F*****G B*****D!!!

[Oddsox2]

I want to scream and if I didn't feel so poorly right now I would....

Vile EA husband!!!

We are in the process of splitting up, still living in the same house.

Today I went into my jewellery box for something and could not believe it when I discovered my wedding, engagement and eternity rings gone! £4000 worth of rings, taken by him!

I went looking and couldn't ind them but instead found my notes from my CAB meeting 2 weeks ago, ATM balance receipts showing my bank balance and receipts for things I've bought....!

Oh and not to mention his porn DVD stash which would explain why the vile pig has rejected me sexually for the past 3 years, calling a vile fat Cnut and telling me how I've let myself go after having our son! He's been getting off on porn instead!

Oh my god I am so angry and teary at the same time. I wish my parents were alive, I need them so much!

I have moved the rest of my jewellery, important paperwork, certificates and passports to my friends this afternoon.

I so want this over.

My husband didn't become EA until I fell pregnant, see a pattern forming her Mrkidd....?!

Sausagedog27 I suspect they have been taken to my MIL who is slightly unhinged and hasn't spoken to me since I told my H it's over....

I'm not a knuckle dragger at all. I just can't put my finger on it why so many women end up with really nasty men. It's happened to girls I'm friends with - they get together and everyone warns her off as everyone knows the guy's an asshole - but she's determined to stick with him as she wants to make her own opinion. Then it's too late.

MrKidd, I'm very glad that you don't have children. You have no understanding of human beings, so best you stay away from them.

I truly hope that tomorrow you get treated badly by someone you love, and when you leave you get run over, and when you open your eyes in hospital someone punches you in the face. And then a pigeon shits on your head.

Because then you'll know what it feels like to be kicked when you're down.

Oh, he's just an inadequate who probably spends the rest of his time whining that women won't allow NiceGuys like him (ie self-righteous entitled moaning arseholes) to have sex on them.

I think we should just ignore and carry on regardless.
Op sorry you're having a shit time. Wouldn't it be awful if any of his porn dvd's came into contact with a strong magnet?

Probably because they are scared.

Being in that relationship is the scariest thing I have ever experienced. Even now I panic thinking he is going to walk through the door.

It is inexplicable the way it feels to be trapped in such a way. I do understand why people do it. They hope that it will change the abuser, that it will give them the strength to continue, that it will give them hope.

I can only describe the past 5 years of my life as being dark. My DD made it liveable.

Inspired imagery there.

My ex hid all pertinent documents under a mattress.
I photocopied them and quickly returned them.
He continued to stash things there for quite some time. It worked out well.

Yep, sorry folks, I'm feeding the troll more than anyone. Good luck OP, don't let the bastard grind you down.

I'm off to read about RIchard III- who, compared to MrKidd, is looking like quite a nice chap.

Awful little man. Ignore OP.

Back to your stolen jewellery, I would echo the advice above, call the non emergency police line for advice. Also as he's shown himself to be such a sneak thief ensure that all your valuables and important documents are found and stored somewhere safe.

Erm, can we stop with the personal attacks please?

mrkidd85 you have mail.

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You can't put your finger on it? There's plenty of literature out there if you were really at all interested. But you're not, are you? You just hate women, so have inexplicably invited yourself on to a website designed specifically for mums and parents to indulge in your slightly sinister trollery.

As I said a page ago, do fuck off. You're not wanted around here.

Mrkidd are you severely limited in life experience? Or just completely lacking in empathy?

Either way this is not the thread for you to be spreading your hate.

Abbier for the first time today I have laughed, thankyou!!

And thankyou lovely ladies for your support and advice. XxX

Just done a quick google and yep legal precedence state they are yours.

Call the non emergency police number when you are ready and if you feel inclined warn your twunt if they are not returned you will report them stolen.

OP, just to reassure you on the rings, the exact same thing happened to a dear friend who was splitting from her EA fuck-up of a man. She reported it and it was treated very seriously by the police, and was later used evidentially in the various court cases. All about control of course, madness borne out of supreme arrogance I daresay.

Good luck.

Odd my apologise for not having addressed you on your own thread!

I am very sorry you have been through all of this, and am even more sorry that when you came looking for support someone decided to spoil your thread.

You should report it as a theft. That is what it is. Also your Ex is a massive penis!

Thank you xxxx

Thank you rebeccamumsnet

Mrkidd, the majority of domestic abuse actually starts for the first time when a woman is pregnant or after she has just had her child. A time when she is at her most vulnerable, her life as she knows it os being turned on its head, she may have little or no money of her own and be financially dependent on her partner, And then there is the mental aspects of abuse. It works like Stockholm Syndrome. Also, do you know how many women are killed by partners weekly?
The majority of murder in this country is women being killed by their partners or ex-partners, much of it because they are leaving or have left him.

Asking why women have children with men who then go on to abuse them is about as logical as asking why Mama Hitler didn't abort little Adolph in the womb. They can't see into the bloody future!

Your views are ridiculous and disgusting and could truly set back any women reading who struggle not to blame themselves for their abuse and to find some small part of themselves their abuser hasn't destroyed yet within themselves to try to leave him. Furthermore, repeatedly commenting about why you can't understand why women don't leave abusers as easily as a bloke with no ties can dump a dodgy new girlfriend does absolutely zero to add to this thread. You are commenting to belittle the OP, nothing more. A thread about the difficulties of leaving an abuser are not the appropriate place to disperse your gems of wisdom.

OP, well done. You are leaving this twunt and at leat now you have the true measure of what a shit he is. I agree that you should report him for theft. Keep strong.

Great post, Oxfordbags

Just got deleted Shall I blow MrKidd a kiss instead MNHQ?

So I'll repeat the perfectly sensible bit of my message OP - the jewellery is yours legally. My engagement ring was insured at now DH's address before I moved in fulltime and insurance broker stressed that under law it was a gift and my property, despite it being at DH's address. If your twunt of a husband doesn't return your rings make a complaint to the police. In fact I would be inclined to make them aware sooner rather than later before he has a chance to 'lose' anything.