Today I am going to dump my boyfriend

[freddiemercuryismine]

Hold my hand please.

He's a lovely lovely man I love the bones of him. But the relationship is never going to work and I need end it. He gets back from a work trip today and will phone me to let me know he's home and I am going to dump him.

Thanks folks this is terribly self indulgent whinging I am coming to the conclusion that I am so conflicted that I need to just put the whole thing on the back burner in terms of not over-thinking it and letting it be in my head so much and just see what happens. But that's not my natural state of mind!

Have you spoken to him freddie? I think you said you were going to speak last night as he'd just got back from a trip?

Yes very briefly last night. I chickened out of any kind of a deep conversation (he was tired, I was tired, it was just not the right time).

Fair enough. When will you next see him?

In a few weeks. I think it's probably better to have a proper conversation face to face?

Once the DCs are out of school yes I would move in a heartbeat.

No he wouldn't look for a job with less travel

We have discussed a future, but it's a long way away, at least 4/5 years for various reasons.

Is he in the forces or does he work for a UK-based company where he travels a lot (eg international sales)? (Just wondering why he can't contact you.)

How far away from you is he when he's in the UK?

No relationship is perfect. Many have to work around working away, forces etc. Mine works away but he's only at the end of a phone and there's FaceTime etc. If you've got a good one, and there really is potential for things to change, hang on to him. Good men and good relationships don't come along many times in a lifetime in my experience, and you could massively regret ending this, if he's everything you say.

It's years old just.

A spammer just bumped it.