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Dating chat thread still going! Number 39

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lubeybooby · 02/02/2013 12:26

Here we are all

Dating related chit chat here

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Snapespeare · 03/02/2013 10:18

he's not getting a name until our 2nd wedding anniversary! Wink Grin although, arguably 'nameless' is a name...Hmm

I'm aiming to check in around six I think. date is at three.

watch I can absolutely see why you're meeting him...just be on guard, is all. Smile I absolutely don't trust him at all from what you've said before & I don't think he deserves your time or sympathy. ...but I understand why you're going.

all will be well...and all will be well... All manner of things will be well... Smile

ike1 · 03/02/2013 10:20

Snape go for it lovely have a smashing time.....and you Kin....I believe it is today yes??

watchoutforthatsnail · 03/02/2013 10:25

i will be on guard. and im not getting involved at all.

I dont owe him anything, i dont want anything from him.

I dont trust him, i would not trust him.

Maybe I need to tie it up and throw it away, neatly then. Or, we both do.
ive done no contact, ive not spoken to him in ages, he just turned up on my old doorstep. I just think, 4 years down the line, being a decent person, that a line needs to be drawn, face to face.

To those that dont know, ive not ever slept with him. A tiny kiss is all that has happened. I was never ' with' him.

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lubeybooby · 03/02/2013 10:26

Good luck today Snape :o

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lubeybooby · 03/02/2013 10:30

I really wouldn't meet someone who has showed no respect for your opinion before. To the extent of showing up where he thinks you live.

Having taken no notice of your wishes before, what makes you think he will after meeting, seeing you in person, and being reminded of all the reasons he likes to stalk you?

There won't be a nice neat epiphany for him.

The thing to have done would be completely ignore him saying he was outside your house - failing that you can call it a definite end at any point you like

You do not have to be a decent person, to someone like him.

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Nomorepain · 03/02/2013 10:31

snape have fun!!! I'm smiley for you

Middy86 · 03/02/2013 10:41

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48howdidthathappen · 03/02/2013 10:49

Ok. I would say that by agreeing to meet him, in his mind your actions could be sending the wrong message.

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lubeybooby · 03/02/2013 10:53

I mean, flip the sexes

Woman who has kissed a bloke once harasses him for four years. Bloke ignores texts and goes no contact.

Woman then shows up outside his house

Bloke would likely call the police, not meet her. Trying to be a decent person.

You can't reason with a bunny boiler no matter what gender they are.

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ike1 · 03/02/2013 10:55

Yeah its just over romantising a situation which has nothing goin for it I am sorry to say.

ike1 · 03/02/2013 10:57

Snape I can see you have offers to check on your well being great!! I will probs be in the cinema again...but I am assuming you have left his addy with someone now?

KinNora · 03/02/2013 11:22

Good luck Snape, have a fabulous time.

Meeting Mr Software today but have had a fucking nightmare morning and am going to be delayed so in addition to nerves, I'm stressing about being late - I hate being late. Bastarding hell.
Will update later, I'm going in.

48howdidthathappen · 03/02/2013 11:30

Good luck Kinnora Hope your day improves Wink

ike1 · 03/02/2013 11:38

Yeah ...hope he's worth the hassle Kin! Update us laters.x

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lubeybooby · 03/02/2013 11:38

Good luck Kin!

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KinNora · 03/02/2013 11:46

Thanks everyone. < whimpers, feels sick, panics about getting lost in that there London, then spending the afternoon with someone my daughter described as looking 'like Ian Beale'. Kerrrrrrrrist >

ike1 · 03/02/2013 12:01

Ian Beale? Errr oh.....

Tamoo · 03/02/2013 12:16

Hi everyone, I keep missing the first and last 8 pages of every dating thread, so apologies if I've missed any engagements or elopements unlikely

Mixed bag for me on PoF. I sent a couple of messages because I thought I was being a cowardly dick. One guy had a really friendly, positive profile so I messaged him, basically to say "Your profile is really friendly and positive." He responded with a machine gun barrage of

  • Are you just here to chat, most women seem to be timewasters on here.
  • What's your name?
  • When are we going to meet then lol
  • I sense silence...
  • Sorry I'm still not clear what your name is???

I ignored. Then next time I logged in,

  • Ah, you're back...
  • Are you here for anyone special ;-))) xxxx

Scary.

One guy I was really getting on with, having a nice chat, I decided to ask him for a coffee this weekend and he replies with

  • Oh I'd love to but I can't, I thought I told you, I live in Canada?!?!

Er...no, you didn't tell me, and you profile says you live in my home town? (He's got plans to move here, apparently Hmm Shame though as he was the coolest one of the lot.)

A geeky astronomer type who sounds my kind of guy on paper but I've realised in the whole of our exchange he hasn't asked me anything about myself, and I'm struggling with the telescope-related messages from him which all read along the lines of

  • oh well, almost time for me to go and adjust the temporal phase range locator on MR7300-ssK15/7, i'm hoping for a resolved definition image string before 0400. Nite! xxx
MsCellophane · 03/02/2013 12:20

Good luck everyone having dates today

Watch, I would prob go and meet him too. As long as you have your guards up. Only think I would worry about is if his contact stepped up again as I remember the angst it caused you before

Am on here to stop me saying hi to MrCM as he is online on POF and I really wnat to say... why haven't you contacted me, why did you suddenly decide you didn't want me, why are you still on pof all day, why aren't I good enough

But I won't, I'm typing here instead

Tamoo · 03/02/2013 12:20

Oh and I don't know if anyone watched Happy Endings last night, but this morning I got a message from someone who looked exactly like one of the Hipsters Grin he sent me a message casually quoting Jean Paul Sartre in a sarcastic sort of way and telling me my "mental warblings" were "wonderful" and "scary".

Confused
Nomorepain · 03/02/2013 12:21

Jeez tamoo I'm not surprised you are having serious doubts about pof. They are not all like that honestly!! Love that you are sending he messages now though. I have best success when I message them!! The ones that message me are generally chancers or losers!!

Tamoo · 03/02/2013 12:25

Yeah the hot ones are still resolutely ignoring my messages though haha

I accidentally clicked on one of those bare chest six pack close up photos yesterday when trying to scroll the site on my phone, I'm gutted that someone's going to think I deliberately went to his profile on the basis of that photo.

48howdidthathappen · 03/02/2013 12:45

Stay strong MsC I really don't think it was anything to do with you Smile

JulietteMontague · 03/02/2013 13:14

Watch please don't meet him. I know nothing about this story but the very fact that you felt you had to tell him you don't want any critisism and that you've put on weight speaks volumes about the potential for this giving you grief. He has already got you going to the station to meet him, feeling you have to defend your looks, and showing concern. He will play you. Apart from all that, what Lubey said at 10:30:52.

Kinora good luck, Snape it will be fine, he sounds lovely.

Nomorepain · 03/02/2013 13:15

Yesterday on pof there was a pic of a man in the bath with a sponge hiding his tinkle! Shocking!!!

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