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Not good enough

44 replies

Shirleymitchell · 27/12/2012 00:09

The dreaded Facebook, sorry

my DH has had the same fb profile pic up. Since he first joined (6 yrs ago)
his profile pic is still the same, him and dc.
I have asked him twice in 2. Months to change it to one of me and him, he very rarely goes on but I dont feel that that

 It seems to me that I'm good enough to fuck and raise his kids and look after our house but I'm clearly not good enigjt to be on his profile pic.

I can't ask again because I feel that I shouldn't even have to ask! He's on mine before you ask :)

Merry Christmas :)

OP posts:
jessjessjess · 27/12/2012 00:12

You sound a bit controlling, sorry. I don't tell my DH what picture to have or vice versa and I think it's a bit much to insist it's one of you. You are separate people, after all.

wannaBe · 27/12/2012 00:12

it's facebook. He is married to you, is the father of your children, it's a picture on a website. get a grip.

tethersjinglebellend · 27/12/2012 00:15

You're a bit late on the merry christmas. Unless you're a bit early.

I think the only sensible thing to do is to photoshop your face into every photo ever taken of him; hey presto! Problem solved.

EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy · 27/12/2012 00:16

This sort of post is one of the reasons why I consider FB the work of the devil. The sheer significance attached to profile pics and the like.

Don't attach such importance to it.

jessjessjess · 27/12/2012 00:17

Why does it matter so much?

NatashaBee · 27/12/2012 00:20

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GreatCongas · 27/12/2012 00:21

Is this a joke?

Pan · 27/12/2012 00:22

Have I logged into Teennet?

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 27/12/2012 00:25

Eh? I have no idea what photo DH has on his FB.

My picture is about 8 years old, I can't be bothered to change it!

You sound very young and insecure.

tethersjinglebellend · 27/12/2012 00:26

Dodgy ground, Pan Wink

Pan · 27/12/2012 00:30

Crumbs, you're right, tethers. Sharn't go to the bother of issuing a disclaimer, though...

Pan · 27/12/2012 00:32

Having said this, dead people have more active FB pages than mine.Smile

Gingersstuff · 27/12/2012 00:33

OP, if this is all you have to worry about, then you have a charmed life indeed. I have fished a piece of discarded Xmas paper from the bin to wrap your belated present in. It's a Grip. It's even got a bow on it and everything (though I had to retrieve that from the dog's mouth, sorry).

Feckthehalls · 27/12/2012 00:35

His FB, his choice of photo

AgnesBligg · 27/12/2012 00:37

the only sensible thing to do is to photoshop your face into every photo ever taken of him; hey presto! Problem solved. Xmas Grin.

Can't top this advice tbh.

MushroomSoup · 27/12/2012 00:40

Ha ha ha!

izzyizin · 27/12/2012 00:52

Fancy going into business making Grips, Ginger?

Given the need for this elusive commodity on this board, we'd be a runaway success and I'm thinking Stock Exchange flotation in a couple of years followed by a lucrative buyout global expansion.

Perhaps your pooch can be bribed with fillet steak persuaded to give every bow a munch to ensure the authenticy of a genuine Gingerizzy Grip?

Lueji · 27/12/2012 01:22

Why would anyone have a picture with their OHs on fb? Are they not individuals?

jessjessjess · 27/12/2012 01:22

I have no idea what photo DH has. If it's not of me it's not because I'm "not good enough" but because he has chosen another photo.

And if DH accused me of thinking he's not good enough because he's not in my photo... I'd be furious and a little scared as it would seem so controlling and needy.

OP are you actually serious?!

jessjessjess · 27/12/2012 01:23

Lueji I had a wedding photo of us both for a while so I guess that's one reason.

Cheesemonkey · 27/12/2012 01:25

Is Facebook really the problem?

izzyizin · 27/12/2012 01:36

There's a business opportunity for you too, tethers, namely, photoshopping for the insecure.

Imagine the relief the afflicted will feel when they see their --mugs gurning- faces grinning from every photo that's ever been taken of him from his first toddling steps through to his first day at school and his graduation, to say nothing of those shots of his first and subsequent girlfriends/weddings/birth of dsdc etc etc.

As it happens, the more I consider the prospect, the more I'm convinced it's a charitable venture that should be eligible for government grants. Shall we set up a trust and corner the market before some chancer other enterprising soul capitalises on your idea?

pictish · 27/12/2012 01:38

Is this real?

itsallinmyhead · 27/12/2012 01:44

Anyone know how to Photoshop? I've a lot of pics to superimpose my head on to.

Damn my utter lack of techie-ness, I may need to print them all off (pics of DP that don't have me in), print a nice pic of me (ensuring the heads a relatively similar in size), stick my head on all his pics and re-take the 'new' pic.

DP will be over the moon that I've ensured we'll be together in all pics...forever.

OP, this is how you are coming across, to me at least.

jessjessjess · 27/12/2012 02:20

OP in all seriousness stop looking for approval in such ridiculous ways.

Your problem is almost certainly that YOU don't believe you are good enough and won't take DH being your partner as proof that you are, so you look for "proof" that you are not in fact good enough /expect him to prove that you are in ridiculous and unfair ways.

That's all you, I'm afraid.

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