Where to travel to on my own with DCs (7&8) to heal...

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after separation (in late 2011)? I still feel battered, but slowly healing. Last week I found out the stbxh's 'new' partner is the same woman he accidentally sent me a (flirty, at best) text meant for her in 2008. So I'm realising how long I've probably been on my own and just didn't know it.

I've just got an exciting new job and I want to go away with DCs for a few weeks before I start (probably March). I would like to have space to heal and be away from all this for a bit as well as give the kids a new experience of the world. I don't really mind if it's a package trip or something more adventurous, it just needs to be nourishing. I will be on a budget (not sure what yet, depends on divorce outcome) but have wondered bout US, India, Aus, Europe...

I've posted in travel too, but somehow it is as much about the recovery as the travel so I'd really like suggestions with that in mind from you wise men & women on here. I imagine some of you have been here before me...

My advice? Somewhere cheap and cheerful to spend time together. U need nice weather, why not canaries? This holiday is about u all so spend it together not rushing from one venue to another in a blur of activity that stimulates but leaves everyone exhausted?

Anywhere particular in Canaries? We'd like to have the time together but need to feel a sense adventure, beautiful scenery and widen our world too. I have felt suffocated lately...

I guess it's a balance between feeling adventure but not too stressed.

How old are your children, OP? I know very well that sickening feeling when you realise how long you've been betrayed. Truly dreadful. You're doing the best thing by getting away.

DC are 7&8. They are good people & great company.

It is shocking isn't it imperial? Tho I'm relieved to finally know the truth and have my instincts validated. He believes himself very clever (he is clever),and is self-righteous so it was pleasing to tell him I finally knew after all his spinning tales. Glad I'm free and didn't end up stuck there for the next ten years.

Not cheap, but I've done a couple or motor home holidays in Canada with ds1 and ds2 to meet up with my sister who lives on an island between Vancouver and Vancouver Island.
First time I was on my own with boys flying driving to Vancouver. This was post break up with their Dad and was very good for the soul to know I could organise and carry out the trip.
Second time took my other sister along as well and we flew into Calgary in Alberta and I drove the ginormous motor home and my sister cooked as we made our way through the Rockies to Vancouver.
Absolutely fantastic scenery. Itinerary totally up to us (dependent on spaces on RV parks). Walked on glacier, hot water pools, cable car to tops of mountains, white water rafting (maybe not on march -we went in summer) wide open spaces and wild life to go with it.
Whatever you do I wish you well with your healing.

Bumply that sounds fab. We hope to do a road trip like that.

Thanks bumply I loved the Canadian Rockies too preDC, but I suspect it'd be freezing in March?

I do love the campervan idea tho. I felt very competent the first time I went camping on my own with DC in UK. I'm glad you've trodden this path too and found it good for the soul. My soul feels very bruised indeed.

courage, just wanted to cheer you on- you sound so full of determination to move onwards and upwards, go girl!!

I totally 'get' how a holiday with DC will help you move on. An ex of mine left me pretty battered and very short of self esteem, somehow I found the courage to book a diving holiday on my own. Friends and family were all very , but I had the most wonderful time all by myself. I'm not very 'woo' but I kinda found myself again, and came back feeling quietly confident again.

Good luck, keep us posted.

Thanks owl. This thread is great! The future disappeared for so long I get shocked and amazed by the possibilities, it's fantastic. I that hope hearing everyone's comments and experiences helps others in the midst of separation know the future hasn't evaporated.

Another vote for India. Diverse, beautiful and the most life affirming place I have ever visited.

Plus some AMAZING train journey opportunities.

Goa is friendly and cheap
Rajasthan breathtaking
Kerala is like food for the soul

We can't wait to take our DC there.

Have done the US road trip too. Did LA to San Fran up Bug Sur out to Nevada/Vegas down to Mexico with stops in Carmel, Monteray etc. Brilliant trip. Great fun but not as spiritually rewarding as India.

Thailand also a good suggestion. Cheap, friendly and beautiful.

Good for you