An embarrasing one...

[nodoubt]

Hence a quick name change

I have been with my DP for around 8 months, he's a big bloke (6ft - 16 1/2st) but he's ... 'smaller' in other areas.

I really dont know how to put this... when we first got to the 'just before we go all the way' stage I noticed that when he became 'turned on' there didnt seem to be much there..this was under his clothes though so I assumed this was why... but then we got to the sex stage and there still wasnt much there , I know this must sound awful and I feel a right bitch (and must sound like one!) but I find it really off-putting and just lately he's been making jokes about it himself but then waiting for me to big him up and I feel so false doing it and he must be able to tell its not genuine..

Recently he was on about a bloke he'd seen on a film and said his willy was longer than his 'sack'...isnt this normal? he seemed to think it was amazing but my ex was the same, admittidly thats the only 'experience' I have so maybe I was just lucky first time around??

Sorry to bring up such a daft topic but Id really like to hear some views on this as its been 'bugging' me for a while! (admittidly it was the other thread mentioning the issue that got me to develop the 'balls' to post it!)

and no before you say it, Im not a troll!

skettle - like a walnut whip, you mean?

I think people comparing this with a man saying "my gf has small tits and I don't like it" are missing the point. You don't penetrate your sexual partner with your breasts. If the man is really small, penetrative sex is pretty crap IMO. I am sure if you adored the person and all that, it could be overcome, but it doesn't "make no difference". It makes a lot of difference.

Agree with Franny - although it's been a long time since I had anything of any size, I much prefer bigger. I have been with two guys who were really small (both short and thin) and in terms of penetration, I felt nothing. Regarding oral, it made me wince, rather like sucking my thumb.

TBH I don't think it's inherently 'bad' to think like this; everyone has tastes. I am pear-shaped with a big nose but I wouldn't expect everyone to fancy me because I'm 'beautiful inside'. (Which I'm not, anyway). By the same token I don't fancy short guys or Asian guys; I'm not shallow or racist, they're just not my taste.

Slightly going off the point here...my advice really is if you think you can work on the sex bit, then maybe stick it out. But if you're looking for something long term, and you feel the sex is always going to be sht, then maybe reconsider. It might feel* shallow, but I for one couldn't imagine being in a LTR with a man I found entirely genitally unattractive.

oh I love mn. can you imagine starting up this conversation at play group?

I think it depends on how much you think of him as an individual, rather than the size of his willy (and how much penetrative sex means to you). I went out with a bloke who was 6"5, but he had the same problem as your boyfriend. I really liked him, but he had massive issues with regard to is "manhood", and just wouldn't relax making it impossible to have any kind of relationship with him. Men are VERY touchy about there bits, so if you decide to broach the subject just be gentle with him.

Although if he isnt satisfying you sexually it is a big issue in a new relationship. From a personal preference bigger is better

Agree - men are very touchy about their manhoods!

That said, someone I once knew said 'it's not the size of the gun, it's the force of the shot', but I have to go with the general consensus that bigger is better.

If you're in a loving relationship and really want to make it work how about trying a penis extender from a sex shop?? (would only work if you could broach the subject in the first place!)