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Do you think men mind if women are........

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J2Oforxmas · 08/01/2013 10:45

Taller than them? That's it really, I have a date tomorrow, I usually go for tall men but this guy is so handsome and lovely to chat to.
Shall I wear flat shoes?
I know this is a pathetic question really, just wanted some opinions
Thanks

OP posts:

tzella · 08/01/2013 10:57

Is it online dating? They have heights listed generally, I think? If so; he knows already!

Melanthe · 08/01/2013 11:00

What kind of difference are we talking about? I know a guy whose girlfriend is (only just) as tall as his elbow. I'd say you'd may run in to logically difficulties if its anything like that :)

Slumberparty · 08/01/2013 11:01

Also be prepared - if he's short and he's put his height on his profile, then take off another couple of inches!

Melanthe · 08/01/2013 11:02

I mean logistical not logically !

DoingItForMyself · 08/01/2013 11:04

My DP is quite short average height and I think his ex was a bit taller than him, plus one of the women he was seeing before me was apparently 'a giant'!

He is very cocky confident so I don't think he saw it as a problem - depends on the bloke and depends on how he feels about you, if you are perfect in every other way he won't care that you are taller!

I would probably wear flats anyway, just so as not to rub it in if he does have an issue, but once you get to know him you'll find out. Enjoy your date!

cheapskatemum · 08/01/2013 11:04

If you feel good in heels & can't imagine a future not wearing them, I'd wear them on the date. Some shoes are so high these days that many women tower above men they're with, whatever their relative starting heights!

DoingItForMyself · 08/01/2013 11:05

oh yes Slumber, whatever he has listed you can guarantee he is 2 inches shorter!

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J2Oforxmas · 08/01/2013 11:38

Yes it's online dating, he has listed 5'6" and I am 5'7", so in heels I'll be quite a bit taller than him, don't think I'll have a problem with it, he seems very nice. Hope he hasn't added a few inches on though,
Thanks

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tzella · 08/01/2013 11:46

Have a look at this The Biggest Lies in Online Dating It has stats for US men but I imagine the theory still holds.

Mu1berryBush · 08/01/2013 13:48

I'd say that some guys who are kind of average like a taller woman but only if she's a bit taller. Look at your man ecclestone.

However say with Jamie Callum, I think that pair just met, felt chemistry and attraction ad got on well and were brave enough to not care what anybody thought.

meet the guy and see if you like the other things about him before you worry about his height.

Anybody on internet dating has probably been round the block a couple of times and should have thrown their checklist out.

I also hpe for your sake he hasn't added a few incehs to his height. I am short and I didn't lie about my height on internet dating site, I only went on one date and he'd lied about his height. It was the LIE that bugged me. Especially as he made a joke about women lieing about their age (I'd been truthful about my age and height).

Mu1berryBush · 08/01/2013 13:50

wow, so according to that tzella, you can knock two inches off a man's height!! that would hold true for the man i met up with.

LouisWalshesCloset · 08/01/2013 13:52

I think it really depends on the man tbh
What's the height difference?

Mu1berryBush · 08/01/2013 13:54

ok, so if you want loads of replies you have to claim to be bi-sexual OP.

what a depressing crock of shit internet dating is. I'm steeling myself for it, but i need to get my life sorted out first. so that I don't have to claim to be 20% less poor than I actually am.

Gay40 · 08/01/2013 13:59

The irony of putting that you are bisexual on a heterosexual dating sits gets you lots of replies!

Putting that rules you out of any dates on lesbian dating sites.

janelikesjam · 08/01/2013 14:03

Yep, it is depressing and it is a crock, but lies about age and height are the least of it .

re. Shorty men - some are wonderful / sexy, some have "issues" because of their height. Worth meeting without prejudice. However, you'll know after a couple of dates which category he is in, if the latter don't hang around, there will be issue after issue ....

GiveMeSomeSpace · 08/01/2013 14:03

OP IMO, and possibly stating the obvious, any guy that minds is probably not worth seeing again.

There are tonnes of guys out there that will be confident enough for it not to be a problem.

dequoisagitil · 08/01/2013 15:06

I think GiveMe's right - if he's going to be funny about you being taller, then best to find out straight away.

Couragedoesntroar · 08/01/2013 16:30

Seriously do all men add a couple of inches to their height. Please someone know some exceptions to this...

lubeybooby · 08/01/2013 16:33

I have never known an exception, Couragedoesntroar. And I've had near on 100 dates over the years.

Apart from the ones who are over 6ft 1, They don't seem to add any on!

IwantaPetFox · 08/01/2013 16:33

DH is quite short (5ft7) and would more than happily date much taller women than him. In his charming words "it doesn't matter when you're horizontal" I am shorter than him though and he has the cheek to call me "short stuff".

colditz · 08/01/2013 16:37

I. Et my boyfriend on a dating site, he said he was six foot, and he is ....

Couragedoesntroar · 08/01/2013 16:40

I think I dislike the idea of the dishonesty most, but I'd like to meet someone my height or more. There's hope then cold? But not much lubey?!

TrazzleMISTLEtoes · 08/01/2013 16:45

I know a couple of guys who don't mind taller women, but they are also the shortest 2 men I know... 5'7 and 5'2.

Personally I would not like to go out with a man shorter than me though. Agree with whoever said that you should wear heels if you can't imagine never wearing heels again.

Good luck!

drasticpark · 08/01/2013 16:53

DP is 5'7" which is exactly what he said on his profile. In heels I am 2 or 3 inches taller and my mad hair can put the same on again so I feel like I tower above him. He doesn't give a hoot. His exW was about 5'8" without heels but he wouldn't care either way. Once, I asked him which part of his body he'd change if he could and he said he'd quite like whiter teeth... He actually likes being shorter than average and proving people wrong when they assume he is mild mannered, weak and a pushover. He says he probably has Small Man Syndrome.

Wear whichever shoes you want to.

Couragedoesntroar · 08/01/2013 17:01

I don't think of 5'7" as all that small!

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