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An embarrasing one...

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nodoubt · 26/04/2006 18:53

Hence a quick name change

I have been with my DP for around 8 months, he's a big bloke (6ft - 16 1/2st) but he's ... 'smaller' in other areas.

I really dont know how to put this... when we first got to the 'just before we go all the way' stage I noticed that when he became 'turned on' there didnt seem to be much there..this was under his clothes though so I assumed this was why... but then we got to the sex stage and there still wasnt much there , I know this must sound awful and I feel a right bitch (and must sound like one!) but I find it really off-putting and just lately he's been making jokes about it himself but then waiting for me to big him up and I feel so false doing it and he must be able to tell its not genuine..

Recently he was on about a bloke he'd seen on a film and said his willy was longer than his 'sack'...isnt this normal? he seemed to think it was amazing but my ex was the same, admittidly thats the only 'experience' I have so maybe I was just lucky first time around??

Sorry to bring up such a daft topic but Id really like to hear some views on this as its been 'bugging' me for a while! (admittidly it was the other thread mentioning the issue that got me to develop the 'balls' to post it!)

and no before you say it, Im not a troll!

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DumbledoresGirl · 26/04/2006 19:07

Well you sound like one!

compo · 26/04/2006 19:09

God how old are you? This all sounds like school yard stuff to me

1Baby1Bump · 26/04/2006 19:10

have just checked dh (!! :o !!)

his is longer than his 'sack' if this helps?

fastasleep · 26/04/2006 19:10

Poor bloke, it's all about what he does with it, not how long it is...

fastasleep · 26/04/2006 19:11

I wish I could check DH's but he's not here

but small can be brilliant honestly you just need to experiment with different positions etc..

it's not his fault!!

fastasleep · 26/04/2006 19:12

Also don't lie to him, just tell him you think it's cute and small and you like it that way or something... rather than 'Oh I think it's massive'

you know I get loads of guys on my phone line about this, they're not perverts, they've just been teased by every woman they've ever had and it's scarred them for life

WigWamBam · 26/04/2006 19:21

My xp was well endowed, my dh isn't, but dh is better in bed than my ex ever was. It's not all about size, unless you're very shallow. Technique, imagination and being fun are far more important imo than size.

If you're not a troll, and if size is really important to you, then let him go and find someone who will appreciate him for who he is, not just for the size of his dick.

glassofwine · 26/04/2006 20:23

It sounds to me like the whole sex thing is not quite working for you, to most women size really doen't matter. The best sex I've ever had was with someone smaller and the worst with someone bigger nothing to do with size but chemistry. in my experience (not too vast!) the willy is normally longer then sack. I do hope you're genuine because I feel a bit silly now.

ks · 26/04/2006 20:30

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mum2sam · 26/04/2006 22:59

If hes attentive in bed and makes up in other areas i wouldnt worry.And if he isnt you need to show him the way. His confidence must be very low we all know that we always make joke about our insecurities. So give him a few lessons and im sure he will be quite willing to learn and eager to please you. Men with big willies make very little effort from what ive heard i wouldnt know though if dh sees this .

CountessDracula · 26/04/2006 23:03

so are you saying that when erect is is shorter than his "sack"?

I only say that cos some men do seem to have rather ....er...long and dangly sacks!!!

(only from porn films etc, have never met dangly sacked man personally you understand)

so I can see that if the sack was dangly and long and the knob was a bit on the short side...it could be possible I suppose

CountessDracula · 26/04/2006 23:04

I had a bf with a MASSIVE willy once and he was crap in bed btw

red37 · 26/04/2006 23:06

The size of his dick wouldn't matter to me.

Ledodgyherring · 26/04/2006 23:07

my partner is well endowed but i've had all sizes (omg that sounds really bad) I don't understand the size thing surely it can only go so far anyway unless it doesnt get that far then that would be a problem.

slinkstah · 26/04/2006 23:15

size matters to me!
i would never go back to a dinky dick now ive had a massive one

after all technique can be taught

Flossam · 26/04/2006 23:19

FA, i repeated to dp the 'cute' comment - i can't imagine there is man in this world who would like his willy to be described as that....

BadHair · 26/04/2006 23:25

Having been a slapper in my youth and having cheerfully known lots and lots of willies, I have to say that there's just not much you can do with the very tiny ones.
On the whole size doesn't matter, but you can have too much or not enough of a good thing!

BadHair · 26/04/2006 23:27

Oh arse, I wasn't going to post that. Um, ignore the bit about me being a slapper, it wasn't me it was my friend, honest.
I am, of course, a model of decorum.

Tortington · 26/04/2006 23:44

doesn't it rather depend on how big the balls are - i think this system of measuring is bobbins.

look, is he a good shag - or what>?

ghosty · 27/04/2006 00:10

Poor bloke ...
Imagine if he posted on a webpage saying, "My DP is a lovely girl but she has tiny tits and rather a lot of cellulite and to be honest it is putting me off" ...
Everyone says that men who think like this are bastards ...

lou33 · 27/04/2006 00:13

plenty of men say it though

Dior · 27/04/2006 19:53

As someone said, the main question has to be 'is he good?' If yes, who cares how big it is. If no, then maybe it is time to move on...

IME, bigger is better. However, I did have a short relationship with a 'smaller' man once, and the chemistry was so strong that it wasn't important. We had a great time.

skettle · 28/04/2006 16:09

Has anyone ever experienced the "triangle willy"? Basically theres the 'balls' and then a little triange on top for the willy?

Just hoping I'm not the only one!

lemonstartree · 28/04/2006 17:59

Sorry but I think it does mater. Not that it has to be huge...but tiny is a reall turn off. and really THIN is even worse!!!

NotAnOtter · 28/04/2006 18:01

Skinny tails (yeuch) it is a bit schoolyard but i do believe size matters sadly!

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