The golden rule for getting over a break up

[boyfromipinema]

So you've just been dumped....for whatever reason.
You're totally heartbroken but need to let go and move on.

What is the one golden rule you'd give to someone in this position?

I read a lot of posts by people in this situation, indeed I've posted about it myself.
I've also read a lot of the advice regarding looking after yourself and distractions, but I'd be interested to know what people think is the number 1 tip.

For me I'm only just turning that corner , but I'm starting to feel better so I would say
No contact , ever , no looking at their social media either , it just makes it harder
Good friends and time socialising , remembering how to have fun without them again
Distractions that make you feel good excersize , hobbies , a good book , keep busy as much as possible
A damn good cry now and again, sometimes it's ok to feel it, its cathartic!
Mainly time , though , an ex is an ex for a reason , if they were that grea and the relationship was all that you'd still be together.
Pp have also said why would you want to be with someone who isn't invested in you? That helped too.
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The number one rule is no contact. Not a word. No texting, no email. Delete and block all of their info. Do not look at their Facebook or other social media, and block them from yours.

Just a bump for this thread because I could do with some advice right now! (Ex?) bf is not providing me with closure - have explained why I am not happy and have asked to talk but he has gone quiet which I guess means that's that. Any stories of hope or advice would be very welcome

No contact.

No contact all the way. No matter how much you miss them or want to get your point across or achieve closure.
If kids are involved it's harder.
My narcissistic ex makes a big point of staying 'friends' with exes, partly because he has a nice guy image, partly because he likes the idea of women still hankering....
so he was very persistent with me. But after the early days of trying to reason with him I've batted off all his attempts to reel me back in and he's blocked everywhere.
It's been hard but it is a relief to be away from his intense and hurtful selfish presence.

Avoid contact. Accept that it will take time.

@newname333 go on youtube and watch Guy Winch's Ted Talk on healing a broken heart. It talks about closure...the only closure you can really get is just accepting that it's over. Regardless of the reason. You could be waiting forever and never get a response otherwise, thus delaying you moving on with your life.