Dating chat thread 46

[lubeybooby]

all dating related chit chat here!

off we go

[ike1]

Have got around to messaging Mr Herbalist this morning ...he seems nice and is very new to dating..will probs see him next week.

[JulietteMontague]

Ike coolio (have no idea where that came from)

Pixie no he needs to show some respect for your feelings. I'm a shouter, I try and control it but I would never tell someone to chill out if it upset them I would apologise and try harder to keep it down.

'Chill out' is in fact the sort of thing that sends me into orbit, its up there with 'you've lost your sense of humour' He spends a lot of time at yours which should be lovely, I hope he hasn't tried moody or shouted in front of DC, he is a guest in your home ffs.

[OhWesternWind]

Oh dear, Pixie, I'm not sure I like the sound of all that. It is not on for him to shout at you, however angry he might be feeling, it really isn't. And him getting cross when you try to talk to him is not a good sign, either, nor is the dismissive "Chill out" stuff. I don't want to sound all doom and gloom because like you say there is a lot of good stuff there and no-one is perfect, but it seems like you have a few concerns about his behaviour. I don't know what to suggest really - normally I would say try talking to him, but you have and that hasn't worked, so it seems like a choice between whether you are prepared to put up with him as he is, or not. The fact that he doesn't take your concerns seriously enough to have a proper grown-up conversation about them is probably the biggest problem here and that doesn't necessarily bode well for the future.

Ike go get him before he gets contaminated by all the sweet-shoppy nonsense OD stuff.

[48howdidthathappen]

I am an ex shouter I hope. LTR involved lots. My 'orbit' was 'you didn't tell me that'. I so bloody did!
Mr R&R is silly sod for the most part, but when I spit my dummy out he texts 'Can we have a nice calm chat?' Difficult to refuse

[48howdidthathappen]

Same here Wine not bothered at all about having a smear. Just gotta get my act together.

[JulietteMontague]

48 yes 'you didn't tell me that' is up there, like it's our duty to tell the obvious. It is incredible how someone actually listening properly really helps diffuse any situation properly too, I had one ex who took no notice of me shouting and he would say 'Juliette, why are you talking to me like that' . Stopped my in my tracks every time, and eventually I stopped shouting altogether -with him--.

[MirandaWest]

Been having the sort of day where I'm chasing round all the time. And legs very worn out after last nights run. Feel lethargic and clumsy. Was cycling back home before and realised there were lots of cars at school and realised it was an assembly parents can go to. Luckily it started late so I was there.

Then DD had gym club so been backwards and forwards to school. Now properly home and going to have a bath. In the daylight

[lubeybooby]

No reply from TT to the further explanation and plea. Oh friggin' joy. why be so good for a while and then turn major asshole on me? He was really good with the looking after thing and all that. Oh well... time to write that off I suppose. The money I mean, he was written off a while ago...

[OhWesternWind]

Neighbour has cancelled on me for drinks tonight. Don't mind actually as I am totally knackered. Early night planned.

[KinNora]

Pixie not sure you should be tolerating someone shouting at you and making you unhappy, no matter how difficult his shift pattern is.

48, sorry to hear about the further delays with your mum and stop bloody finishing with Mr R&R, he's a sweetie.

Ike, hope Mr Herbalist is a winner.

So this afternoon I've booked my vair posh hotel in Mr Software's home city, he's offering to meet me at the railway station which is very sweet of him but for one thing I don't want him thinking he's deffo getting his leg over and for another, I was hoping for a bit of me time, loafing about in the roll top bath, lying around eating chocolates on the Egyptian cotton sheets and watching QVC on the flat screen.
I am also meeting Weird Coincidence Man for coffee tomorrow morning. We are so not going to like each other, I feel it in my water. In the meantime I'm all smiley every time Mr Showbiz texts, no doubt I'll meet him and he'll have all the allure of Richard Stillgoe.

[KinNora]

Oh and yes, Lubey, how very disappointing that TT has turned into a knobber.

[lubeybooby]

Oooh Kin! That's exactly what I did a lot of in my vair posh hotel. Loafing. And eating chocolate in those beds, with those sheets... omg. so nice. Enjoy :o

[mercury7]

It's very disappointing Lubey, I suppose it just goes to show that talk is cheap and money is...money

[KinNora]

Oh how lovely, Lubey, I love a bit of decadence, me.

[MirandaWest]

I am also knackered. Think I will blame Mr Nice who has been having the temerity to message me when he gets in from a nice day out at about 5 his time and midnight mine. I have to go to sleep before this happens

[WarmFuzzyFun]

Hi thread 46



I'm okay, am part time lurking due to laziness and inability to keep up with events properly to post.

Less sure of man with bad teeth as during the course of texting he seems to do this thing where he makes a 'joke' which I don't find funny, then he carries on with 'joke' and then when I tell him I am unhappy, bewildered etc he says 'I was just joking'. But I feel he has a cruel side to him, why continue a joke when it is clear that the person with whom you are 'joking' is no longer enjoying it?

KinNora enjoy that hotel girl and the events (ie men) you have lined up. Of course I am and

[WarmFuzzyFun]

Oh and have never miss a smear. Take care of yourself, you wouldn't be neglectful of your children's (or anyone else you cared about for that matter) appointment would you?

[WarmFuzzyFun]

missed a smear

[JulietteMontague]

WFF are you going to meet him? I think he either gets the boot or you meet up asap to see the teeth what he is like in person.

Kin how lovely! you'll have a great time.

[KinNora]

Thank you WFF and Juliette, I'll be making every effort to enjoy myself

[WarmFuzzyFun]

Juliette, should be this weekend, but although he has been texting/mailing me all afternoon he hasn't mentioned meeting up which was/is scheduled for Sunday. So I am a bit 'meh' about the whole thing.

I just have a feeling that he is not a compassionate person, which is essential non negotiable personality trait for me.

Oh and well done for losing some much weight, it isn't easy to do especially (if I may be so bold) at 'our' age, so bloody well done

[WarmFuzzyFun]

so much weight

[48howdidthathappen]

Kin Three lined up. Hope at least one turns out nice shaggable
Enjoy your hotel stay