Can I have moan about not so d h

[Ballyk]

He is really really pissing me off lately, I started a new job yesterday only a few hours a week to ease me back into the world of work. I got up normal time 6:45 got all 4 dc ready eldest 2 off to school, drove 10 miles to drop 2 little dc with child care then onto my new job, I then picked up little dc took them to a docs appointment, dropped with friend while I went to have a filling, picked them up and eldest dc, then we all went to an after school activity for the 2 eldest.
Dh rang as we was leaving I told him I would bring in something for dinner and to set table. I picked dinner and drove the 15 mile journey home.
Walked in house looked like a bomb site no table set dh on Xbox.
Anyway got all dc ready for bed, tidied up, did laundry etc finally sat down. Did he ask be about my new job no did he hell, he sat in the bedroom and watched a movie.i was so exhausted I fell asleep on the sofa and woke late this morning.
He had already gone to work, had made himself a lunchbox, hadn't done dc any and hadn't even woke them .
I'm fuming he's such a selfish self centred twat!!

I've spoke to him numerous times about how I need just a little bit more help in the house, sadly my 2 eldest dc are a lot more helpful than duh
I posted a few days ago on Aibu about another issue we are havin (don't know how to link)

If you've spoken to him many times and he still doesn't pull his weight then he really needs to know it's a deal breaker. (Make sure, as Cogito says, you've been specific about what you need him to do as he might already think he does enough just with his occasional bowl of washing up)
I'll see if I can find your thread on AIBU

This is your other thread.

Not sure why you ever got back together with him. And I very much doubt that if he goes through with becoming a full-time student you will find him picking up everything you do at home as a result.

I honestly can't believe he just walked out this morning without waking you or the dc. He acts like a lodger.

Oh dear, I'm not holding out much hope for your relationship. How about putting all your cards on the table and giving him once last chance to be the husband you need him to be?

(On the plus side you're actually in a position of strength - you've already accomplished so much, you're used to juggling a gazzilion balls at once, you sound pretty amazing!)

Link to other thread.

Did you apply to uni befor the deadline OP? Did he?

Thanks heyjo for your advice and kind words
Yes he does act and feel like a loffer
Yes I applied really nervous now as i have to wait a while to see if I have got a place
Jambalaya codfish pie , well done for applying I've got my fingers crossed for you

Thanks for linking other thread

Can I just say my not so DH is exactly the same. Doesn't help me out at all the our 2 DD who are 19 months and 10 months the other night I was attempting to feed them both whilst one was trying to pull a glass of juice over and I asked DH to hold it whilst I fed them and he shouted can't u see I'm trying to play a game (on his phone) and snatched the glass of me and threw it and it went everywhere (was only a plastic one) and I said to him I have u that to avoid it being spilt and now u just have and his response was well u could see I was busy dont ask me to help u again I said u dont anyway!!! They are useless I do everything wash bath feed clean cook tea he does nothing and that bloody Xbox!!! I could smash it!!!

Whatshappened - I don't think your situation is the same at all. Your husband is abusive and nasty. I can't believe he shouted and threw a cup because you asked for help with two very small children - all because he was playing a game on his phone!! I think you should get yourself and your children out of that situation as soon as possible.

I'm sorry to hear abt the situation your in whatshappenedtous ur not so dh sounds really horrible although my show is often not so supportive if he ever did anything like that especially in front of my dc I would consider doing what callin suggests. Is he often that abusive towards you?

Show?? Should say dh