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New beginning. Dating thread 41

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lubeybooby · 11/02/2013 23:22

Dating chit chat here :)

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ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:24

Perhaps OWW ...he is Cordelia to your King Lear...

OhWesternWind · 14/02/2013 19:24

Excellent attitude Keep. I've never been brave enough to ask anyone out so I think you're admirable for doing it at all.

ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:24

Snort .....me neither Merc...I dont seem to inspire sentiments...

mercury7 · 14/02/2013 19:26

I think compliments and gestures need to be considered on a case by case basis..with some people it's like getting blood out of a stone..others will gush to all and sundry

ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:29

Yeah ...its getting the moment and the words just right...tricky... Thing is OWW you are just getting to know each other so he is not going to be able to judge the words appropriately yet...

keepcalmandkickon · 14/02/2013 19:30

Thanks OWW! My ex used to buy these massive, massive cards for valentines day, really over the top (and not my thing at all) but inside he would write simply "To keepcalm, love from keepcalm ex" - it looked so strange in such a big card! I think his logic was that it was size that mattered!

OhWesternWind · 14/02/2013 19:31

My ex used to write loads of guff about his undying love whilst shagging various unsavoury women behind my back. I suppose I'd just got used to that level of guff as "normal" for card messages.

In LM's card, I wrote a (bad) joke about cheese then said I love you, so not too cringeworthy.

Snapespeare · 14/02/2013 19:33

Ugh. Fb message from ex-after-kids-dad about how wrong he was to 'lose' me.

Ugh. Ugh. Ugh

Contemplating sending nameless a bra-shot. Not sure if I am that sort of woman. S funny. had absolutely no problem in sending filth pics to the prof before I shagged him. This feels different.

mercury7 · 14/02/2013 19:35

Keepcalm, should he have have used a big thick marker pen and written in huge capitals?
or cut letters from a newspaper headline...just to add a frisson of menace:o

ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:36

Mmmm dunno Snape...I'd hang fire on that until you know him a bit better...

OhWesternWind · 14/02/2013 19:37

I am going to send LM some pants pix seeing as he sent me a pants card. Haven't done anything like this before!! So if it were me Snaoe I might wait ... Ugh to FB message. Crap.

mercury7 · 14/02/2013 19:44

I dunno about sending rude pictures.

I sent some (fairly tasteful) 'arty' naked pics to an fwb a couple of days ago, because he seemed to be hinting, he said he had certain images of me 'firmly fixed' in his mind and he wished he had a picture.
he seemed to be very pleased when he got them, but what if he was actually cringing and just being polite? Confused

OhWesternWind · 14/02/2013 19:46

No I bet he loved them Merc!

I wish my body were nice enough to do proper nude photos but no way never.

48howdidthathappen · 14/02/2013 19:47

OWW Yes his actions are what matter I reckon.

I don't think I could ever send a revealing pic. Crikey! have I have come over all prudish Shock

JulietteMontague · 14/02/2013 19:49

mercury he'll have loved them. He is not hoing yo have seen them with a critical eye and had hinted so whats's not to like? I once watched on cam as a long distance bf opened a pic I'd sent. He couldn't even speak properly Wink

ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:49

Yeah when I was a size 6/8 I might have done it....but am a stone heavier now...not so sure.

Snapespeare · 14/02/2013 19:49

Yeah, bra shot is on the back burner. Feeling a bit porky tonight (inhales mashed potato) it was a very vague idea, but as I said, feels different.

VelvetSpoon · 14/02/2013 19:50

Snape, ignore FB message. Don't even bother replying to Ex.

And I agree maybe hold fire on the photo to Nameless.

It's a funny thing, I have sent somewhat risque photos of myself to men in the past (underwear and lots of cleavage, baths with lots of bubbles, that kind of thing) but I can't see myself doing that with Cuthbert at all now even though I did send him something along those lines before our date in December. Which I think is maybe a bit weird of me...!

mercury7 · 14/02/2013 19:51

well bear in mind they were quite carefully posed so as to be flattering
it seems a bit of a 'narcissistic' thing to do..and also a bit pointless when there is so much way more explicit stuff on the net.

I sent one to another 'friend' and he sad thanks but he really wanted something with me wearing boots Hmm

JulietteMontague · 14/02/2013 19:51

ike pah, I think I was a 14 at the time, we are women not porn stars.

ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:52

I just cant get a decent pic out of the camera of me though Jules...clothes on or off

OhWesternWind · 14/02/2013 19:52

Interestingly, LM's friend keeps posting cryptic angsty statuses on FB yesterday and today - not her usual style at all ...

ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:52

...at the mo

JulietteMontague · 14/02/2013 19:54

That was meant to be 'not looking at you with a critical eye'.

ike1 · 14/02/2013 19:55

Oh Western ...I reckon she has had her cover blown that's all...it will calm down in a bit.