I'm sorry but this is re: my relationship with MIL.
We have quite an uneasy relationship but we have both had to get on with it, as DH and I have been together 15 years. Although we live close to each other we only really see her about 6 or so times a year. She is known for her "dizziness" which means she says quite unpleasant/hurtful things followed by a laugh which means you are supposed to laugh along iyswim.
Anyway, the reason I am writing this is that this latest bout of dizziness has made my two DCs very upset. They are 6 and 8 and heard that Grandma was coming for a visit and got excited. She arrived, they answered the door and were all "Grandma!", all happy and cheerful. She responded by guiding them out of the way so she could walk forward through them and said "Oh I'm don't want to see you two, I'm hear to see my son! You are not so special you know and XXXX is always going to be my favourite". tinkly laugh She then saw me and said "Oh no, I am in trouble now, Mummy heard me then, wonder what she will tell Daddy?!". XXXX is another grandchild.
The DCs were both taken aback and well, quite upset asking her why she doesn't want to see them. She did her laugh again and told them they shouldn't question an adult. Anyway, as it was, I decided to take them out so she could see her DS without us being around. I didn't flounce but just suggested the park. I know if I had stayed I would have said something and wanted to avoid another arguement. DH says its just the way she is, which is fine but when she upsets the DCs with her comments I think it just goes to far.
So, do I just accept that it is just how she is or do I have a conversation with her re: the above? I accept that me as an adult can deal with any comments put to me but it has really upset the DCs that their Gran doesn't want to see them.