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F*****G B*****D!!!

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 19:40

I want to scream and if I didn't feel so poorly right now I would....

Vile EA husband!!!

We are in the process of splitting up, still living in the same house.

Today I went into my jewellery box for something and could not believe it when I discovered my wedding, engagement and eternity rings gone! £4000 worth of rings, taken by him!

I went looking and couldn't ind them but instead found my notes from my CAB meeting 2 weeks ago, ATM balance receipts showing my bank balance and receipts for things I've bought....!

Oh and not to mention his porn DVD stash which would explain why the vile pig has rejected me sexually for the past 3 years, calling a vile fat Cnut and telling me how I've let myself go after having our son! He's been getting off on porn instead!

Oh my god I am so angry and teary at the same time. I wish my parents were alive, I need them so much!

I have moved the rest of my jewellery, important paperwork, certificates and passports to my friends this afternoon.

I so want this over.

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UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 05/02/2013 19:41

Call the police and report him for theft?

Lueji · 05/02/2013 19:43

And make sure to mention it when you split assets

Horsemad · 05/02/2013 19:43

Can you get them replaced via insurance & then sell them afterwards so you haven't lost out?

Doha · 05/02/2013 19:44

Agree report to the police. They were your rings, your personal belongings. It is theft. Get him charged

MrsTomHardy · 05/02/2013 19:54

Omg...what a cunt he is!!!

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 19:57

Can I really get it reported as theft....?!

Yes he is a total cunt and I hate that word but it suits him perfectly!

I didn't want to wear the rings anymore fair enough but they were a gift, and not only that I wanted to save them for our 5yr old DS.

Can't believe he would stoop so low....

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browneyedpixie · 05/02/2013 20:00

Damn right you can!!

TweedSlacks · 05/02/2013 20:05

Thats a really nasty thing to do , Police non emergency line for him IM afraid.
Please change all your passwords for banking , Cashpoint card numbers etc
Remove anything you value ,sentimental or high value to a secure location.

Is there anything of his worth a similar amount , High end stereo , Bikes, watch etc. Might be worth borrowing it for leverage purposes . Yes DH , you can have your Seamaster back, when I see my jewelry.
Feeling quiet angry on your behalf now.......... effing B'd

Trazzletoes · 05/02/2013 20:10

Hell yes it's theft!

Get on to Police and then on to your house insurance about replacing them.

Do NOT "borrow" his high value items as leverage if you are going to the Police. You are asking for him to report you as well.

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 20:11

Tweedslacks thankyou. I have changed all my passwords. Guess I'm gonna ave to start sleeping with my handbag bd ipad now eh?

I will change my cashpoint pins tomorrow.

I did buy him a watch when we got married, cost me £1500, do I stoop to his level....?

I have removed jewellery, paperwork, prof of my company shares in his company, you name t I've removed it. I am fuming, if he wants to do it this way, so be it....

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deleted203 · 05/02/2013 20:14

Yes, it's theft. I would send him a text saying he had better have them on him when he returns or I will be phoning the police and having him arrested for stealing from me.

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 20:16

Think I'm actually more furious that he's been going through my bag collating what he clearly thinks is evidence of something or other....! Idiot! My CAB notes for gods sake....what does he gain from taking those????

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browneyedpixie · 05/02/2013 20:20

Have you confronted him? Def report it!

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 20:21

I haven't confronted him yet, I wanted more time to search the house and remove all that I need to, if I confront him he will know I've gone looking and I need a bit more time.... He won't be home until late, he ever is...

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 20:22

And a total kick in the gut finding porn DVDs, he's rejected and humiliated me for so long, letting me hunk there was something wrong with me....

I feel nothing for him at all!

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 20:23

Think not hunk! Damn ipad!

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mrkidd85 · 05/02/2013 20:58

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SolidGoldBrass · 05/02/2013 21:00

MrKidd, the only person to blame is the abusive man. He had a choice at any point to stop abusing his family; he didn't take it. Now he is stealing from his wife and child - what a worthless human being he is.

mrkidd85 · 05/02/2013 21:02

I'm not defending him - but if someone stays with someone who's abusive and they then get more abusive over time, it's quite hard to have any sympathy - especially when there's the development of a child at stake. What if the child has seen his father be abusive and thinks it's the norm?

PissStickMeg · 05/02/2013 21:02

mrkidd - some sort of joke, right? Clearly you have no idea of how an abuser breaks down self esteem so a victim thinks all they deserve is a good emotional kicking? It takes a lot of guts to get back up after that and... I am not quite suer why I am bothering to explain something sensible to a thoughtless lunk like you.

Doha · 05/02/2013 21:02

Take your time and when you confront him gice him a set amount of time before reporting it as theft

MumVsKids · 05/02/2013 21:05

That was really helpful MrKidd Hmm

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Oddsox2 · 05/02/2013 21:05

I deserve my kidding putting into care...? Are you serious?! Really, thankyou, exactly what I needed to hear right now.

My child has never been at risk. I have been dealing with the deaths of both my parents in this time and have only just found the strength to pick myself up to do something about my situation, funnily enough you sound just like him..."serves you right, you're to blame"!

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kittybiscuits · 05/02/2013 21:05

mrkidd has anyone told you that you are severely lacking in empathy?

mrkidd85 · 05/02/2013 21:06

I'm not thoughtless at all - I was in a relationship and as soon as she showed signs of not being very nice I was out of there. It's not different for women.

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