Crotch grabbing, jelly nailing, double-quick portions and man parts floating in a pear tree...dating thread 33 survived Christmas so bring on NYE!

[OhLittleTownofWesternWind]

Here we are!

Well glad to see some of us ate feeling positive about nye! Dds dad is having her for a sleep over, I was meant to be going out with my friend if she could get a sitter, which she has but we spoke yesterday and she doesn't sound like she wants to go out atall so the only year I have a sitter I have no where to go! Also I have a cold and work tomorrow!

What's everyone doing tonight so I can try to steal some fun ideas?

I'm now glad mrw broke up with me a couple of days before Xmas as I didn't want him anyway and it was a waste of my time. But I would really like to have a decent guy in my life now.

Last week I was badly hungover, dds dad brought me a bunch of flowers and a lovely breakfast with fruit and a vitamin drink to make me feel better! I miss having someone to do sweet things like that for me and making me feel loved!

I've been single for 2 years now apart from the crap I had going on with mrw and if I was in a good relationship now I doubt I would take it for granted!

snape sorry to hear that your crappy ex is still managing to cause you problems

What happened to the prof? As I havnt been on the thread a lot recently!

The prof was looking for someone to settle down and have children with. I don't wan more children. Had sex with him (two seperate occasions, hence I can just about say it wasn't casual sex then dropped off the face of the earth as he had decided o be exclusive with someone else he was seeing at the same time who wanted to have children.

Heard from him a month or so ago, we arranged dinner for later that week, then he disappeared again.

Got a text from him on Xmas day.

Snape your situation has got me thinking ...would I date someone with an STI who was honourable enough to be honest about right it from the start. The answer is, I think, yes. I am pretty sure there would be ways of limiting infection if you both took the time to investigate it and unless you are the sort of person to insist on evidence of a clean bill of health before congress then you have to assume that when sex occurs protection from potential STIs is paramount anyway.

I am sorry that this legacy from your ex's selfishness still casts a shadow over your dating in the present, Snape, hugs. x

It's a funny thing, I don't think about it very often, unless I think I might be 'getting some' in which case I do do the honourable thing, because I don't want to think of someone else being treated like I was treated... There are absolutely ways of not passing it on if you are von mildly inventive.

In a way I guess it sorts the wheat from the chaff, much like having children, being independent, being clever, having lots of tattoos. It's just one more thing (without wishing to be cavalier about someone elses sexual health..) but added to all the other 'one more things' it all gets to be a bit much sometimes.

I wouldn't mention it unless it looks like there is a distinct possibility of sex and before it happened to me, I probably wouldn't have dated someone with an STD, because the immediate reaction would be that (1) they've been around a bit & (2) no thanks, don't really find blistered genitalia all that alluring.

But it's difficult to not think less of someone because they might think less of me.

Pfffffft.

Well yeah..I have usually been v. careful re protection anyway so its always an assumption I make...most blokes wouldnt know if they are carrying chlamidia, for example, and that can lurk around for years without symptoms..Therefore someone telling me about their sexual health wouldnt phase me, in fact it would probably make me think that they would be respectful of my health and wellbeing in a holistic sense too.

I assume the prof was cool about the herpes then Snape?

chlamydia (sp)

Nice yay! veggies, mud, new friends!

Snape I would ignore what Dumble has ticked. I've ticked that box but only because there are some people who would otherwise assume I was slack about taking care. If I get someone who I really liked and they were honest, upfront and sensible about it then I would date them. I think a lot of people probably have the virus and don't know it as they just don't get breakouts.

snape I secretly hoped all along that you would get with the prof through out you making the note book. The amazing sex was the bit that made me think it could work

But if he wants dc and you don't not much you can do I guess

My mother has just phoned to say foul ex has sent a text to her partner asking about the dcs. No idea why she told me as there's nothing I can do and now feel very anxious and unsettled.

I am worried he'll be up to something now. All the pratting about with selling the house was annoying but it gave him a safe outlet which he now doesn't have.

Haven't heard anything from him since I saw him in court nearly a year ago so this really is worrying me.

Well, I'm guessing spaceman hasn't been put off by my lack of a driving licence, as he's now sent another message. Still no mention of another date though...

I am also the only one on my office. I need to stay til 3. I am sooooo bored.

Snape I wouldn't be put off re that answer. I think sometimes the answers you'd give in the abstract are quite different to what you might do in a rl situation.

Hi all .. I am going to be the only singleton at a small nye party tonight (4/5 couples plus moi) I tried to arrange something with mr cheeky for tonight but he couldn't get his on call swapped so we had a lovely night in a hotel last night and the most expensive curry ever !! (£81 for two courses and 6 drinks) and lots of lovely sex!!

He has told me if I get invited to any other nights where it's all couples he would be happy to come with me

Anyway I can see tonight far enough but plan on drinking lots of prosecco and Red and suffer the consequences tomorrow

Snape, I'm with Ike on this one and as long as someone was upfront from the start and took the precautions etc I don't think it would put me off.

Will you really send a f--k of reply to a text from V? I might be doing the same to someone tonight.

I am single again after spending a year being dicked around by someone. I've ended it as he didn't really want a relationship, more a doormat. He picked the wrong woman for that and the only reason I kept seeing him was because I adored him . It's funny how Christmas and NYE always bring things to a head. You know who is really there for you at this time of the year.

I've just shared a post on fb about never regretting anything that made you smile (amongst other sentimental tosh) and as he made me smile and laugh so much I have decided not to regret him but to just try and move on.

Even went on POF, seems like I 'met' a vanisher. So I might dip in here from time to time.

Happy new year to everyone. I'm going out to paint the town red.

Bit late but ...

48 so sorry to hear about your mum but glad she is getting good care and hope that things will improve for her very soon. It must have been a massive shock for you all.

velvet he definitely sounds interested but maybe a bit shy? Tbh shyness like that can drive me a bit nuts because I just can't be doing with pussy-footing around.

Speaking of which, well, I Did It (woohoo) and kept on thinking 'why the fuck have I put this off for so long? It's really good fun' BUT it did take him aaaages to get around to it and I ended up doing most of the seducing, which got on my wick. Actually, there are a few things about him that get on my wick but it makes me feel like a bitch when I think them. Like, he's forever texting and fb-ing me etc (he was the one who wanted to be fb friends), and he'll kind of hint about sex etc and look at me all puppy-dog like and I'd rather he just got the fuck on with it and banged me instead of being all wishy-washy. So I suppose he's not doing anything wrong but we're probably incompatible really. However, at least I've found out my bits still work. Now to try and find a way of capitalising on that when I pretty much always have a small child in the house and have to be back in time for babysitters etc....

Oh and he's really keen to meet my son. Just No. Absolutely not. I was quite firm about that and he said well he supposed everyone was different but when he got with an ex who had kids she was of the mindset 'Want me, accept my kids' and after the first time he slept with her, her kids all climbed into bed with them the next morning. I am aghast at that!

well Cabincrew responded to my text saying she had a nice time too, but this week is solid and she's prob not free till end of Jan - she's on holiday for a fortnight this coming weekend.. And to let her know what works.

End of Jan I'm going to be in hungaria (might actually go see Dracula's castle, which is that part of the world I think). So, date 2 with an attractive interesting girl after a month, and no kiss on the first date. Not sure if this is really going to work - that's a bloody long time to wait.

In the meantime, there's ShoeGirl next weekend, Pixie at some point in the next couple of weeks, and Lawyer tba.

Plus anyone else before that too. It's one thing not looking at the sweet trolley while dating someone you like, it's another thing entirely waiting a month for a second date when the first one was just 'okay'.

Harumph. My plan for this evening has cancelled as my mate's DCs are sick, so I'll be footloose and fancy free. And with nothing to do. Bugger.

Wallison Go you Your mojo is working!

Banta, you may as well keep Cabin Crew on hold and see how things are when you are both free. Sounds like she is busy getting on with her stuff to be thinking about date 2 in too much detail. So a win win situation for both of you.

You seem to be lucky at this OD thing as far as getting plenty of dates.

I only saw one guy in a 30 mile radius on POF that I liked the look and sound off so sent a 'flirt', he responded, liked my photo which hidden, and had some interesting emails. I expect he is in demand so has disappeared. I have a neighbour who is on the sites and I don't want to be visible. It's a non starter for me.

Wtf is he texting your mums partner about DCs?

I take it mums partner responded with 'you'll need to ask OWW fuck off'

Depends how & why she told you in context of text. If she is worried foul- ex (FX) is up to something, then it's proper that you are forewarned and whilst trying to stifle your anxiety, be alert to potential idiocy.

ike yes, prof was cool with it, seem to remember him texting back with something along the lines of 'if I didn't already, I now respect-the-fuck out of you' which was nice.

moving now remember he was slightly too kinky for me. I don't want a foot in my foof.

Dumbledore is quite sweetly saying I tick all his boxes, but he might be rebounding and wants me to be aware of this. It's not said in an arrogant way. We appear to be resonating.

Snapes Dumbledore sounds most promising. Maybe the herpes comment is just one of those general ones that people make? I mean, it might be different if you get to know someone; kind of like what Banta was saying upthread about getting into a sort-of 'shopping list' mentality because of how people are presented to one on a dating website. Glad your ex has buggered off.

OhWestern I agree with Snapes that it could be an alert. Or maybe he's just being an arse with no real plan behind it. Sorry you have this worry.

48 - I definitely have! Off out tonight as well and hopefully will at least get a NYE snog off someone (have pretty much decided that Shagman isn't for me but at least he got me over the finishing line so I'll think of him fondly).

Ex has harassment warning so won't contact me, so he is trying it by the back door. He was told where to go but I am really worried now. This is new behaviour. He is mentally ill and violent and I'm bricking it. He doesn't know where I live exactly but he knows the town and if he drive here could find me in a day or so by dint of trailing my mother (he knows where she lives). Very easy to do. Shit.

Oh my. I'm so sorry that you're in this situation, OhLittle. If he's been warned, can you contact either the police or the court? I mean, I know he hasn't approached you yourself, but wouldn't they be interested to know if he was contacting family member?