Online dating. Arranged to meet for a coffee. I got there a few minutes early, so just got my coffee and went and sat at a table to wait. I got a text from him saying he would be a couple of minutes late. 30 minutes later, no sign of him. I then got a text from him asking "You still coming?". I replied that I'd been there half an hour already, had had my coffee and was thinking of going home. He replied "Where are you?" and I replied that I was sitting at a corner table facing the entrance. 5 minutes later, still no sign of him, so I got up and started to make my way out. I get quite nervous meeting new people and this just threw me, as I thought he'd stood me up.
I bumped into him on the way out and it was a bit awkward, he started saying he had waited by the entrance doors to catch me on my way in. I said I didn't have that much time now, but we could maybe get a quick coffee. I must have pissed him off by sounding a bit reluctant/uncertain, because he started umming and ahhing when I said this, so I just walked off.
No text from him to apologise or explain, nothing. Was I being a bit impatient or would others have done the same? I did have to be somewhere afterwards.
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Zilvernblue · 18/02/2013 15:59
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YANBU.
As you noted early on when you were texting, he seemed a bit off then, as if not really picking up appropriate social cues, not making you comfortable.
I reckon in online dating (hell make that LIFE 
) this is a good skill to have? Trust your instincts, don't stifle them.
You don't need to be too rigid and expect it to look a certain way or for his first message to be an invitation to a Michelin starred restaurant, but look for the tone not the text. If you're feeling hmmmmmmmmmmmm then often it's for a reason! Suspect even if this meet had gone through Ok he'd have been a bit weird further down the line.
For the record, I think for EVERYONE the online dating experience throws up some weirdos and slightly uncomfortable encounters on the way to the good ones, it's not just you. Just keep on moving, keep learning, and don't take the weird ones personally 
He thought you'd stand outside for well over half an hour? And some posters here think you should have done?
WTF?
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