Just told him I'm leaving......

[mammadiggingdeep]

well, hoped I'd never be writing my own post like this :(

I have found he's cheated, pretty obvious and evidence too. He's denying even though it's clearly undeniable. Anyway, relationship was bad for a while so icing on the cake for me.

We are not married, been together 7 years, joint mortgage and 2 dc, 2years and one who is 8 months.

He is angry at the moment and is threatening all sorts.....selling house immediately, only dealing with access through solicitors etc. I wanted to keep it civil and reasonable.

What is the normal amount of access, I was thinking every other weekend and a night in week?? Isn't this usual? I'm main carer (do everything!!!), work 3 days but am on mat leave at moment. He works full time.

Please can you tell me what would happen if he did get solicitors involved??? Have any of you had similar experience of someone arguing about access before anythings even been sorted?!

[mammadiggingdeep]

Thankyou!! Xxx

[badinage]

Another bit of evidence to disprove the myth that he loves his kids then eh?

Don't get into a text war with him.

It might be worth buying a cheap PAYG just for communication with him so your own phone isn't infected with this drivel. But stick to facts about the kids and the divorce and don't get into discussing the whys and wherefores of your relationship.

He shouldn't be coming into the house at all. Even a BF baby can be taken out for short times.

[aPseudonymToFoolHim]

Sorry, not read whole thread, but just wanted to say that ime solicitor will suggest every other weekend and one eve in the week he doesn't have them.
But be aware that Legal Aid for divorce/family is due to run out at the end of this financial year.

[badinage]

[StuffezLaBouche]

Oh dear.