also went on a small book-buying binge (four new novels, presuming that the headache will stop enough for me to read them!). I haven't bought any novels since Christmas. So I'm now feeling a bit more cheerful. Am going to try to summon up enough brainpower to mark a couple of essays before I go home to DC-land. I really fancy an early night.

I'm posting here partly because I don't want to unload too much on DH about this. Our relationship is a bit rocky as it is and the way that he moves into self-righteous lecturing mode drives me crazy (even though I know he's right about the drinking). I hate the way he tries to monitor how much I drink. So I promised to stop drinking, he has promised not to act like a member of the anti-alcohol police.

Don't think I'm trying to blame him for my drinking though; I'm not - it's my fault and my problem.

So sorry about your brother, ma, and hugs to purple.

I will read the thread more properly tonight and find out what is happening to other people instead of just posting in purely selfish fashion.

Ma, that is brilliant news, am sure you are so relieved:) As I said earlier in the week I can't post at the weekend coz my phone is old and decrepit (bit like myself) but at least it will let me read the posts! Please keep us updated on Richard, post about him as often as you like.

marfisa our great babe mouse who is very wise has said before that apart from the alcohol our body is missing the huge amount of sugar in the wine can also cause a huge physical effect. I reckon a good book, a candle lit bath and lots of sugary drinks will give you the best chance if breaking the cycle. Well done for posting and welcome aboard, you are not alone and your doing brilliantly x x x

Signing off for the weekend, will be keeping up with the thread. Wishing each and everyone of you a safe and peaceful weekend:)

Marfisa - not the healthiest thing, but in these early days when you really just have to do whatever it takes not to start drinking, how about getting some strong tasting boiled sweeties? Mints, cough candy, blackcurrant & licourice ... that sort of thing. No one but no one wants to drink wine immediately after eating a mint?

I am surprised you were so ill and had such a terrible hangover the other day! It doesn't sound like you drank much more than you usually do. Are you sure it wasn't some other random bug?

WTAF? Purps - I'd rather you didn't leave if it's all the same with you thank you very bloody much! I NEED YOU. Your posts about your drinking help me to understand the reasons that I do or don't drink too.

Has something happened that has made you want to go? And why now?

I hope that you'll reconsider, the Bus doors are always open, and as I have said many a time before "You Can Check Out Any Time You Like, But You Can Never Leave"

Big huggles to you, from me and Nemo xxxx

Ma - I am SO PLEASED that someone has finally taken Richard in. At last! You must be so relieved and emotionally frazzled, everything will seem to happen all at the same time now. Oh I'm so glad he is alive and will be safe as of Monday.

As you say, you just have to keep him alive over the weekend but then that's it, you can take a step back and have a well deserved rest!

IsinDe or MsGee are your admin Babes so maybe a shout out to one of them?

I'm so pleased for you sweetheart, well done!!! And yes, God bless the Salvation Army, they are few and far between these days, here at least we don't have one.

Big huggles and lots of love to you too! xxxxx

Arghhhhhhh just typed big message and it's vanished!

Take good care Obrigada xx

Welcome Marfisa - I'm just off to read back and will come for a chat :) but Baby is of course right, if you remove something from your system that you've been putting in for a period of time, your body isn't going to thank you anytime soon so be prepared to crave sweet things later on.

Welcome Marfisa your so not pathetic. I used Allen Carr, and didn't find it so much quick fix but helped me to re-evaluate deep rooted thoughts around drinking, good luck for you x

MA that's fantastic news about The Salvation Army, must be a huge relief to you to feel that someone is helping.

Purple, please don't go, I always feel that you both give and gain so much from the bus. Sorry that at times you have not felt supported x

I got drunk on Saturday and have had a totally shit week....coincidence?

Right now I have a bottle of proseco in the fridge and I am 85% tempted to go and pour myself a glass to escape how utterly shit my life is! I really feel like running away but no-where to go to. Also totally trivial but went to the local college to get my hair cut and coloured by a trainee to cheer myself up (cost £19) and it's hidious. DD got hers done and looks like proper model with long flowing beautiful locks. Feel like a witch feeling envious of DD's beautiful long hair.

Wishing babes strength tonight. I think I'm going to pour a glass, if I don't feel like I am going to kill my 3 year old

Marfisa, just realised at the start of my post I said I read Allen Carr to stop and at the end of my post I said I was going to go and pour a glass...not a great advert for how amazing the book is, think I need to go and re-read!!

Little crazy boy looking for loving home....his Mother has had enough of him!!! When do little boys get easier?

pssst....clutter... the zoo?
I have one I could cheerfully throw into the lion monkey cage. Mine knows he pushed too far the other day and has spent today following me around being my 'best friend' I think I may have threatened to destroy all of his Thomas toys yesterday...

ma great news! Hoorah for the Sally Army brilliant idea to put the info together.

marfisa welcome to the bus.

Ha ha guugs, if they won't take him maybe I'll check into the monkey home for a break!
Dh is in nightshift which is not helping as trying to keep him quiet & its all me on my own (I hear a little violin playing for me)
Last night had to really shout at him at bedtime after he had had me running about daft after him then he called me back "one last time" to tell me I'm his best friend!! He knows exactly how to work me!

Hey Guggs, Lemony, Joey and Clutter

Sorry for ignoring you earlier. :)

Just off to bath the fish now that he has given in and I've finally managed to order all of his school uniform. Bloomin site crashed so I lost my 'basket'. I very nearly did lose my 'basket'!!!

I got a lovely present from Tesco today, a fake £10 note. Straight on the phone and told them I was on my way back for it to be exchanged for a real one! Every Little Helps? I think not. We did some shopping there and it cost almost 3 times as much (like for like) as it does when we shop in Morrison's and Aldi! Robbing sods.

mouse it's okay, you can't reply to every post! I'm feeling guilty because I read purple' s post earlier, but didn't reply as I didn't think I had any useful advice except Life's a Bitch, hey...

Hi there purp - I agree with everything everyone has said ie dont go. I dont post much but always read. I have had rotten week but this forum helps. Tonite I am having bottle of wine then sleeping pill and know I shouldnt. I dont post because I dont feel I express things v well. I was interested to hear about your holiday but just lazily thought you would post about it anyway. Its in nature of this forum. Personally I love the outlet of posting and not wanting response if u c what I mean?

I really, really didn't want to make anyone feel guilty. Maybe I've assigned too much weight to this support thread. Ma Don't you dare think this is because your problem has taken away from other people's problem. I felt like this a few weeks ago. You are going through so much crap right now. I so hope you can find some answers and some help. My heart goes out to you.

Maybe, for some, this is the only 'reaching out' they have. I know it is for me. And when post go unanswered, it, kind of, hurts. Childish -yes. Honest - yes. xxx

Ps I meant I had hoped you would tell us about your holiday so therefore didnt think to ask you about it

So,so,soooo glad you've got some solid help at last Ma A few tears of relief here. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ma - pleased you have got help:)
I was actually talking about the offer of a 7 day detox with medication that he turned down on Tuesday when he was at the counsellors, but like I said I wasn't trying to be negative I just know from personal experience that it is very difficult for anyone including the medical profession to help someone who doesn't feel ready for it yet and I wouldn't want your experience to put others of from visiting their doctor. :).

Marfisa I am about to finish day 11 of not drinking. I have discovered bottle green drinks are delicious with some lemonade :). Also have used the HALT technique - Good luck just remember to take one day at a time. You will soon notice that you are looking better :)

What is the halt technique?