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Would you let your babysitter bring her boyfriend along to babysit with her?

37 replies

Blowin · 21/02/2013 22:48

We have known her and her parents since she was a kid, she is 18 now, a lovely girl and v responsible.

She has asked us if her boyfriend can come round tomorrow night when she is babysitting for us? I am tending to think this is probably ok, what do you all think?

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Sunnysummer · 22/02/2013 08:14

No, because I remember what it was like when my babysitting friends and I had boyfriends over when babysitting back in the day! At that age/stage it's hard to focus on anything and anyone else when you're around your other half, and for many young people who live at home, the nights of babysitting are a good chance to spend some 'personal time'. That said, we never had any trouble, and some girls and guys could certainly be totally trustworthy...

toffeelolly · 22/02/2013 08:16

Yes it would be ok with me .

clam · 22/02/2013 08:52

OK, so you might make a lot of noise as a warning when returning, but what if one of your dcs wakes and goes downstairs to find them at it on the sofa?

Springsister · 22/02/2013 08:57

Our sitter asked this. I told her I'd prefer not. We are paying her to focus on the kids not her oh.
She was fine about it.

expatinscotland · 22/02/2013 09:00

NO. She's being paid to look after the kids. It's a job. She can boink her boyfriend somewhere else.

BardOfBarking · 22/02/2013 09:18

I wouldn't - I am paying her to work and although that usually requires little more than relaxing on the sofa with the TV on - it's still paid work. I don't take my boyfriend into work with me. I think it gives a strange idea about what babysitting is.

Whocansay · 22/02/2013 10:08

I wish I could shag my fella at work!

I'd also go with no. She needs to have her attention on the children.

Airwalk79 · 22/02/2013 10:17

I would say yes. Then I'd tell them both that the children have taken to creeping downstairs after bedtime, (evil grin) so if there gonna get to it then check there asleep first! And don't leave a wet patch on my sofa/ rug!

Airwalk79 · 22/02/2013 10:18

2rebecca · 22/02/2013 10:37

I would, and did when mine were younger. I also used to take my boyfriend round as a babysitter. Anything to keep a good babysitter happy.

fedupwithdeployment · 22/02/2013 10:46

I think I'd be ok with this.

Slightly different, but our AP (male) has his long term gf over at the moment for a long weekend. They have taken boys to the park....boys think it is great having 2 APs !! I would trust him not to do anything inappropriate in front of them.

guanosoup · 22/02/2013 10:48

When I was 17, the woman I babysat for told me I could bring my boyfriend round and use her bed 'if I wanted too!' as I was young and bashfull, I politely declined her kind offer...

Another night she came home with a lad who was in the year below me at school.

I don't think I would be that comfortable with a lad I didn't know distracting her from her job.

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