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swedishmum · 25/04/2006 21:38

I know there are lots of people with partners abroad but please indulge me - I'm fed up tonight. My dh works away, usually only for a few days at a time but at very short notice. I was in the supermarket today when he phoned to say he was leaving for Poland that minute - thought he was home all week. JUst fed up of explaining to the kids I suppose. I wouldn't mind but he's only a computer bloke - not saving lives or protecting people. After 13 years and 4 kids I'm really fed up. My life has been on hold for so long now.

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swedishmum · 01/05/2006 22:38

Hi Cadbury. Will email you tomorrow. Coffee and cake certainly sounds good to me. Dh means well, everyone. I know that. It's just that after so many years he's got used to being the travelling bloke!

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edam · 01/05/2006 23:09

Do you think he actually realises how much you do and how bad his lifestyle is making you feel? Time for a Big Talk I think.

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swedishmum · 08/05/2006 21:05

Cadbury, I know I haven't emailed yet - will, I promise. Would like to meet up. Am busy writing 5000 words on Phonological Awareness and Dyslexia - very slowly.

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swedishmum · 08/05/2006 21:08

Have just used his hotel points for a break in Tenerife at half term. It ties in with the deadlines for my course so looking forward to it. May give him a serious talking to while we're there. (He did suggest taking his parents - aaargh! Fil thinks men should work and women should tidy up. I said no very clearly.)

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PinkKerPlink · 08/05/2006 21:17

Oh its hard isnt swedishmum. My husband is exactly the same and it gets me down sometimes. I have even started to get paranoid that something might happen to me(like i die in the night, how melladramatic:o) and the children be here alone and no-one will notice for days...............!!!!

I sometimes think he has 'left me behind'. His life has carried on and I do 'whatever' in the background. I resent it sometimes. The children dont seem like a 'pleasure' when you have had them for 3 weeks without a break and no-one is about tio help and you have no adult conversation.

PinkKerPlink · 08/05/2006 21:18

oh and cadbury is lovely:) we often have amoan about our H's work schedules!

SSSandy · 12/05/2006 13:54

Swedishmum,
any chance of getting an au-pair? You could work a couple of mornings a week perhaps if you'd like to do that, use your degree, and leave the kids with the au-pair when you want to do some sport or have a bit of a life for yourself.

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