our "family" =
partner of 9 years, workaholic, well paid;
me, home maker, no job, debt up to my eyeballs;
son, wonderful, amazing, even loves primary school.
Since the birth of our DS 6 years ago, I've been the principal carer, while DP pursued his career. Our finances have never been merged. So while DP's career has progressed and he has attained increasingly better paid roles, I have been living off my dwindling savings. Expenses for DS are shared. All other expenses have been met jointly from our separate bank accounts.
Two years ago my savings ran out. Although well educated and experienced, I have been unable to find paid work despite very significant efforts. I'm now in considerable financial difficulties. My DP's response to these circumstances has been to provide me with no assistance or support. Now I don't even have money for food for myself, although food for family meals is bought by DP when he gets round to it.
He's a workaholic. Treats the house as a hotel. When I raised the issue of money, he said that it was my mess and my responsibility to find a solution. He offered to pay me £20 per week to reflect my contribution to family life: raising our DS, doing all the cooking and cleaning.
He's mean, moody, and constantly angry.
The thought of me leaving my son is impossible. But as I have no financial means to support him, the prospect of taking my son from his father is a pipe dream.
Entirely unsure what to do apart from put up with the role of slave while pretending to a six yr old that their father is a nice person.
Any advice would be most welcome. TIA.