Would this annoy you too? Or am I being oversensitive? Chatting to a man

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So I was talking to someone recently, educated, chatty, seemed quite nice and not bigoted, we swapped numbers but after that he commented on my figure, he said that he liked slender women and most of the women in the area were larger.

It's totally put me off him. I know we all have preferences but I didn't like him commenting on my body, even in a positive way. Am I just being ultra touchy? I recently got out of a bad relationship so my antennae are out of whack and possibly doing overtime.

I agree with cogito

Because god help you if you put on a bit of weight, he would be the first to make you know it..

'Seriously OP, think you are over-thinking, go on a date and get to know him better'

She wasn't comfortable with him. His comments made her uncomfortable. Why bother with him, give him chances, get to know a person you don't care for?

Women! Ignore your distaste! You must give all men a chance just cos they fancy you! You must be grateful for this !

Fuck that

Fark that

Fark 'em all

Women! Ignore your distaste! You must give all men a chance just cos they fancy you! You must be grateful for this!

God I know.

And what Cogito said about the problem not being the compliment, but the inferred insult to everyone else.

Exactly, AF. It's no wonder there are so many fucked up excuses for relationships on MN.

I agree with cogito. Op is not 'over thinking' a compliment, she is rightly concerned that this man thinks it is fine to just casually insult a whole multitude of women.

If he thought op was mighty fine he could have just said so. But what he did say reveals at least a streak of wankerdom. So avoid.

A compliment should be like a gift.

This compliment was like a gift handed over with the comment, "Do you like this? I spent lots. I spent more than Dave did on his girlfriend. Are you grateful? Are you?"

(I may have started on the too early)

Actually... serious point... a canary in the relationship mine is how someone treats others. They might pass it off as joking but if they think it's OK to casually insult or blame people, that's worth taking note of. "You have a great personality, not like my bitch of an ex....." ... "I like how you take pride in your appearance, you should see the mingers I have to work with".

Of course a compliment should not come with an insult to other women.

And: "I like your tights" isn't really profound or romantic or funny. It's sleazy.

Maybe he is at this very moment saying to himself "Doh! What a twat i was for saying that-now she will think I'm a creepy sexist pig."
God I must be drunk, I'm making excuses for men.

Went out with a bloke who said similar to me. Didn't see him again.

Entitled, ungallant and unnecessary comment IMHO.

Tip of the iceberg. Move on.

I would think that he is an angry man with failure issues. I have noticed that people with failure issues do this i.e. date doesn't call them back 'oh well she was fat anyway', job interview didn't go well 'oh it was a very nasty office' etc.

Maybe the women 'around there' didn't fancy him.

Yeah he sounds like a knob.

I just realised - My analysis was quite blokeish there actually according to cronull.

This would set my alarm bells ringing. It creeps me out when men you don't know comment on your figure. As another poster said, it makes you think if you put a few pounds on he'd soon tell you about it, and trust me that's no way to live