The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year? So, Let's Go Up A Gear!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse (normally Mouseface but I'm wearing my festive name )

Welcome to the Brave Babes Battle Bus, to a place of solace, support and sanctuary, if that's what you seek of course. It's also a Bus full of bloomin' chatterboxes, waffling on about life, love and all things from school reports to laundry!

The journey into 2013 is going to be an ass kicking one as we're moving up a gear to give the WineWitch a bloody good slapping, and the BoozeBeast a kick in the bollo.............

Some of us drink in moderation, some of us drink. Some of us are sober, some of us are trying so very, very hard to be.

Some of us have been dry for days, weeks, months and some of us years...... some of us are just starting out and are scared of what stopping drinking means. It's not forever, it's just for today if that's what you want.

We have a saying on the Bus One Day At A Time. Or ODAAT

Take each moment, each day and each blip as it comes. The support on this Bus has kept me from ruining my life time and time again. The experiences of others shared here has helped me to change the way I see alcohol, the way I see what it does to me.

Although some Babes have been here a while and kind of 'know' each other, we all have different lives, different roles to play, different places to sit on the Bus, but we ALL have or have had abusive relationships with alcohol and we're here because we want that to change; for the better.

Everyone is welcome here so don't be afraid to just jump right in and say hi. Post as much or as little as you like!

So, come say hi, grab a seat, an eggnog (non alcoholic of course ) and a mince pie, or chocolate chip cookie, and meet some lovely, genuine people who are just like YOU.

Also, HERE IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD with a link in the OP to the first ever thread, and the reason why after more than two and a half years, this thread is still here, supporting those in need.

This is the part where you may loose any respect for me. I've already had a drink today, not even mid day yet, I don't think I can go without, I have 2 children below 6 yrs, I feel I need it just to get stuff done, but then with it I can't get anything done because I go into my own little world...bad mom time.

This is the part where you may loose any respect for me. I've already had a drink today, not even mid day yet, I don't think I can go without, I have 2 children below 6 yrs, I feel I need it just to get stuff done, but then with it I can't get anything done because I go into my own little world...bad mom time.

You're right, Green. I go on if I've been sent a message from someone on the site just to say 'Thanks but no thanks you bald old fat git! Lol! So it could be that Oh, btw, did I mention he has horses too.......?

Pippin I doubt we'd be shocked - there are babes with varying degrees of difficulties (AND SUCCESSES) here. Some have reached the bottom of the pit before reaching out, others are clinging on half way down sometimes falling further a bit, then scrambling not to fall - some are strolling back up to the top others are wavering at the edge afraid of falling in. Then there's a band of boingy babes standing at the top beckoning us all out.

Nope haven't lost respect - have you sought any help in real life?

You've acknowledged the problem that's a start

Pippin Tomorrow is a whole, , new, clean day Sweetpea. How about planning for not drinking tomorrow? For today, try to keep hydrated, get some vitamins, buy a substitute drink (fizzy water with a slice of lemon and lime works for me) and make sure you eat a good meal too. Try not to buy any more wine and, if there is any left by the end of the day, pour it away while you have the gumption. Take care of yourself and try to use your negative feelings to give yourself the push you need to fight this. xx

Hey Mouse how are you doing? xxxx

Sorry if I'v cloggin up the thread, I've done all sorts, tipped whole bottles away, called AA several times whilst half cut, said I would go to a meeting and couldn't face it,the nest day I need a kick up the backside for sure. Only had one bottle christmas day, was chuffed with myself, but sunk back into it again, I'm normaly really strong but can't seem to kick this. Thanks for answering.

The things is Purple We all know what we need to do and can give advice, it's DOING it that is the problem ( there are lots of alcohol dependent, over weight, drug dependent health professionals ) I think fundamentally a lot of that has to come down to WANTING to do it. It does for me anyway - I kid myself I want to stop drinking but I don't really because I don't (or I'm not prepared) to give up the benefits in exchange for losing the costs despite the fact they are heavily outweighed by the latter.

Sorry to go on about this but doing the SMART Recovery, cost benefit analysis yesterday was really interesting for me, particularly the second part where you list the costs of NOT drinking and the benefits of NOT drinking. I could see honestly what I was going to miss about drinking and then the huge long list next to it of what I was going to gain and be honest with myself about it being a choice to miss somethings but gain hugely on others - I'm hoping this new level of honesty will help me stick with it as I am not going into things with unrealistic expectations and know that yes some bits of not drinking will be hard, I'll miss some stuff but that's the choice I've made.

Instead of a couple of weeks in just going well this is shit and boring and not what is was cracked up to be' I'll have a glass of wine.

pippin you are most welcome here. Anyone who has the courage to post about their drink problem, gains respect with us, not loses it. And yes, just now we are feeling a bit lively posting about farmers and bridesmaids dresses and cats and Bootcamp - but dont let any of that chit chat put you off. The reason we are ALL here is because we have a problem with alcohol.
I, personally, am trying Dry January and today is day 3 and its hard. this is the furthest I've got in a long long time. Usually around 45 units a week.
I have been on this bus for two years so you can see that for some it is not an immediate fix - its a long journey for some, a few short stops for others but we are all here for each other ALL the time. Stay with us.
East be a bit wary about a chatty cat...could be one that never stops yowling and will drive you nuts
Fellow Bootcampers, I am expecting some sort of check-in/update tomorrow.... you have been warned.

Ma I ain't put on my boots yet, eating nuts and cheese as we speak and have already been at the chocolates.... I am full of streaming cold (sorry Koti if I passed it on) that's my excuse!

Do you think it will be helpful Koti I'm going to do some of the other exercises in the tool chest and maybe an online meeting (where I will just listen!) I like CBT it works for me - I'm suggestible and if I can change my mindset I know I can overcome things (Or have in the past!)

3 bottles of wine a day? I must force myself now to clean up. Feel so lethargic tho, why can't we just say no!! Feck off I don't want you, like an old pestering ex?

3 bottles of wine a day? I must force myself now to clean up. Feel so lethargic tho, why can't we just say no!! Feck off I don't want you, like an old pestering ex?

Pippin we have an amazing babe here Koala who has just quit her 3 bottle a day habit - hopefully she'll be along soon with some advice x

Afternoon Brave Babes and welcome to pippin if it helps I'll share my guilty secret with you I was a morning drinker too and an afternoon one and an evening one and a middle of the night one. It doensn't make you a bad mum - we always had home cooked food (mostly) and the kids were healthy and happy and I kept down a job to provide for us all. Problem was I am a drinker and an alcoholic and once I started I couldn't stop (unless in dire emergency and if not too pissed or sleeping) - and I couldn't stop for years fortunately my bottom line came in the last 3 months - I couldn't work depressed and drinking round the clock had a lightbulb moment and decided to STOP. Have you read jesuswhatnext's first thread shes the OP linky at top in mouses intro - the first night I decided to stop I read her thread all night and she inspired me. It's not easy and it really is one day at a time.
We'll be here for you if you need us.

AA meeting last night was lovely though I fell over whilst walking there (no one watching thank god) and not even drunk!!!! ironic. The hall was all dark and I was really disappointed that perhaps it wasn't on because of new year.
But I'd forgotten it was held downstairs and all was well and welcoming.
Hilarious end to the evening one lady was complaining about TV and pre xmas drinks, food and more indulgence adverts everywhere. Come new year its all weightwatchers slimfast and lighter life! Made me think of the Babes here and our Bootcamp.

Just about to go out to cinema with DD2 and see The Impossible (love Ewan McGregor) DD1 saw it last night and tissues are a must apparently.

oh and I WILL NOT BE DRINKING TODAY.

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Spooky Greenyed I was composing whilst you were posting your message to Pippin.

xx

Koala, I so wanna be where you are now, a trip to the cinema would be a wow. I'm such a laid back mummy I let the kids have what they want within reason. Mainly because I'm so tired I can't be assed with the hassel of saying no all the time. I will do this. But my GOD its the hardest thing I've ever done, and lifes not been that easy, believe me hence the drink problem?

pippin when my eldest dd was small and I was on my own, I used to start drinking at 9am - after I'd dropped her off at school. I'd continue all day, literally all day Nothing shocks me at all. It's so easy. It just didn't seem abnormal - you can normalise any behaviour. No-one is going to judge, cos i reckon we've proabably all been there, or somewhere nearby.

We've just been to see the cat - sadly poor old Poppy is a bit too old and poorly for us to manage so we have chosen a bit fat boy called Smudge he is amazing - he needs to be on a bit of a diet - but he's 7, tabby and white and boo-tiful. DH seems resigned as well. he called and I just matter of factly told him we had reserved the cat. His comments were twofold: 'well it bettr not piss on the floor' and 'you and dd2 will be looking after it then?' RESULT!!

Hi everyone, not been on much lately, too busy alternating sinking vat's of wine and the rest of the time hating myself. I look terrible, bloated, parched, feeling depressed and generally in despair. However I truly believe I have hit my low point and simply cannot continue living my life this way. So today I have a dirty sweaty minging hangover and I feel confident it will be my last for a while!!! I'm only doing a day at a time so that's right folks today I will not drink x x x x