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Welcome to The Dating Thread. Number 40.

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JulietteMontague · 08/02/2013 17:39

The next chapter...

OP posts:
watchoutforthatsnail · 10/02/2013 22:12

oh, same velv, same. it doesnt make much sense.

JulietteMontague · 10/02/2013 22:12

Strongly recommend outsourcing the children childcare.

OP posts:
Nomorepain · 10/02/2013 22:13

I will bring my wonderful, Mary Poppins esk Nanny then.

ike consider yourself adopted.

Choc chip cookie anyone???

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/02/2013 22:17

and, i was just thinking... maybe it was me, maybe i contacted him too much, but i said that on monday, that it was a lot of contact and he didnt have to talk to me so much and he said that no, he liked it, he had had it with women before when the pester him, but i wasnt doing anything wrong.
yet, somehow, despite doing exactly the same from monday, by friday it was too much.

yeah, wasnt me.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:17

Always up for silliness anything batshit...

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:19

Let's get a pole installed so I can embarass myself....

NcNcNcNc · 10/02/2013 22:19

Certainly wasn't you Watch, whatever you had done he'd be the same because he's a tosser.

Juliette - I know, made me cry.

VoiceofUnreason · 10/02/2013 22:20

I was planning on appointing myself Entertainments Manager.

ike - I assume we're not talking vaulting???

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:20

Yep cookies good and a nice cuppa in a big spotty mug......just realised its half term tomoz bah!

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/02/2013 22:21

yeah. really wasnt me, was it. no way it could be.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:22

No Voice....I like to try to pole dance when pissed Ill pole dance around any random upright structure even a leg....

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:22

....and no not THAT sort of upright structure....

VoiceofUnreason · 10/02/2013 22:23

Ike - hang on... you were pissed last night.... just me and you in the room and you didn't offer me a pole dance???? I call that cruel.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:27

Haaaaa oh Voice there is no way you would have been sleeping after witnessing that sort of debacle ...my last attempt at New Year ended in groin strain....for me..

VoiceofUnreason · 10/02/2013 22:29

I like a good laugh

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:30

Oh be sure your sides would be splitting....just like the seams of my trousers...not a good look for an aging loon...

VelvetSpoon · 10/02/2013 22:32

Watch, it wasn't you, like its never been me with any of mine.

They were just wrong.

Last summer, there was a bloke who wanted me to think of him as my boyfriend before we'd even met (and who then text me the day after our first date/day before our planned second date to say he 'wasn't ready for a relationship'). Have found out via friends of friends he has been seeing someone for a few months. She is mid-40s (but I would say looks at least 10 years older than me), with 2 grown up children. Makes me wonder a bit why he'd rather have her than me - he is several years younger than me....it's weird.

VoiceofUnreason · 10/02/2013 22:33

Um, wearing trousers while pole dancing??

Alittlestranger · 10/02/2013 22:36

The thread has been moving very quickly tonight, but...

Maybe I'm hopelessly naive/nice, but I think some men who just want sex pull away before sleeping repeatedly with same person because they know it is difficult to stop emotions getting involved and don't want to hurt someone? It is possible for someone to not think enough of someone to want them to turn into a relationship and still think enough to fancy them and not want to hurt them. Isn't it?!

Watch snap on "I don't have a problem getting a date, I just have a problem with them being interesting, fun, a spark, no fleece and interested in me". I've had about 20 dates in 5 months of OD. Only a couple I've been anything more than "meh" about, and they weren't anymore than "meh" about me.

However, I'll put my hands up and say I'm part of them problem as I've developed a smash and grab approach and probably should have seen if anything more stood a chance with some of them. But I'm basically shallow and waiting for someone hot and shortsighted.

On the sex thing, I do have male friends who admit that if a woman sleeps with them very quickly they don't view her as girlfriend material. It's possible that these friends are all misogynistic arses (or would change their mind if the right woman put out immediately).

And on a controversial point, I'm noticing that 33 seems to be the tipping point that some men start to display more overt issues.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:38

yes .....I am a good girl Voice for goodness sakes....

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/02/2013 22:40

im also waiting for someone hot and shortsighted.
:)

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:42

I AM hot and shortsighted and all mine....

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/02/2013 22:43

interestingly, my first internet date, who i did sleep with, got in contact last summer. saw me on msn, pestered me for ages, said he couldnt believe he hadnt seen me more. i reminded him that actaully, i offered him something casual, since he was only in town a short while, but that he had totally vanished. he said he coiuldnt believe it, but does think if he sleeps with somone more than once, they will want him.

dick

so, there might be something in that.

in any case, i wouldnt matter, if people were honest.

VoiceofUnreason · 10/02/2013 22:44

I think I must be an exceptionally old-fashioned guy in some respects. See, I would only sleep with someone if I found them attractive AND would see myself having a relationship with them.

Has just died a little inside at ike's admission. My hopes all dashed. Last night we were going on a cruise, tonight she tells me she's a good girl.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 22:46

Soz Voice ....didnt you realise it would have been 2 single cabins??? No hanky panky...you remember my iron knickers, surely!

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