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The all new, sparkly,2013 Dating Thread - 35!

999 replies

watchoutforthatsnail · 06/01/2013 21:01

off you go.

OP posts:
lubeybooby · 10/01/2013 12:29

Snape if it's any consolation I wouldn't bother either. I really dislike attempting to keep past dates as friends. ugh.

re: hands it seems to be a build thing.

Judged by wrist measurement usually. Small frame is about 5 in, normal 6 and large 7. My wrists are 8 inches, always have been even when I was size 8. I have a very large frame. I don't mean fat (even though I am) BC was the same - massive natural build. HUGE hands, very thick fingers and enormous wide feet. Big wrists! Wide set hips and shoulders. Never seen hands and fingers as big as his.

Weirdly it was something about him I lusted after so I guess I'm going to have an aversion to small hands now too :o

lubeybooby · 10/01/2013 12:32

So what I mean is someone can be tall but if their natural build isn't big they won't have big hands. A tall person (or short or normal or whatever) can gain muscle and appear to have a bigger build but unless it's naturally there the hands thing will stay the same.

48howdidthathappen · 10/01/2013 12:32

Snape People can really piss you off at times.

My mums OH is 82. His family are doing fuck all to look after him. My family are taking him to hospital every day, cooking him meals etc. They seem totally unaware he is falling apart Sad

Snapespeare · 10/01/2013 12:32

yeah, I'm five foot ten with a large frame. Dumbledore was quite slight. wasnt gonna work, i feel like a rubbish tranny at the best of times, I wouldn't have felt remotely feminine. ahh well.

Bant · 10/01/2013 12:34

yeah - the opposite is true too. I went on a date a few years ago with a girl who was pretty, petite, lovely figure and manhands. We had a few drinks and a bit of a snog but I couldn't stop laughing as I kept thinking 'She's manhandling me. This is what it's like to be manhandled.'

She took offence, although I never told her why I was laughing

48howdidthathappen · 10/01/2013 12:35

I guess some of us like a bit of manhandling Grin

ike1 · 10/01/2013 12:48

But the Torso Rubber was a massive guy very athletic but wide shoulders, big feed just these crazy, feminine hands...

ike1 · 10/01/2013 12:48

feet

ike1 · 10/01/2013 12:49

Also had a big appetite for everything...sex, food, dirty rugs ....all done with small hands

JulietteMontague · 10/01/2013 13:12

Bant arf at manhandled.

Lubey it's all in the wrist then, that explains a lot. I do like men who are 'built' There is something sexy about a big hairy forearm.

JulietteMontague · 10/01/2013 13:14

Ike I do hope dirty rugs in a typo?

mercury7 · 10/01/2013 13:33

tendons and ligaments in the hands will thicken with years of heavy manual work

Bant · 10/01/2013 13:36

Right. I've got a question about Miss Feisty.

This is a woman who's local to me and whose profile basically says nothing much about her, apart from she's a kiwi and can't believe she's doing OD. Our first email exchange was more a bit of verbal sparring than a chat, as she was pissed and very much 'woe is me for having to resort to this'. Then a week or so later I noticed she'd been online again (actually pretty much every day) so I thought I'd mail her again and said - well, as you're still resorting to doing OD, how about you meet me for a drink and we'll pretend we just met there in real life. She said she was free tonight, so I replied and named a time and place. I'm not sure if she's read that mail, so I sent another mail last night asking if she was still on for 8 pm at so and so, and gave her my mobile number. No response still.

Now I quite like that place. Good food, goodish beer. I get the strong feeling if I go she won't turn up, so I can take a book. But I'm not sure if I can really be arsed to just go and spend half an hour looking at every attractive brunette that walks past to see if it's her, then go home.

But now I've named the time and place, I have to go, don't I?

Scrazy · 10/01/2013 13:40

Bant, you can go but I wouldn't expect her to turn up unless she confirms between now and then tbh.

I imagine it would be quite nerve wracking for you imagining every woman might be there for a date with you.

Snapespeare · 10/01/2013 13:45

I'd go bant. take a good book, arrive on time, have a pint, read your book and if she doesnt show, go home. It's a bit rude of her to not respond though, isnt it...?

OhWesternWind · 10/01/2013 13:47

Bant, if she doesn't confirm I wouldn't expect her to go. If you want, you could text her one last time and say "Are we still on for tonight? If I don't hear back, I'll assume you have other plans" or something, then you've covered your bases. But I definitely wouldn't go out to meet someone who hadn't said they would be there.

48 how's it all going with your mum? Sounds awful about her dp's family. Are they local? Thinking of you.

Ike - dirty rugs????? My mind is boggling.

FlorentinePogen · 10/01/2013 13:56

ike, is 'dirty rugs' code for 'drugs' ? Grin

OhWesternWind · 10/01/2013 13:57

It is something to do with toupees?

Bant · 10/01/2013 14:03

OWW - I can't text her as she hasn't given me her number. I would've expected her to, given that I gave her mine, but I don't know she read the mail with mine in it, and people on here say they don't give it out until after a first meeting so..

She suggested the night, I suggested the place. Dunno what'll happen now

Snapespeare · 10/01/2013 14:12

i thought 'dirty rugs' was 'dirty hugs' Confused

or dirty ruts...

JulietteMontague · 10/01/2013 14:43

Bant you sent her mail with the time and place. She didn't get back to you. The follow up, she didn't get back to you. You don't have to go.

If I were intending to meet someone I would make sure I had confirmed all was ok with them before I got myself ready and out of the door. Not many women will spend hours getting ready then go alone to a restaurant/bar on the off chance you will turn up.

I am now wondering if dirty rugs means he wore a merkin.

FlorentinePogen · 10/01/2013 14:49

I am now wondering if dirty rugs means he wore a merkin.

Jules, I had to Google that......Grin (Good Calvinist upbringing, you know.....)

I stared agog at first. Now I'm pissing myself....Grin

48howdidthathappen · 10/01/2013 14:52

OWW Yes his family are local. No excuses for them. Just shit behaviour.
My mum is stable. Whatever that means. I know the staff are busy, but going to have to put a note up asking that hearing aids and glasses are put in/on during the day, all day. Otherwise she hasn't a clue what is going on.

Dirty rugs. As a horse owner makes me think of horse rugs. An appetite for them though Confused

48howdidthathappen · 10/01/2013 14:55

Bant I wouldn't go if you don't hear from her.

JulietteMontague · 10/01/2013 15:17

FP you're welcome Grin

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