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Do you think men mind if women are........

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J2Oforxmas · 08/01/2013 10:45

Taller than them? That's it really, I have a date tomorrow, I usually go for tall men but this guy is so handsome and lovely to chat to.
Shall I wear flat shoes?
I know this is a pathetic question really, just wanted some opinions
Thanks

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VoiceofUnreason · 08/01/2013 17:07

As a man..... it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Nor does it for most men (or not the ones I know anyway). However, women - particularly online - are far more anti dating guys who are shorter than they are

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J2Oforxmas · 08/01/2013 17:07

I think I'm going to wear heels. And while on the subject, I've been internet dating for a good while and have about 4 photos of myself in jeans as thats what I mostly wear, two weeks ago I put a photo of myself on there in a dress and heels, the next day I had 17 new messages, some blokes are so shallow lol,

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dequoisagitil · 08/01/2013 17:12

Yeah, I'm afraid I don't like to feel taller/bigger than the man I'm with - it makes me feel like I could snap him like a twig .

Probably shallow of me, but there it is, not attracted to skinny guys or shorter ones.

drasticpark · 08/01/2013 17:13

5'7" is small when your ex is 6'1". DP is slender with short limbs and just looks extra delicate somehow. He has very chiseled features. Most people are surprised that he is actually as tall as he is.

I always said I liked tall men and never dated anyone below 5'10". If it were not for online dating DP would not have been on my radar. I realise now I have missed out on a whole lot of fun by discriminating against short arses. DP has more integrity than all my lanky exes rolled together.

Oldbird67 · 08/01/2013 17:14

Met my DP online and yes he was shorter than he said (by 2 inches), but then he was so gorgeous and funny and smelt so good that it really didn't matter. He's around the same height as or (just taller than) me so I rarely wear heels - not that I wear them much anyway. Funny thing is I now find short men really sexy, whereas most boyfriends (including Ex) have been over 6'.

Good luck for tomorrow.

Couragedoesntroar · 08/01/2013 17:15

Pleased for you drastic

Aspiemum2 · 08/01/2013 17:20

Shamelessly marking place to see how the date goes and find out if he lied about his height.
I'm tall and have dated men shorter than me several times, I always dreamt of meeting someone 6'3 or taller so I could feel smaller! Dh is my height at a push, if I wear flats and stand on a slightly lower piece of ground

Oldbird67 · 08/01/2013 17:23

Dh is my height at a push, if I wear flats and stand on a slightly lower piece of ground

Just spat tea out. Good work.

TrazzleMISTLEtoes · 08/01/2013 17:27

Courage sorry, it probably isn't! But I'm 5'8" so I automatically think of any man who is shorter than me as being short.

drasticpark · 08/01/2013 17:30

As an aside, just be aware that people will look if you are significantly taller than him. Only in a naturally curious sort of way. You can sort of sense that people are wondering whether they would do the same. So if you might feel embarrassed to be potentially several inches taller when you've got your heels on then put your Leboutins away. Even if he doesn't care, you might.

Mu1berryBush · 08/01/2013 18:03

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Mu1berryBush · 08/01/2013 18:03

I just want a decent, reasonably attractive, good humoured man who is good company. HOnestly if I could meet such a creature I would snap him up even if he were only 5'6". I was going to add that I'd also like him to be healthy and not smoke or drink too much, then I thought to myself 'that list is growing', maybe I'm fussier than I think. Am I asking too much?! tell me the truth, does my list make me sound demanding?! I know you're not supposed to have any sort of list at all. That is an absolute no no apparently. I'm too scared to do internet dating right now but I'm working up to it.

Mu1berryBush · 08/01/2013 18:04

Come back and tell us everything J2Oforxmas

Adversecamber · 08/01/2013 18:08

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mydishwasherneverstops · 08/01/2013 21:16

I'm around 6ft and slightly taller than my BF who I met through online dating. He hadn't lied about his height and the statistics didn't put either of us off meeting. I did at the outset have a man being taller high on my list of ideal criteria. Yet having been on a few dates with taller men, I soon realised that there were far more important characteristics to be concerned about. My BF isn't bothered that I am taller than him. I admit, I did wear flats to our first date - thinking my height in the flesh might have been viewed as a negative - but after a few dates I discovered that my BF liked, if not preferred me wearing heels. So now I wear whatever I fancy on my feet. One of the things that attracted me to my BF was his warmth and lack of superficiality. I don't look at him and see his height, I just see my lovely BF.

Good luck with the date J2O.

BadRoly · 08/01/2013 21:18

Dh likes that I am taller than him - it is more of an issue for me tbh!

cuillereasoupe · 08/01/2013 21:30

Met my DP online and yes he was shorter than he said (by 2 inches)

Me too. He claimed 5 foot 6, he's five four (my ex was six foot two). First thing I thought to myself when I saw him was "oooooh he's short". But now I don't care, he's lushness personified

Oldbird67 · 08/01/2013 22:25

Me too. He claimed 5 foot 6, he's five four (my ex was six foot two). First thing I thought to myself when I saw him was "oooooh he's short". But now I don't care, he's lushness personified

Cuillereasoupe: Are we in fact the same person?

hellsbells76 · 08/01/2013 22:33

I think there a formula: men over 6' will give their true height, men over 5'10" will claim to be 6' and everyone under 5'10" will add 2 inches

I don't do online (or any) dating any more. The height lies were the least of it...

cronullansw · 08/01/2013 22:54

If he is on the erm, short, side, I'd guess it won't be the very first time he's ever had a date with a woman taller than him.

Therefore, he's either got over it by now and can cope with his stature, or he is secretly planning on axe murdering every woman taller than him.

My advice, go on the date, if you come back not axe murdered, then you'll know the problem was only in your head.

Beksybob · 09/01/2013 12:12

My husband is 2 inches shorter than me and he doesn't mind. I wouldn't wear heals around him though because it makes me feel like a a gigantor. Which, at 5'11" is not something I need help with. When we first met I was very hesitant about going out with him because of his height, I'm glad I did! As others have said, there are many more important qualities than height.

DoingItForMyself · 10/01/2013 12:06

I like the fact that my BF isn't much taller than me as it means I can grab him for a kiss whenever I feel like it instead of having to look up at him longingly until he deigns to bend down!

janelikesjam · 10/01/2013 14:01

How was your date O20?!

Couragedoesntroar · 10/01/2013 16:31

Curious

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