Hi
Just wondering how often people have sex when you've been together and have kids?
We've been together 6 years, have 2 kids.
What is 'normal' ?
Pretty fed up of lack of action and have been for about 4 years! Had every discussion under the sun about it. He makes no effort yet tells me he does want to have to sex with me. He's just asleep on the sofa every night!
Any time I make a nice meal, but some wine, get dressed up and ask if we can have a 'nice' evening together he either gets bladdered on the wine and falls asleep or we argue about why there's no sex.
It got that its about 3-4 times a year!!!
His excuse is he is tired all the time. I've had numerous conversation about making time for it and if it has to be scheduled in then so be it and he agrees then its never mentioned again. Years ago he blamed it on medication he was taking, he's not on that anymore. Then he blamed it having 'issues' which he saw a counsellor about, the counsellor determined he had no issues. Now it's back to being tired.
I've told him that I refuse to stay in a sexless relationship and an sick of living like a retiree when I'm 30 yrs old.
He's not cheating etc and its not that be doesn't find me attractive - I'm sure of that. It's just laziness and him being prudish.
And he's not gay as while I was pregnant with DD2 I discovered his new Internet porn addiction that had been going on for months all the while paying me no attention.
He does not communicate at all and I'm sick to death of trying, I feel like I have to beg for a sex life.
This post started off as an enquiry about how often people have sex... It has fast become a rant, sorry!