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Would you let your babysitter bring her boyfriend along to babysit with her?

37 replies

Blowin · 21/02/2013 22:48

We have known her and her parents since she was a kid, she is 18 now, a lovely girl and v responsible.

She has asked us if her boyfriend can come round tomorrow night when she is babysitting for us? I am tending to think this is probably ok, what do you all think?

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Flisspaps · 21/02/2013 22:51

I would

sarahseashell · 21/02/2013 22:52

depends if you mind them shagging on your sofa? Grin

MajesticWhine · 21/02/2013 22:55

Yes it would be ok with me

Pourquoimoi · 21/02/2013 22:55

I would but I'd be very vague about when we'd be home so they'd be too worried about us interrupting to start anything Smile

littleblackno · 21/02/2013 22:56

I told my babysitter not to get pg on my sofa - she's never forgiven me for being more embarassing than her mother!
Can you meet him 1st? I would think it's ok if you know and trust her.

DeafLeopard · 21/02/2013 23:01

So long as you're ok with them shagging

DewDr0p · 21/02/2013 23:10

I was OK with this idea but Victorian dh said no. For the shagging reason.

How long has she been with the bf? Have you met him? Do her parents know/like him? Dh's other, more rational, reason for saying no was that we didn't know the guy from Adam and that she might be distracted with him there.

In your shoes I don't think I'd be too worried but I would say I might be home early Grin

salvadory · 21/02/2013 23:18

No, it's not the shagging that'd be a worry (well not too much!), its the fact that I wouldn't be comfortable with an unknown 18 year old boy being round my kids. Probably being over careful, can you meet him first?

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Blowin · 21/02/2013 23:20

just realise this is in relationships, meant to post it in chat, oh well! Thanks for replies, yes the parents know and like him, and they have been together a while now. my dh is not as keen, but deferring to me to call it. I think i will say yes, but be vague as to return time.

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Blowin · 21/02/2013 23:21

Cross posted Salva - I doubt we will get to meet him until he arrives with her tomorrow eveining as he is coming straight from college.

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Helltotheno · 21/02/2013 23:22

Tbh there are a lot of depends for me but actually, if my dd did regular babysitting, I'd be annoyed if she put the people she was babysitting for in the position of this having to be a dilemma for them. I'd be advising her against it. Can't they just get together another night somewhere else?

nowwearefour · 21/02/2013 23:23

We were asked this and said no as we hadnt met him. She was fine and never asked again.

JackieTheFart · 21/02/2013 23:25

Knowing what I did with my boyfriend at that age....no Grin

No I would actually. Why would you be vague on return time? Do you want to catch them in the act?

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Blowin · 21/02/2013 23:27

god no, i dont want to catch them doing anything, so by not knowing when to expect me home they will keep clothed!

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AnyFucker · 21/02/2013 23:29

that sounds ok to me

make a lot of noise when you get home though Smile

chickenfactory · 21/02/2013 23:41

I remember my babysitter brought her boyfriend when I was young, my brothers just used him as a something to jump on. He would have been too knackered to do anything after.

GW297 · 21/02/2013 23:42

No, she is being paid to look after your children and that is her focus. It will also mean he turns up every time! You need to feel comfortable leaving her in your home with your children and for your children to feel comfortable too.

onedev · 21/02/2013 23:44

I'd say no as otherwise he'll be there everytime she babysits & you'll struggle to say no next time! I know what I was like at that age babysitting, so it's definitely shag time!! Grin

ImperialBlether · 21/02/2013 23:59

I'd say yes, but wouldn't say what time I was coming home.

People are scared of 18 year old boys, but 99% of them are lovely.Well, OK, 95%!

LittleEdie · 22/02/2013 00:02

She's working. It would be a no from me.

TolliverGroat · 22/02/2013 00:05

Given your first paragraph, yes. In general for a babysitter who didn't tick most of those boxes, no.

TDada · 22/02/2013 07:14

How old are your children.

Timetoask · 22/02/2013 07:20

No I wouldn't.

JollyRedGiant · 22/02/2013 07:24

I would. But I know my babysitter well, and her boyfriend. They have bought a house and are moving in together later this year.

BlingLoving · 22/02/2013 07:31

I let mine bring him. Realistically, she's just there in case ds has a crisis in the night and is sitting watching tv so may as well do it with someone. If she was putting ds to bed etc I'd probably ask her to get bf to arrive after bed simply because it would over excite ds to have a stranger around but even that I'd be flexible on as I know mine very well and frankly feel I have to trust her to have a boy in the house who isn't going to steal things.