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New beginning. Dating thread 41

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lubeybooby · 11/02/2013 23:22

Dating chit chat here :)

OP posts:
EternalRose · 13/02/2013 14:41

Just letting you all know I have namechanged....

Old name began with Mi

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EternalRose · 13/02/2013 14:43

Bant - something tells me you are not too disappointed..

x

EternalRose · 13/02/2013 14:46

Ahhhhhh I can tell I have been texting a lot lately, I have gone back to putting the nonobligatory 'x' at the end of my posts...

VelvetSpoon · 13/02/2013 14:49

Voice, I'm not exactly happy with it. However I don't see any way round it. We both have dc, and other commitments, I haven't been in this position before. I guess it was always going to be tricky.

VoiceofUnreason · 13/02/2013 14:58

Velvet - all you can do is see how it goes, I guess. As time progresses you'll probably feel whether you can carry on like that - whether the positives outweigh the negatives, that it's worth the trickiness and juggling. If they don't, then you may have to chat about it and see if there are solutions.

smoothieooo · 13/02/2013 15:00

Hi all - it's bloody hard to keep up with you all, but lots going on I see.

Sorry you're feeling low Juliette - it sounds like the phone thing was a last straw. Perhaps you could do what I'm considering - growing a fringe so that you can have 'This Too Shall Pass' tattooed backwards on your forehead so you can lift said fringe and read in every passing mirror?

I have - gasp! - a date on Sunday. Seemingly nice man who's 50 (the oldest bloke I will ever have met in a dating sense and I'm 45 42). Feel about 'meh' about it sadly. Found a Christmas card last week addressed to bastard STBEx and his girlfriend. Even though he's 'not seeing anyone'. The the same day he pocket-dialled me and I had to listen to a 20 min conversation between him and his girlf. Ridiculous how much it hurts even when you know they are big, crappy bags of shite.

On the plus side though, I made cracking pancakes last night which the DC loved!

Secretservice · 13/02/2013 15:02

Thought I'd better some work after my wallow!
lulu I too have a big dog, but fortunately ex has never come close to hitting me. But it dies make it harder to get him out of the house.

I have been repeating, was it Snape's?, motto 'all will be well' over and over, which did interfere with work concentration a little!

Sorry that you're pissed off, too Juliette, I hope it's just a yearning for spring in us all. Maybe we should preempt it and organise something sort of dating thread date, give us all something to look forward to!

My knicker draw has been completely updated in the past few months. Gone are the nursing bras - youngest is 12 next month [shame] - and I now have four sets of matching underwear with varying amounts of material in them!

JulietteMontague · 13/02/2013 15:06

Smoothie yes that's it really, lots of things here poorly elderly Mum who lives 3 hours away and can't remember the beginning of a sentence, DS still upset after I was vile to him last weekend, had to endure a couples party on Sunday whilst being ignored in case I stole a husband, one close friend gone awol and the other has her own troubles. Off to eat worms by myself obvs because its my pity party and no one will come anyway.

Scrazy · 13/02/2013 15:13

Velvet, I would be OK with it for now. Is there a chance if you get closer that your DS's can meet him or you his children?

Scrazy · 13/02/2013 15:15

Hmm, sushi, just eaten a box. Got a creme egg for later. A can of vodka and orange and pear cider. I'm snowed in but who cares Grin

ike1 · 13/02/2013 15:21

Would like to say that session at the gym made me feel better...but no feel vaguely nauseous now. Must step it up again!!

Should have known it would be you 48 with the crackin undies suggestion.

Hugs to Jules...Ill come love but you may not like my music taste or insistence on Tartex n Soreen. Gonna clean the house now.....................booooooorrrrring!!!!!!

ike1 · 13/02/2013 15:22

Feisty today !

VoiceofUnreason · 13/02/2013 15:24
Grin
ike1 · 13/02/2013 15:24

Oh and Bant the phrase 'WHATEVER' was made for your situation with Lolgirl it seems.

JulietteMontague · 13/02/2013 15:49

Bant who knows with LOLgirl. I hope the signing thing is bearable tomorrow, at least you will have DCs with you.

Ike I like the Stranglers.

OhWesternWind · 13/02/2013 16:04

Blimey, Bant so the village telegraph was well and truly operational! Still, that's solved that one and sounds like you've got a good evening planned. Hope it all goes well tomorrow. The phrase, at least chez OWW, Ike is WHATEVS.

Juliette I hate phoning them, not good on the phone at all and of course there's the danger of getting trapped with some witless wonder like you did. Hope you're feeling a bit brighter soon. There's some kind of negative woo in the air at the moment isn't there.

Velvet, well that does sound a bit difficult. How old are his dc? There could be the opportunity to go round to each other's houses eventually when you have the children round, once you've been seeing each other a bit. It does get easier - I'm now happy to have LM round at mine and vice versa at least for part of the evening, and we have some days out with the children which is a bit frustrating in some ways but lovely in others.

Smoothie - tell us more about your date . . .

Rose I'm really dim but I don't know who you used to be. Help!

Now engaged in sporadic but pleasant chat with LM's friend about snow and school closures. All is well.

Think I am going to go online tonight and stay well away from FB messenger look for some more nice underwear of a stomach-concealing variety.

Snapespeare · 13/02/2013 16:24

if you find some good undies, let me know. I'll see you in style and beauty for one of my infrequent sneaky looks. Wink

EternalRose · 13/02/2013 16:25

I was middy, although I dont know if I have just made my namechange pointless by saying that..

EternalRose · 13/02/2013 16:26

Marks & Sparks do some amazing stomach-sucking-in-type things. You may not be able to breathe though.

MirandaWest · 13/02/2013 16:29

It is snowing. I hope it really does warm up tomorrow and all goes away as I do not want anything to go wrong with the weekend away Mr Nice and I are having. May be getting a little excited Grin

mercury7 · 13/02/2013 16:43

re undies, elle McPherson has some nice camisoles
www.figleaves.com/uk/product/MC-E19-696A/Elle-Macpherson-Intimates-Spree-Camisole/?size=&colour=Black

I have this in bright pink...not as good as a basque but I cant abide anything restrictive or tight Blush

mercury7 · 13/02/2013 16:44

oops
link

VelvetSpoon · 13/02/2013 16:47

Western the problem is he lives with his parents - and I don't think (given that I know he pays a considerable amount to both exw's) that there is any chance of him getting his own place in the short term.

My children are both secondary school age, as are 2 of his (the other is I think in year 4). I can't envisage him coming round while the DSs are here for a long time, DS1 is up til midnight or later most nights, and I know he would take a man being 'around' fairly badly.

Its tricky. When I met my ex DS1 was a toddler, so all this stuff wasn't an issue. Cuthbert has never dated anyone with their own children. I didn't give much thought to logistics, but I think it will take some effort...

mercury7 · 13/02/2013 16:51

Miranda!!try and keep calm!
most importantly dont be too excited to sleep cuz you probably wont get much over the weekend

MirandaWest · 13/02/2013 17:03

There is a chance of that Grin.

Mr nice doesn't know where we are going - have told him when to meet me at the station on Friday :) am quite impressed I have kept it a secret for two months.

Will try to keep calm (ish). Doesn't help that I haven't seen him since last Thursday and normally see him every Thursday night when XH has DC but am not this week as ill be away three nights and like seeing my DC as well :)

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