Eh?

[Datingagain]

Just arriving at park this morning, with DS. Lovely, sunny day. First day of not working all week. In a great, positive mood. Looking forward to weekend with DS and lovely boyfriend.

Phone rings. It's lovely boyfriend (of 1 year) - who says - totally out of the blue "Yeah, sorry, just can't do this anymore. Don't want for us to be together. Sorry. Gotta go - other phone is ringing".

Had a great Christmas, lovely NYE together. No signs. Nothing.

WTAF?! This was supposed to be the good guy. The one who I've been raving about on here and IRL. The one who I was holding up as an example of "See, I was right to leave lying, cheating ex - there are good guys like him in the world".

I now, officially give up.

Pass us the

FFS.

To clarify, in the past, I mean, in previous relationships. Not this one. This is the first (and last) time I will be dumped in this relationship. [Puts Chaka khan album on]

Really cold way to break up. Especially considering it sounds as though you had a good relationship I think to your face with at least a brief explanation.

I've no real advice as I've spent the past 4 years being dumped only for my 'd'p to then decide he'd made a mistake and wanted me back (so only advice is don't be me). There's really no point in ringing him because even if you got back together, you're probably just setting yourself up for more heartache later on. And much better do this now than in 4 years time.

And if you really feel like ringing, ring someone else instead or come on here.

Thanks sparkly, sorry to hear that you've been on the dumping merry-go-round too.

The real pisser, is that I was on that very same merry-go-round with my shitty ex for years and years, kept splitting up, then getting back together, then splitting etc.

Only to be repeated (ad infinitum) when I got pregnant. Horrible times.

Finally well shot of him and then met this clown (he was a lovely guy up until 11am this morning)

And this time, I swore - I SWORE - that I had the upper hand. That I would never be dumped again. Really thought that he was more into me, than vice-versa. Bit gutted to find that I was wrong. AGAIN.

He sounds quite fake if he seemed really into you but could just finish with you out of the blue like that.

I would strongly suspect he had met or got back together with someone else. Not that it really matters in the long run, hurts just the same i suppose either way.

Second time I have said this tonight...

TITS AND TEETH!

Brave face and dignity dating

Delete his numbers then you can't text him.

Don't delete his number! If you do that you can't chose to ignore his calls if he comes crawling back as you won't know its him!

So very cold yes. cunt

Change his name on your phone though to whatever suits CUNT Just in case he gets bored or his latest gf dumps him?

Thanks all. Feeling a bit teary now, after the bravado earlier.

Not to be too dramatic, but just feeling sad about all the plans we had (mainly silly, little things) that we won't now do.

I enjoyed having a boyfriend again. I don't hate being single, but it was nice to have someone special again.

Gah.

Also, really quite shocked at how I had totally missed this. I thought everything was fine. Makes me question all sorts of other things too.

All the niceness and good guy stuff has been immediately cancelled out by the twattish way he ended things with you.

I know you must be feeling like shit right now. But honestly, genuinely nice guys don't behave like that. In a month's time I bet you'll start to see how you've dodged a massive bullet here.

And Prime Suspect's on? What channel??

Sorry madonna, I meant Silent Witness. Brain scrambled. BBC 1, if you're interested, 9pm. But no, sadly no Mirren. Thanks for your support though - sorry to raise - then shatter - expectations TV-wise x

Oh well, I'll have a bath instead.

Have a good old cry OP and get it out of your system. Then save his number as 'do not answer' on your phone and get on with executing the best revenge there is: living well without him.

You deserved more from him and he couldn't give it to you. That makes him an inadequate knob.

Its crap - delete his number, have a good cry cry and move on. He is not worth wasting one more minute on - ensure a clean break and don't look back. Make some plans for you / dc / friends etc and make 2013 a good one.

There are good guys out there if you don't want to be single - but just focus on you for a bit.

chin up x

I doubt there were any signs to spot. Probably things were fine and then he met someone else or something happened with the ex. That's probably why he did it by text. He knows you'll have loads of 'WTF?' questions and he's too embarrassed to answer them because it will just make him look shallow and someone who couldn't turn down an opportunity.