Crotch grabbing, jelly nailing, double-quick portions and man parts floating in a pear tree...dating thread 33 survived Christmas so bring on NYE!

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Here we are!

Wallison have fun - new underwear will make you feel fab!

Snape is the ex gone yet?

Snape I've got them in a folder already (passwords a good idea) I try not to look too often. I have my old mobile somewhere with all the texts he sent me, I haven't looked at them in 3 years, but I can't chuck it away either. Likewise all the cards from him with poems in how sad do I sound.

I really think Spacemans going to be a no. I'd like to be surprised but I doubt it. Ifwhen he does say no, I'd be tempted to ask why, but for the fear that he'd say it's because you look fatter/not as attractive as in your photos :(

Wallison best of luck for later - hope it's fabulous and that your new undies make you feel awesomely sexy.

Velvet I'm so hoping that Spaceman is just being a bit shy and does, in fact, desperately want to see you again.

I have my coffee date tomorrow at 7. Couldn't give a crap about it either way to be honest - which is a good thing, right?

Slightly arrogant sounding guy who rows (boats not arguments) a lot and paints as a hobby and said he'd 'allow me to buy him a drink'. Never married and no DC and sent me a text over Xmas which basically said he hoped I wasn't lounging around doing nothing. I think I'm just waiting for him to do the smallest thing to piss me off so I can spark up a fag and blow smoke in his face (he hates smoking). That's the kinda mood I'm in folks.

Velvet - it's always a bit depressing being turned down by someone, but it's even more depressing assuming that you're going to be turned down.

However, do you actually want him to say yes? Apart from an ego thing, having someone want to see you again, do you actually want to spend several more hours of your life with this bloke? If you're feeling 'meh' about him then why? Was it because he was less attractive, or funny, or sweet, or that he picked his nose?

You may both be feeling 'meh' about each other, I don't think you should start getting depressed about why someone you don't like doesn't like you back.

There are lots of people I don't know who probably wouldn't like or fancy me. I only get a bit down if someone I really do like doesn't like me back.

Smoothie, that sounds marvellous, although I have now got to the stage where I'm not just living vicariously through people getting Coffee, I'm enjoying vicarious putative arguments. I may have to start a few evening classes in 2013 and actually get a life.

Velvet - doesn't matter if he's not interested in seeing you again, he's not fascinating enough for you, he's meh, he's so meh, he's Meh Man, give him a big ' whateva, major loser' . ( I reserve the right to retract any of that if he turns out to be wonderful )

Wallison Have FUN

Smooth You could show him how to lounge while smoking a fag.

I could 48 - and if it goes badly, I can always say there and then 'sorry, there's just no spark' while sparking up a big fat one in the pub car park.

Some do taste better than others Enjoy your fag!

I'd like to think Spaceman was shy, but suspect in reality he's too nice for me. If he does turn me down, it just further proves what I've long believed, that nice men don't like me. Yes, Cuthbert was nice too, but he had issues. And they're actually the only nice men I've met in all my years of OD.

Banta I do want him to say yes. My gut feeling post date was that I wanted to see him again. We got on really well by text pre-date. Date itself felt awkward, but I don't know to what extent that was due to outside factors (time pressures, location etc) or shyness, or the simple fact he didn't find me attractive.

I would need to see him again, in a more relaxed location, and see if it was any different. I hope that he would think the same. But I'm probably wrong on that.

The deed is done. I have phoned Mr Fucked up. It was really stuff.

He has said he will not send any more texts. I hope so.
Wished him Happy Birthday for New years day. Hoped everything worked out with kids blah blah.
Hope I was nice but not too nice.

Really tough. Had to hit the bottle before that call

Well done 48 that sort of thing is really hard.

Lucky escape, I think, Music!

48 at least you've done it now. Well done :) Hopefully that will be that, and he won't make a nuisance of himself by text any more.

wow Music, seriously?? CREEP OUT!! Block indeed.

He only alluded to sex twice. So progress I think.

This wasn't about me. This was about him wanting to fuck me.

Position of blow up doll declined

48, that call is always tough but do you feel relieved now its done?

Music... Bloody hell, that is scary! How did he find you on fb? Maybe you need to lock down your profile a bit more? Even so..very creepy and stalker'ish...

I'm not sure, he had an email so thinking he got it from that. Creepy however.

48, well done for doing it.

You can find people on FB from email, mobile number or photo if you have the same photo on your dating profile and FB ... Not that I've ever done this, you understand ...

I do feel better thankyou.

He seemed genuinely surprised that I remembered personal things like his birthday.

He didn't mention one personal thing about me. Very telling.

OK, that makes sense, still creeped me out lol, especially when I read his public posts about his new 'girlfriend.'

A few of you have mentioned searching pictures.. How do you do that? I didn't know you could?!
Didn't realise either, that you could search for folk on fb with a mobile phone number!!!

My mobile is visible to friends only.

search for a post by JulietteMontague including the word 'google'

I think basically, copy the picture to your local computer, open Google and click 'images', then click the camera icon and browse to the picture you want to search on. Et voila. This is how we find scammers using some model as their profile picture. Or facebook profiles if you're that way inclined.

Music I find it useful to have a dating email address which has a clearly false second name attached to it. That way, it can't be connected to any other account/RL.

48 what took you so long

Velvet why do you think the Spaceman might be was too nice for you? Also, it's impossible to say men don't like you.

Cuthbert was nice but flaky, albeit for good reason and actually did the worse thing for you which is to keep you wondering. This one also sounds nice but has signs of being flaky. If he does say no, that will probably be why. It may actually have nothing to do with you at all.