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How would you react to this?

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 19:49

I travelled for an hour to look after my beautiful grandbaby while her parents were unpacking after a move.

I left at 11.15 in the morning and got home at 7.15 this evening.

Sat down with a sandwich and changed the channel on the TV. OH went mad.

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AnyFucker · 28/04/2013 20:52

Do you like this bloke ?

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 20:56

Horrible, (love it!) that is EXACTLY what happened.

"Why the FUCK is this on? I want to watch X at 9 o'clock, you can't start watching that because I want to watch X'

'x' being totally 'meh' but something he has to see.

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Lueji · 28/04/2013 20:56

I always see him as some sort of Italian Mafia head.

WTH?

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 20:58

Hahahahaha, that is how he behaves! Nothing sinister

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Lueji · 28/04/2013 20:59

If the issue are programme times, can you record the programmes?

I think, at some point asap, you will have to tell him that he should watch out, or with these attitudes he'll be finding his way to the door.

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:00

He thinks he is the head of el familigio

me and 3 girlios

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Lueji · 28/04/2013 21:03

Yes, but what are his attitudes?

Is the screaming and the selfishness a common thing?

AnyFucker · 28/04/2013 21:05

Italian mafia ? This is a rationalisation ?

You mean he is an arrogant, sexist criminal ?

What a man-pleasing comment that is.

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:07

No, he's lovely as long as he's obeyed.

We are having a big problem with baby 3 because she is buying a cat. He's told her NOT to buy a cat as she can't look after it.

He says 'NO'
She says '......BUYING IT'

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:09

He's really not horrible, he just wants an easy life. He was born a century too late - and in the wrong country.

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AnyFucker · 28/04/2013 21:11

No excuse.

never mind, you seem to rather relish being told what to do by some man who thinks he is in charge.

meh

Lueji · 28/04/2013 21:11

No, he's lovely as long as he's obeyed.

Hmm

Great.

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:17

I don't relish it, I rage, but I can remember his father who was exactly the same - which is why I understand where he is coming from. I have my rages on here and I thank this site for that.

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AnyFucker · 28/04/2013 21:18

I think MN is doing you no favours at all if you rage on here and then go wheedling back to a man just to STFU in the face of his arrogance and inadequacy.

LaVolcan · 28/04/2013 21:19

Was he watching football? It was sacrosanct in my dad's house.
Changing channel while the match was on would have risked being hung, drawn and quartered.

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:23

But it is helping. Maybe MN should put another smiley which looks like a hamster wheel or something. If you see this sign it means that the OP has come on before, knows they're going nowhere, but are just raging.

The OP is learning in the responses.

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Snazzynewyear · 28/04/2013 21:25

He doesn't sound at all lovely. He sounds like an arrogant pain in the arse, to put it mildly. What specifically does he do that is lovely?

Do you run around looking after him and the house? What happens if you stop, eg you're ill or need a rest?

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:27

No way! I'm not stupid, it was not sport.

It was nothing at all, it was just the change of channel.

I feel mean now, but I know I'm reverting to norm.

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MrsIgglePiggle · 28/04/2013 21:29

OP, you sound very immature.

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:32

Snazzy. He runs the house, he does all the shopping and cleaning, has an excel sheet with all the bills on it. He can create graphs - IN A SECOND - to show how the price of milk has changed.
He is in control. I understand it makes him function, to be in control.

As I've said previously, he earns more than me just by lying on the sofa.

I just go to work and bring in money.

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 21:35

Why do you say that, Mrs IP?

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Snazzynewyear · 28/04/2013 21:39

So you just have to fit in with his way in all things? What are the compensations of that?

Do you fantasise about a life where you get to do things differently?

LisaMed · 28/04/2013 21:56

Isn't this the man you should have left three threads ago?

AnyFucker · 28/04/2013 22:01

OP, do an advance search on yourself and see what advice you would give if this were someone else posting.

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atosilis · 28/04/2013 22:03

Yes LisaMed, it probably is.

(Not that I have loads of men who need to leave but you might have read another thread.)

I think we have come to an unspoken agreement that we will share the house and care for our children. Just sometimes I get uber annoyed.

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