The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year? So, Let's Go Up A Gear!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse (normally Mouseface but I'm wearing my festive name )

Welcome to the Brave Babes Battle Bus, to a place of solace, support and sanctuary, if that's what you seek of course. It's also a Bus full of bloomin' chatterboxes, waffling on about life, love and all things from school reports to laundry!

The journey into 2013 is going to be an ass kicking one as we're moving up a gear to give the WineWitch a bloody good slapping, and the BoozeBeast a kick in the bollo.............

Some of us drink in moderation, some of us drink. Some of us are sober, some of us are trying so very, very hard to be.

Some of us have been dry for days, weeks, months and some of us years...... some of us are just starting out and are scared of what stopping drinking means. It's not forever, it's just for today if that's what you want.

We have a saying on the Bus One Day At A Time. Or ODAAT

Take each moment, each day and each blip as it comes. The support on this Bus has kept me from ruining my life time and time again. The experiences of others shared here has helped me to change the way I see alcohol, the way I see what it does to me.

Although some Babes have been here a while and kind of 'know' each other, we all have different lives, different roles to play, different places to sit on the Bus, but we ALL have or have had abusive relationships with alcohol and we're here because we want that to change; for the better.

Everyone is welcome here so don't be afraid to just jump right in and say hi. Post as much or as little as you like!

So, come say hi, grab a seat, an eggnog (non alcoholic of course ) and a mince pie, or chocolate chip cookie, and meet some lovely, genuine people who are just like YOU.

Also, HERE IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD with a link in the OP to the first ever thread, and the reason why after more than two and a half years, this thread is still here, supporting those in need.

Hi anyone having massive sugar cravings around usual wine time? I even feel a bit dithery. I'm eating tons but not worrying about it just yet. It's wierd I've had my first sober Sunday meal for an age and have organised food for tomorrow! Even had a walk today! I'm feeling a bit smug but getting the you'll go back to be even worse in February. Thanks for that vote of confidence lol

Hi sorry not been on thread today, busy preparing for interview. Wish everyone who didn't have it last nite a much more restful & peaceful nights sleep tonight. Hope everyone managing to beat ww & demons tonight x

I like the green ones too but I'm a bit scared of ma Can I have an orange one,please?

Hi all. Day five today. I posted last night for the first time and you guys have massively helped me not to drink. Last night was v tricky as DP came home with him wine. In the end I played scabble with dd. That helped greatly as was really on edge last night. Feel a lot calmer today thankfully. Kept mega busy so not thinking about alcohol as much. But I know what I am like I ll manage two weeks then think hey I deserve a treat!! Im not an every day drinker but when I do I dont (cant) stop at one or two tends to be more four or five... I also drink if I am upset/worried/nervous... the list could go on.. I dont want to not ever drink again - just want to control it drastically. Can drink socially and usually be fine- just dont want to be drinking in the house have two kids so want to be 100% for them. This bus is ace and so inspiring! so if ok I will travel along with you and post too sometimes.

Hi Gugg I haven't been asked out yet - but I've pretty much kept to myself and just chatted a little after the group and maybe walked back with one or two others. Only you can tell if you want to take it any further at the mo - for me if someone asks I think (depending on who it is if you know what I mean) I'll consider it. AA members always say beware of Male-female relationships - so perhaps stick to the girls for now. I'm happy with my 3 meetings I feel comfortable in them and am getting to know the faces/names. Slowly Slowly for me, concentrating on my needs for now.

ps how do you do the smilies?

jango you have to use square brackets [like this]

there is a list at the bottom of the page

jango Lol I just arrived here yesterday and didn't have a clue how to do the smileys! Learnt how to do the bold names this evening (put a * either side of the name).

they're MINE, all mine I tell you!
baby my heart went out to you reading your posts. You have probably only really seen this new positive me but feel free to read back - pick a thread, any post and read about my constant failure to get past day 1, my self-loathing my unhappiness. I have felt a fraud on here oftern, not even attempting to give up and reading about others on day this, and day that, and thinking "yeah, well bully for you" while pouring out another glass. I dont know what the trigger for finally changing has been. i think my weight has been a big factor and I got so sick of being overweight, wearing horrible clothes that I didnt like but they at least covered the bulges, being always tired, always miserable, always hungover. I just got sick to death of the person I had become and just knew, finally, with every cell in my body that I had to change, and there was only me who could do it. I knew that if I can/could make this change, then I am a strong enough person to make some other changes too. And so are you, and everyone on here. With the support of this mythical bus full of strangers, you CAN change. You dont have to be the person you hate any more...God, I sound all evangelicl a whole 6 days in but I've never even been at 6 days before. the old timers can testify to that!
It isnt easy - there is a bottle of red wine within a hands reach of me just begging to be opened but I'm not going to do it. I'll go to bed and lie biting the pillow first if I have to.
It has taken me two sodding years on this bus to work up to this point - a few half hearted successes here and there for a day or two - but pretty much same old, same old, but it can be done. Talk to jesus . or bafana or faire or venus or mouse - they all have similar or worse stories to you and look at them now. Stop beating yourself up, get the dds in bed and make yourself a list of what needs to change and how you are going to do it.
we will be here to help you. all the way
Here endeth the sermon

indie yo!
Plenty of room in the sidecar now that I have come over all sober and moved my fat butt into the bus

Hi Ma you sound as though you are in such a good place well done on 6 days. I'm massively overweight too and am having an ebay buying splurge cos of my 8lb weight loss sofar -I just feel as though I'm going to make it this time so have bought 2 lovely jumpers and some lovely shoes all for a bagain. Weighing in tomorrow and hopefully I'll be in the 11s for the first time in years. I Don't know if its the Dry January or Ma's Bootcamp that's spurring us all on but whatever it is don't change a thing!! It's working.

We are Brave and I'm determined to be a Babe again

well done on 8lbs koala.
I hope to be in the 11s within another week or two which would be great!
Keep on bootcamping...

IsinDe - thank you for posting. Did you do it for me? Cos I did ask you really nicely and everything

Baby - Listen to Ma (again, who the fuck is this wonderful woman that we have in our midst just now, I'm loving her wisdom and honesty) because her honesty tells a thousand tales on this and previous threads.

She has been at the arse end of the earth and back again. We all have to some extent. It's what YOU do about it that counts.

I was like you, knew I couldn't go on but didn't want to stop drinking either. I loved drinking, I loved wine, cider but vodka was always my weapon of choice because it didn't leave me hung over. I could do a 70cl bottle a night if I wanted too, no danger and function the next day.

Soma asked recently about how I got from where I was to where I am and I guess now is a good a time as any to talk about that, maybe Baby, it will give you hope, strength and the belief that you can change if you want it enough. Until that point hits, you won;t stop drinking the way that you are lovely.

I'm sorry to say but until it's all in place, all throughout your body, mind and soul, you just won't stop. xx

So, how did I get here? I'm going to post a new post to tell those who asked all about it, just to keep it separate from talking about others, and not to cause any confusion. xx

Great news on the loss Koala, well done you!! That's a huge motivator for me, the losing weight part.

Ma - you'll get there, if I can do it on fuck all exercise (unable not unwilling) then you walking and doing what you are is bound to make a difference and IME, feeling and looking good about yourself becomes infectious!

The more weight I lose, the more I want to look great. And so I try harder........ keep going Boot Campers!! I'm still in the Boot Camp, even though I'm not trying to lose much more, I do want to maintain.

Can I stay if that's my goal?

Thanks koala I found the meeting overwhelming and just wanted to shop walk home quietly. I wasn't sure if it was part of the group dynamics.

ma what a lovely post. Will send you some green opal fruits AND i won't lick them first
night babes

Very good of you guggs
Such self restraint

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Ahem. 3 years!
I would do my happy grinny Snoopy dance, but
I had my minor but what the fuck! How painful! operation on Friday and am back to drinking through a straw/ soup. I'll be on the weight loss bus too.

Guggenheim try and go for coffee one meeting soon- I rarely socialise, but I'm glad I know everyone.

Very positive vibe on here tonight! Hi to everyone. Baby how you getting on?

Well, that's day 2 under my belt. No alcohol in the house, DC are in bed, my PJ's are on and the corner shop is shut now. Phew! Oi Wine Witch - you can fuck right off!

Had a good day on the whole. Managed to eat healthily, do experiments with DS's and a lovely bit of bonding with DD (11). She has boobs!! Sorry, HAD to tell someone and she said I wasn't allowed to put it on FaceBook!![grins]

Feeling bloody knackered though and really hope for a better night.

indie hello to you too!

ma 6 days! 6 DAYS ! you can have all the bloody opal fruits you want

I'm absolutely shattered. done 4 loads of washing, taken down the curtains, sprayed and hoovered and still bugs keep appearing. many thanks to mouse and faire for making me see sense earlier, otherwise I would definitely have succumbed to the wine witch tonight.

Good for you Joey. x

Help - ouchy!! That sounds horrid. Wisdom tooth x1 nearly killed me! Hope you feel better soon. xx

My previous life post is taking a while so I'm going to get it all down, edit it so that it reads in sentences and then post it.

Gugg - you went to a meeting, that in itself is HUGE and something that you should be very proud of. You took another step towards your own sobriety, whether you go again is up to you xx

Ma - my hero

Night all. I hope you all get some rest, Purple, I'm sending soothing vibes your way.

And Joey - well done to you too lovely xx