Hmmm. I don't like this fancying someone business.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

Broke up with my DD's dad 3 years ago and hadn't fancied anyone since then. Plus 3 + years of our relationship plus when I had started like him few month before = 7 years out of the game. Now I like someone and it's getting stressful already.

I feel like an idiot. Was terribly disappointed earlier on that he's not coming to this evening's drinks . Then I feel crap because he doesn't probably fancy me in spite me fancying him only for a week or 10 days after knowing him for 2 years. And he just broke up with a girlfriend he didn't get along with for a while. How do I keep my cool? I'm 30!

I know starting, mine is a colleague of sorts too. Let us know when you rip his clothes off have a coffee with him outside work.

UPDATE

we are going for drinks this week! At how ling it took!

I can see no one cares about my flash like way of flirting!

Ah, that's very exciting. Congrats. Now, for outfit planning... Oh, this dating lark isn't easy at all.

The wirst thing is that I'm coming down with something I caught from DD! I feel I should be considerable and let him know in case he'd prefer to cancel.

How did the drinks plan come about? Did he do the asking?

I'm not going to give any advice because I hate it when I really fancy a woman. Just like every cliché in every love song I can't function normally at all, she's on my mind all the time. I just end up over-analysing everything she says and does, until I figure out a good time to ask for a date or a phone number, but to be honest there never is an ideal time to make a move on someone; it always feels bloody awkward.

It's annoying because I can flirt and chat up women I don't fancy fairly easily, but if I suddenly get a crush on someone then all my superpowers are completely taken away; including my ability to fly.

I think we should all chat up and ask out the people we don't fancy, then we won't care if they say "no" and if they say "yes" then we might end up fancying them after a while anyway.

Yes, come on, Drink, we need details.

I've just read all this thread and it really resonates with me. I'm in the midst of it currently and seem to have lost the ability to think normally. It's brain chemicals, right?

@ Pearls of wisdom from the male perspective corner! I sure bloody hope he felt stupid starting to fancy me as I did when I started to fancy him!

Re drinks plan, it was when I reminded him I owed him a small prize for a work related comp. i asked whether he'd like some beers or an hour if my time! He said he'd always live an hour of my time and that in that case he'd be more than happy to buy me a drink. Then some heavy flirting ensued, till I reminded him i'm NOW a lady that we haven't had that drink yet, nevermind me staying
Over! cue profuse apologies and now we're exchanging vefy friendly but very appropriate email. I'm that it makes me !

Just ask him out. Then you can move on depending on what he says!

Btw the hour of me time was work related! I'm a consultant of sorts!

the flirting included hints about you staying over?! My my.

I like your flirty opener about whether he would like beers or an hour of your time. His response showed definite interest too. Well done.

I just hope that the 3 months of faffing to get to this stage don't indicate a Mr Unavailable. A woman so witty and awesome as you come across really deserves a man to ask her out in less time than that!

EXCITE!!!

Thank you HotDAMN! Well, I don't know if he'a been interested for as long as I have. I'm hoping to find out when I see him. I think he had stuff going in re health and work and it got sorted recently. But that's only my impression.

Oh gosh, do I kiss him or not? I'd like him to come back for more!

Again, no advice as such, although I hope it all works out for you Drink and anyone else here in a similar position.

I do think though that everyone, men and women alike (despite how we behave), will feel and act like how we've been discussing in this thread when they have a serious crush.

Nobody wants to make a move first, because it would be a bit like showing everyone your cards in a game of poker and then pretending you haven't got the hand that they've all just seen. Once our crush knows we like them, we can't then pretend that we don't. They hold all the power against us and we are at their mercy emotionally; or at least that's what we fear.

Good luck Drink - hope it goes brilliantly.

MadeMan - your first post made me chuckle. That's so true about losing the ability to think rationally/behave normally when you're interested.

It's easy to forget that men find the whole thing anxiety inducing as well, especially since custom still tends to dictate that they make the first move.

MadeMan So good to read this from a man's perspective!

Hope he doesn't piss me off! As Chris Rock says: A woman knows within 5 minutes if she's going to fuck a man. Just as long he doesn't say anything stupid...

Love this thread, just read through it all! I became infatuated on Saturday for the 1st time in years! Just starting to recover tonight as I'm not getting flirty texts, well tonight I'm not getting any texts. At least I know that part of me still exists however annoying it is when it happens!!!

Better air out those cobwebs on your dried up cooch!

Oh gosh, that's another thing. I know even 7 years ago and before that, the fashion was to take it all off. And I preferred it that way. Now I don't fancy that short of general tidy up. Don't want to do something I, well, din't want to do but I'd like to warm his ears up at some point and in order to do that not scare him off beforehand.

What is EXCITE!!! Woodepeg?

I can see I scared people away with my very personal concern! And I was hoping for some male perspective too!