signs that a man will be good in bed

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are there any? Just wondered if anyone had any suggestions as to what to look for :) (or signs of what/who to avoid)

Go for:
Good dancer. i.e sense of rhythm etc.
Not too small feet
Enjoys cooking

Avoid :
small mouth (meany)

A man who notices and remembers.
A man with a good sense of humour.
A man who takes delight in sensual pleasures - food, smells, textures, etc.
A man who smells good.
A man with a look in his eye - undefinable, but there.
A man who is at ease with himself and socially confident.

In my not limited experience:

Size: height, build, feet, hands
Confidence/charisma/twinkle in eye
Being funny
Good kisser
Being attentive/interested/tactile/expressive
Intelligence

I was taught that it's all in the way a man reverses.

Although I did go to an all-girls grammar school, so that might be odd advice.

Who to avoid, my ex, he was a twat, tight fisted, and utterly crap in bed.

HTH

Musician/surfer ie thinking, rhythmic, fit

Considerate, thoughtful, good memory.

A "spark" or connection between you is essential too.

My ex had all those attributes cutteduppear, but had a really small mouth. Fantastic in the sack but an absolute arsehole out of it!

IME... a 'manly' man (none of your floppy-haired fop) with a twinkle in the eye and an easy laugh is a relatively good bet. What they lack in technique they make up for in enthusiasm.... and most lovers need some basic training until they've lost any bad habits. :)

I wasn't interested in him giving me pleasure, I was so in love, I just wanted to give him pleasure. All my emotions were in my heart and didn't travel downwards, anyway < for the 1st 2 years when we saw eachother every few months >
He had everything going for him, big hands, big feet and big nose, chunky body ETC. Gorgeous big blue eyes, and as sweet as sugar candy.
Didn't want him to have a twinkle in his eye. It was the puppydog "look of love and tenderness" in his eyes that I loved.

I was DH's first, so he had no habits at all, but learnt all by himself and his wish to please me, how to turn me on sexually after we married. Made me love him even more.
Good luck ladies

Someone who is happy to spend ages stroking your back and any other areas you want whilst you're sitting on the sofa when MOTD is on..

Make sure he wants to enjoy a lovely shower at some point before bed but who doesn't hog the mirror beforehand.

He looks twice and winks once.

A man who doesn't brag about how great hr is in bed.

the more they brag the more likely it is that they actually have no clue

a good kisser.

Ooh not poets and musicians etc. Too busy being cool. I prefer geeky types who are so delighted to have you in their bed at all that they make a huge effort to please...

Jist a powerful caring connection, equal on both sides. Passionate, cooking, good kisser, adventurous, tactile, glint in the eye, powerful in their want of you.

I agree with all the above, but i think also it's in his touch. The way he touches you way before you get naked together. Stroking your hand, neck, back, hair, whatever.

A confident but gentle touch is such a turn on. You can tell if a man knows he's stuff.

Occasionally my DH gently lifts my chin for a kiss and that always makes me melt as well He did it the first time we kissed and he had me in the palm of his hand from then on! (not that i let on at the time )

Bet that wasn't the only things in the palm of his hand eh? Nudge, nudge, wink, wink? Eh?

A man who listens....if he listens out of the sack, he will be more likely to listen in it!

Someone who is generous as they are more likely to be concerned to make sure you get there first.

Really strong "chemistry" between you, plus a man who is attentive, very confident in himself and with others, who has that "look" in his eye, who is tactile, who knows how to treat a woman well (and does so), and is a good kisser...
A word of warning though. After much searching, I finally found a man who was unbelievable in every way and fantastic in bed. However, he'd clearly got his experience (I subsequently found out) from bedding half of England and he'd never settle down. He certainly knew exactly what a woman wanted - he'd had SO much experience - but it put me off eventually and in the end I decided a lesser (!) stud would actually be more steady and would make a better partner in the long run...

Er, shag him and find out? Rather than ask randoms on the internet??

It has to be confidence. And like others have said, a good kisser. And liking women of course. I also agree with the bragging comment - some men are so arrogant they think they are better than they are!

I have, shall we say, quite a representative sample to reflect upon. I actually think you can't really predict if someone will be good. Some of mine ticked all the boxes being mentioned and still were not that great, others who were good were a total surprise.

You can't even say something like 'avoid total jerks' because unfortunately sometimes they're amazing in bed.

I would say stick to two things: someone who's a nice guy; and someone you're attacted to and 'click' with. You can't really go wrong there, because even if it's not perfect at first, it will just keep getting better.

ime it's very difficult to know in advance, plus sex is an interaction sometimes you gel with a person sometimes you dont, it doesnt have to be anyones 'fault' :)

Agree with confidence good kisser etc.

I thought exP would be good in bed when he pinned me to the floor outside the pub. At this point he was just a friend of a friend,I had never thought about going out with him etc.

I still when I go past the pub.