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[Datingagain]

Just arriving at park this morning, with DS. Lovely, sunny day. First day of not working all week. In a great, positive mood. Looking forward to weekend with DS and lovely boyfriend.

Phone rings. It's lovely boyfriend (of 1 year) - who says - totally out of the blue "Yeah, sorry, just can't do this anymore. Don't want for us to be together. Sorry. Gotta go - other phone is ringing".

Had a great Christmas, lovely NYE together. No signs. Nothing.

WTAF?! This was supposed to be the good guy. The one who I've been raving about on here and IRL. The one who I was holding up as an example of "See, I was right to leave lying, cheating ex - there are good guys like him in the world".

I now, officially give up.

Pass us the

FFS.

WTAF indeed.... Nasty way to dump someone as well. Have a .

WAHAHHAHT?
That is just amazing. Truly. I mean I wouldn't even know where to begin with that.
when did you last see him?

Better now than later? :)

He probably has somebody else.

Have some

Maybe you missed the signs?

I know, it is really baffling. So much so, that I'm more shocked than upset (at the moment).

lola - were together NYE, meant to meet up last week, but illness put paid to that. Were supposed to spend this weekend together. Was going to start immac-ing this afternoon - saves me a job at least

sweetest - yes, no shit - I really did didn't I?! But I just don't think there were any - thanks to ex, I thought I was pretty good at signs now. [Sigh.]

I know I sound a bit glib, but I just really don't know what to make of this - think it's going to hit me later. And yes cogito - really nasty way to do it. Just doesn't add up. He says there's no-one else and I do believe him.

He just doesn't love me anymore. Fabulous.

Tell me about how great it is to be single. New year, new start etc etc.

How often did you see each other? Could he have been saying someone else in between? Arse.

• seeing!

A massive twat who you are better off without, judging by how he has treated you.

Thank God you didn't marry him!

Sympathies, OP. Who was ill last week - him or you/DC?

I honestly don't think that he was insecure.

Pretty much the only problem we had, was that we are both really busy with work and kids, also live in different towns (though not far), so was often a bit of a struggle to meet up. Really don't think he would have had time for anyone else.

But who the hell knows. Bloody men. Ah well, onwards and upwards. Back to the drawing board. Anyone know any (decent) men in their (late) 30s in the west of England?! Really not sure I can face online dating again...

Woahhhhh give yourself time before you even THINK about another one!

You can't make someone love you. At least he seems to have told you early on rather than after months of wondering why things have changed. Sounds like an improvement on your ex though still callous way to do it and without a reason so kept wondering. Keep away from the phone now, your pride is still intact, and if he changes his mind I hope you tell him to do one! Onwards and upwards, you just found out he was not good enough for you after all because you deserve more :-)

What a fcking tw*t hey?

Yes, I know insecure. Was only joking, need some time to process it all. Still seems very surreal actually.

Yep, bullet dodged sugar phew.

DC (his) were ill apparently walk, though obvs looks a bit dodgy now.

best - I know. Learned that lesson the hard way a while ago. Difference here was that he had said he did love me - loads of times over the last year. And really behaved as if he did too. Until today of course. Am going to delete numbers before pouring the wine later.

patience - yep - you said it.

Sometimes I think at new year people just review things and think about where they're going etc. Whatever his reasons he has treated you shabbily by ending it in a phone call rather than face to face - cowardly and you deserve more.

I'd completely ignore any further contact from him for now and just take some time out to lick your wounds. Yes there are nice guys out there and you're obviously capable of attracting them, just for whatever reason this one has bolted and isn't for you.

:( what a knobber. Definitely agree with deleting telephone numbers to remove the temptation to text.

Enjoy chilling tonight and spending a lovely weekend with your ds :)

Really sorry Dating :( - what a shock!

It hurts, but it sounds like he's been playing around somewhere. If he can do it without showing any signs of guilt or furtiveness - or embarrassment - he's one of the more callous ones. Good for nothing, and nobody.

You must feel shattered. Take care and be nice to yourself...

Someone got cold feet about a long term relationship......he might change his mind next week.......

I wonder whether he got back together with his kids' mother. Anything else seems a bit... quick.

I'm really sorry for your disappointment, but it still doesn't mean there aren't nice guys out there. It just means there's one fewer than you thought.

Have some and be nice to yourself tonight/this weekend. Yy to deleting numbers. Is there a mate you could meet up with over the weekend, or get out somewhere with DS, try to prevent it dragging on. Poor you, sounds like he's a twunt though and you're better off without.

When this happens there is ALWAYS someone else.

Sorry.

His dcs weren't ill he was knobbing someone else. Sorry but it's obviously true.

Lucky escape for you. And if they seem too good to be true they are.

I'm sorry, but to me "just can't do this anymore" sounds like I can't live a double life anymore. Probably best to assume that's the "reason" anyway, that way you can move on without any regrets, like you say, lucky escape.

At least you know before your finances and DC got tied up together. Do something lovely for yourself this weekend and make sure you're way too busy to be constantly checking your phone!

Thanks for all your support. Sinking in now. Still v confused about what has happened, and pretty shocked that I didn't see it coming at all. Sad too.

Apparently (he's texted) it's him, not me. His heart just wasn't in it anymore. Wishes me all the best though. And will miss me and DS. So fucking cold

In the past I'd have picked up the phone round about now and been all tearful - saying that I just didn't understand etc, are you sure etc, can we try once more - pretty please...

This time I am going to do my damnedest to retain my dignity. DS in bed, wine is open and takeaway on its way. Prime Suspect at 9pm, with hot guy, non?! Any other tips for dignity-retaining later, when I am likely to really, really want to call him?!

Bloody, farking relationships. I farking hate them. Going to be single for the rest of my life.