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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wondering Where The Spring For Their Boing Is!

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Mouseface · 24/03/2013 12:23

Hi I'm Mouse

One of the Brave Babes on the Bus, a Bus full of different posters, some who drink more than they'd like to and are trying to stop, some who don't drink at all now, and some who are somewhere in the middle. :)

There's no judging here, no finger pointing, no rejection, just pure, unconditional, (occasionally tough), love and empathy.

We all share stories of how we got here, to have our seat on the Bus, looking for our own personal sobriety, our own personal happiness. Sometimes we talk about other things too, you know, like cake, cheese Wink and even day to day life, life that can lead us to breaking point......... lead us to hit rock bottom.

So, why not come say hi, take a seat, post, lurk, whatever suits you :)

This is our latest journey with a link to others

And this is the reason we're ALL here, the first ever thread

Hope to see you soon :)

OP posts:
PurpleWolfe · 02/04/2013 20:18

Ma Give it your best shot Hun!! You have nothing to lose! Think of the autonomy you would have with that extra money. We all downplay our own assets and qualities. Do it - AND DO IT NOW!! Why - BECAUSE I SAY SO!! Grin I once went for a PA job that my friend had 'bigged' me up for (she worked for Blue Arrow at the time). This job was twice what I was earning and I only went because my friend is such a bully (in the best possible way!) and got the job!!! Do it, do it, do it! Post back on here when you have filled in the necessary paperwork. Get on with it now! xxxxx

ohcluttergotme · 02/04/2013 20:27

MA, do it, do it! Completely agree you've nothing to lose & as Faire said if your not right on paper they won't call you for interview. Maybe this is fate & would be your ticket to affordable freedom!

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greeneyed · 02/04/2013 21:32
FuzzyInTheMorning · 02/04/2013 21:43

Day 3, lurking a bit as on 4th beer :( trying to test myself...

FuzzyInTheMorning · 02/04/2013 21:43

Not going to work is it? X

venusandmars · 02/04/2013 22:00

ma if your friend sent you the job stuff, then it's because she knows you and she thinks that you can do it. And hey, was it not you who held the fort and had all the responsibility when your previous boss left (and I think you did it well).

I bet you could do the huge, vast majority of the job, and that if your back was against the wall you could do the rest too.

PurpleWolfe · 02/04/2013 22:01
venusandmars · 02/04/2013 22:06

Hi fuzzy, so what's the test? Do 4 cans of beer taste good? Do 4 cans of beer make you feel good? Do you feel happier at the end of 4 than you did at the end of 1? Could yopu stop after 1 or 2 or 3? Can you drink 4 cans and wake up feeling fine? Can you have 4 cans tonight and then drink none tomorrow?

(PS I used to be a scientist, so I want to know what you're testing before we comment on the results Grin )

Well actually there are still some thing you can test:
Do 4 cans of beer make you feel good? Answer: no
Can you drink 4 cans and wake up feeling fine? Answer: No
Can you have 4 cans tonight and then drink none tmorrow? Yes. Yes, Yes, YES, YES, YES!!!!!

The 4 cans tonight don't need to spoil things for tomorrow, you can start again, and try a different experiment:
Do I feel good going to bed sober? Do I feel pleased that I'm waking up with no trace of a hangover? Am I willing to try again for another day?

fullofhopefullness · 02/04/2013 23:07

Hi there - good luck to everyone and thx for good wishes earlier! Ive successfully navigated through day 1 in a happy way. Might have new book to recommend once ive finished it. I have a good feeling about its benefits - I will keep you posted on that.

determinedma · 02/04/2013 23:12

Hey green good to see you again

FuzzyInTheMorning · 03/04/2013 00:32

venus no it's shit but I have learnt something,I am definitely only Fuzzy when drunk, sober I am utterly boring...:( not even funny :) why??? Do I do this?? Honestly I need SLAA because I crave attention when drunk :( I am useless ...

FuzzyInTheMorning · 03/04/2013 00:34

Why??? Don't even like sex but crave attention?!!
Hate myself...

FuzzyInTheMorning · 03/04/2013 00:35

Too late to brush my teeth ?;)

FuzzyInTheMorning · 03/04/2013 00:38

I hate myself x

PurpleWolfe · 03/04/2013 09:03

Hey Fuzzy Looks like you had a bad time last night. Want to tell us a bit more about it? x

Lemonylemon · 03/04/2013 09:13

Morning all.....

DAY 1.

Fuzzy {{HUG}} You OK this morning?

ma You HAVE to go for the job!! Grin

purps how's the boy?

Isinde well done on winning your 3 hour battle with the ww...

curryeater · 03/04/2013 09:25

Morning. Well done isinde. Great night's work there from you.

Ma - I am waving pom poms for your job application. DO IT! If only so you have somewhere nice to go and meet new people while your husband mopes around at home ;)

Fuzzy, talk to us...?

Lemony, how are you?

hi venus, hi fullof, hi purple, hi everyone

Not doing so well here. Pissed off with dp. The house move is stressy, work is stressy, just feeling like everything is on top of me. I am going to get off mn, put some headphones on and crack through some tasks that I can cross off my list before timewaster boss gets here. I have 4 days off for the move and I can't cope with the way she comes and sits by my desk and EMOTES about things while I can feel work mounting up.

Please advise, wise babes: if a person is your boss and therefore has to be spoken to in a certain way, how would you phrase something to the effect of: "Do you have something in particular to say about this, because if not, I need to get on with something else?"

Right off to work, shoot me if I come back.

PurpleWolfe · 03/04/2013 09:38

Morning Lemony Huge luck on day one.

News from Purple Towers ain't good. I've picked DC up from their Dad's and it looks like DS1 also now has a sore starting in the corner of his mouth. Plus, I have a small 'spot' just under my nose which, I've just realised, has been there for days now and isn't clearing up! So, that's potentially three of us with this 'thing'! It's sounding more and more like impetigo. Table thumping starts at 11.20am today.

DD is in an odd mood. Think it must be the dog thing. Have hugged her lots and tried to be understanding.

I really need to try and get back on The Bus. I've been really crap recently. I keep telling myself 'Oh, once is over' I'll stop again but there always seems to be yet another ' ' to get past before I pull a stop to this madness. Was pleased that, although I cancelled my last appointment with the Alcohol Services nurse (DS2 to the docs took precedence), she phoned me to chase me up to make another appointment as soon as I get back from holiday. She was sympathetic about the abortive AA meeting but said that since I'm seeing her on the Wednesday, I can get to a meeting on the Tuesday (DC free evening) and report back to her at our appointment.

Have put all the weight back on that I lost before Christmas and feeling pretty shitty.

Fuzzy Let us know you are OK? x

PurpleWolfe · 03/04/2013 10:20

Curry Do you have a friend/colleague in the office who could watch out for your boss to approach you then 'phone you up. You could look up apologetically and say "Sorry, I have to take this"? Or,"Would you mind if we discussed this later as I'm a bit snowed under/busy at the moment" followed by a winning smile? Grin

You have my sympathy re: the move and stress. You are already making lists - which is great. How about trying to 'book' half an hour every day just for a bath, listening to music or reading something. The more relaxed you can get yourself, the more productive you'll be. When I'm stressed, I run round like a headless chicken and don't get nearly as much done. Good luck. x

Fairenuff · 03/04/2013 10:39

Curry how about saying something like 'Look I'd love to chat about this with you later but I really need to get on with work now, or my boss will be after me' hahaha and then get your head down.

If she doesn't take the hint be more specific - 'You know I've got time off for the move? Well I really need to get this done first, so I'd better crack on'. Smile. Get your head down. Repeat as often as necessary.

Fuzzy have a (((hug))). You know what, none of us are particularly funny when drunk. And some of us are downright embarrassing Grin

Water and paracetamol are waiting for you here on the bus. Or we could oil Barry if you prefer. By the way, is he still with us or did I miss the bit where he disappeared?

Hmm Hunts under seats for my mate Bazza

ohcluttergotme · 03/04/2013 10:47

Fuzzy, how are you feeling today honey? Thinking of you x
Yay lemony, climb aboard the bus, plenty space here beside me, good luck with Day 1.
Curry, feel your pain, I always have everyone at work coming up to me & have yet to discover a polite way to tell them to buzz off. I've got to go into work this Saturday to do a report even tho I'm on annual leave as too distracted & can't et it done when in work!!
Aw no purple, not sounding good with the rash spreading round you all, hope you can get something resolved before you go on holiday.

I've finished the Allen Carr book & he recommends that you have one final drink to say goodbye to booze. I've kinda not been wanting to do this as have not had a drink since the start of February but feel I've followed all he's said & thought better do this.
All I've got in the cupboard is sherry & Morgan's spiced. So like a compete lush just poured myself a shot of Morgan's spiced. Oh my god, it was vile I almost brought it back up instantly. I can see where he is coming from. That is a better memory for me to look back on than the champagne & rose wine I had at my friends at the start of February! It was so awful!
Good luck with today babes xx

guggenheim · 03/04/2013 14:03

Hi babes Just checking in. clutter WOW! I'm so impressed,A carr has really worked out for you Smile great news.
ma DO IT,DO IT,DO It! You are so worth it.

I feel weird,weird,weird today. Went to my meeting last night and it was just odd. It ended with a women making a really strange 'joke' to me at the end, after the meeting. I dunno. I've done 3 months and have no intention of drinking,so my stupid brain probably thinks I'm cured. I keep thinking,'I wasn't that bad, I don't need to be here' and then someone will say something odd and I start to think about skipping meetings. I've met some fantastic people too though. I dunno. I'll try going to a different meeting and see how that works out.

PurpleWolfe · 03/04/2013 14:14

Guggs Intrigued as to what the weird 'joke' was and why you feel weird. Care to expand? 3 months is totally bloody admirable - as is getting yourself to meetings!! You done amazingly! x

PurpleWolfe · 03/04/2013 14:25

(Brief update on the Purple family health for anyone still awake with the saga: Same Fucidin cream but this time with a mild steroid added. Hopefully swab results back tomorrow - then maybe a more focussed medical approach. Plus £60 supermarket vouchers from XMIL for our holiday next week! Lovely gesture but I can't help thinking - guilt money?! Grin )