Crotch grabbing, jelly nailing, double-quick portions and man parts floating in a pear tree...dating thread 33 survived Christmas so bring on NYE!

[OhLittleTownofWesternWind]

Here we are!

Morning,can I get peoples opinion on something ?
I have just added the extra on POF to see if someone has read my message.Amazed that half of the messages I have sent out have never been read,I thought I was being ignored but why dont people open them ?
Do men get so many they cant be bothered ? Or does the photo put them off ?
Out of sheer curiosity I have to read mine even if not attracted to the photo.
What do you think?

Not being able to drive a problem I live in a rural area so a car is a cash draining necessary. In a city I wouldn't bother.

Probably say I have many other talents

That's a bit crappy, spoon. You'd think if it was such a dealbreaker he would have asked long before date stage. I do hope he isn't being a knobber about it.

Jaffacake when I used to OD and use PoF I was guilty of just viewing the profile first and then deciding whether to open the message or not, it might not be your picture but just that they read your profile and think you are just not for them for whatever reason. Seems weird that such a lot have done that though, have they actually been online to open the message, iyswim?

Velvet Is he looking for a taxi or a date. I would probably say that to him.

Its probably me then, more rejection !!!

Jaffa - There are probably a load of 'dead' profiles where people haven't checked them in weeks. I know I've got ones floating around on singleparents, GSM etc which don't have a photo or much of a profile. Some people just don't check their profiles very much. Doesn't mean anything.

I don't know why its an issue (he loves cars and driving, has driven since 17 etc and doesn't drink so not looking for a woman to taxi him) but I think it is. He lives a fair way from me and a lot further out of London. Its not like I'd be expecting him to chauffeur me round though...

I get messages even if I haven't been online for ages. I have turned off notifactions to email now so wouldn't even know. So chances are you are not being ignored.

jaffacake, you're not going to be everyones cup of tea, none of us are - look at it like that rather than 'rejection'

It's a numbers game after all. Some people you mail, you most definitely WILL be their cuppa... iyswim.

It could also be that daters tend to have a sort of 'shopping' list, so look at your profile and count the ticks in the boxes... and my not open a message or reply based on not ticking one or two of the boxes even though you matched up to the ten other ones... if that makes sense?

It never used to bother me not getting replies or having mail unopened for the above reason...

Banta, thanks for that didnt think that way.
Have had a few dates recently since dickhead dumped me but noone special.Sadly think I still am thinking of dickhead but need to forget him as he was such a player.
Hope you all have a fun NYE or a quiet one if that is what is needed. Am meeting with a group of longtermmates for a Thai meal.
Happy 2013 all,lets hope it will be a good one for all x

Velvet Challenge him to teach you

Morning all.
Well my plans for nye have have all fallen apart. I thought I was gigging but due to diary confusion it turns out its the other bass player, so I have a couple of choices :

1-go to gig and stand and watch like billy no mates
2-drinks with geeky girl, however it's her family and kids and feels weird seeing as I've not met them yet and it's too early for that.
3-on my own at home with red wine and jools holland

Hmmm

Go to gig-if it gets naff, home to Jools and vino and smoochy text to geeky. There, all bases overed.

That Ike is a master plan

Just got text confirmation of date later. Oh god I've forgotten how to do this first date shite. Wibble!

Mercury WoW at the arrogance of that man and his profile!!!! I fit most of it too except he probably wouldn't actually like the stipulation he has a out being a little feisty. I am.. but dang if he thinks I'd be running around after his arrogant ass like a good little stepford wife wiping his ass to make him feel good?!!!! Wow, just wow Pft....

Thats nice and Luby do you REALLY like holding hands ALL the time EVERYWHERE????

I never hold hands. shudder

Well occasionally.. but he sounds like he would smother his pwincess to death..

I am surprised he hasn't bought a thai bride. Maybe business isn't that good.

Hmm I do kinda like holding hands at appropriate times and stage in a relationship/dating but he will not be getting the chance to do so ;)

I have head-in-the-sand out and out panic now about what to wear. Surely something will just present itself to me and fall beautifully on to me as I get dry from the shower. Laalaaala.

Yep that's the sum total of it really 48 isnt it?? He doesnt want PROPER fiesty as in a few carefully chosen scathing put downs when he is being an arse. In his fantasy the pwincess would beat her fist helplessly against his 'manly' chest while being 'tearful'. He can then say 'Alwight Pwincess, lets buy ya some pwetty feminine clothes' completely ignoring any concerns or complaints she may have.

Lubey What time is your date?

Lubes I know a man who will buy you something pretty and feminine...all you need to do is hold his hand EVERYWHERE (even in the shower)

Ike In his fantasy she wont have any complaints. It will be perfwect.