Hi
I'm a regular, single mum, been on and off here for years. Out of a marriage of cheating ex.
Anyhooo just out of a casual relationship (my choice) as he had some mental health issues and red flags so quite proud of myself at the mo. Feeling happy and settled with my dcs.
An aquaintence (best friends friend) of 12 odd years has become single again and although we've both fancied each other for years never been single at the same time until now. A few xmas parties later and we've emailed a few times and enjoying getting to know each other more. He asked to see me and I've told him I'm (child) free weekend of 12th and 13th of jan and maybe we could catch up then. Expected a kind of date perhaps but he sent an email with various chat in it and included this paragraph........
"So what do you want to do 12/13th? I'd really love to come and see your area and have a weekend away but seems a bit cheeky asking and also means you don't get a break. So if you fancy getting away for a bit I'm happy to have a look on line and find somewhere to stay (eg I've always wanted see the wash for example)"
He's been very polite, respectful of my space (took a while to finally finish last relationship), I know his background etc. no red flags as far as I can see/know.
I've hesitated to reply to the e mail as I'm not sure what to say!! I'm very interested in him but have said I don't want to rush into anything (in general terms, wasn't talking about him and me). I'm just not sure how to read it. I would like to spend time with him that weekend......but not the whole weekend!!!!! not yet!!!! It appears he wants a dirty weekend away with me......but this just doesn't fit with what he normally presents as....(shy, polite, respectful). I don't want to embarrass him or me by saying 'no bloody way' and turn out he wasn't thinking along those lines.....we have very close mutual friends, so wondering if I'm influenced by this....any advice on how to answer this?? Is it screaming red flag?!