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joining the police (unrealistic dreams)

29 replies

quicksandJesus · 12/04/2006 22:23

I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years and during this time Ive noticed he is a 'dreamer' rather than a "doer"...he wants all these big holidays but never attempts to save, he wants a new job but never looks for one, he wants to buy his own house but never does anything about it...

The latest one is that he wants to join the police. I know the medical is pretty gruelling but he reckons his mate has told him that its easy so he's making no effort to change his terrible diet (bacon sandwich every morning, King size McDonalds every day and fried or freezer food every night) and he does NO excercise at all. He isnt morbidly obese but he is overweight yet he has such high hopes of "walking into the police" when he decides that the time is right.

Does anyone have any experience of joining the police or their medicals etc?
Also, am I being harsh in getting annoyed with him expecting life on a plate all the time???

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Ledodgy · 12/04/2006 22:25

I know my friend's sister has tried and they are very thorough I heard that sometimes they will turn you down the first time to see if you re-apply thus showing them you really want to join up.

hulababy · 12/04/2006 22:25

Is \link{http://www.policecouldyou.co.uk/default.asp?action=article&ID=44\this website} any use?

jenkel · 12/04/2006 22:28

My SIL has just failed to get into the Police. I think she failed on her medical/work experience. As she has had quite a lot of time off sick and on her medical records at the doctors its down as Stress. Would imagine that wouldnt look good with the Police, because if anything is stressful the Police must be. The medical is quite detailed, as well as the general exams that they do, role play etc. There is actually a course that you can go on that helps you through the process of applying for the Police, so that must give you an indication of how tough it is, also tons of books.

MrsStrutsHerStuff · 12/04/2006 22:30

a friend of ours tried x2 first time he failed the paperwork test and second he was just told unsuccesful, he had to wait till a yr had lasped before trying second time, also a girl i used to work with failed to get in to Police so she joined the army and is now in the Military police

HappyDaddy · 21/04/2006 15:23

I wouldn't get too annoyed, he won't apply anyway from what you've said. You could tell him to either do it or shut up as you're sick of hearing his rubbish.

Bobley · 21/04/2006 19:35

My husband has just joined the Police! It has taken over 12 months to go through the process, it takes ages and the physicals and medicals are very tough.

The medicals are not just blood pressure and eye tests but full on hearing tests, weight, reflex's, body mass, etc etc.

Also in the physical he has to run to level 5 of the bleep test and push and pull a certain weight. If they pass the first physical they also have a 2nd one to complete where they have to perform better than the first one!

Its a complete nightmare but it is sooo worth it, its such a good career but if he is serious about joining he will have to look at his diet and start training to get his fitness up!

Good luck!

GDG · 21/04/2006 19:36

OMG, if he's not fit he won't get through the physical. Simple as.

My brother joined up about 5 yrs ago and I can remember how tough it was - and he's pretty fit!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 21/04/2006 19:38

My DB joined about 18 months ago. A certain level of fitness is required etc. But why dont you encourage him to follow through with it in any case?

Maybe he is looking for some encouragement from you?

WharfRat · 21/04/2006 19:43

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notasheep · 21/04/2006 22:22

I was in the Police Force for 8 years-he doesnt sound like a prospective applicant to me,sorry

JoolsToo · 21/04/2006 22:28

with that lackadasical attitude I'd tell him not to bother!

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QuickSandJesus · 21/04/2006 22:34

Here is a typical day of his diet:

Breakfast = Bacon sandwich or crisps

Lunch = McDonalds... 2 cheese burgers, a big mac, extra large fries and king size coke. Or sometimes he'll have one of those big beef baguet sandwich things PLUS an XL big mac meal...or if the offer is on he'll have 2 bacon double cheeseburgers PLUS an XL bacon double cheeseburger meal.... you get the picture. He doesnt just get the set meals, he gets extra burgers etc on top of the meals.

Dinner - He's obsessed with spaghetti bolognese and will normally have a full plate of this, plus a full garlic bread baguet to himself followed by a couple of packets of crisps and sometimes toast and then 9 times out of 10 he'll order a large donar kebab or pizza with cheesey chips etc around 9pm.

And he thinks he's going to get in the police? I do try and encourage him but he does take the mick a bit with the food...there is only so much you can do without expecting them to help themselves. He doesnt listen to me anyway, as far as he's concerned he WILL get in and doesnt need to worry about it (or talk about it). Sad

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jasper · 21/04/2006 22:39

QSJ his police dreams sound like the least of your worries!
does he currently have a job?
I find him annoying from your description alone.I could not share my life with someone who abused their health in this way.
Sorry if that sounds harsh

BadHair · 21/04/2006 22:45

Encourage him all the way, and make sure you're around to console/gloat (depending on how you feel at the time) when they laugh him out of the interview room.

My cousin's ex-P has failed to get into the Police twice, despite being super-fit, ex-army and an intelligent, well-balanced bloke. Actually, it's probably the intelligent, well-balanced bit that's gone against him (Grin Wink).

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QuickSandJesus · 21/04/2006 22:53

he does work at the moment and he's told me that the lads he works with take the mick out of him about the ammount he eats so its not just me...he also guzzles his food and makes himself ill. A few weeks ago he ordered a large kebab and cheesy chips and when he got them you would've thought he was half starved... he took huge forkfulls of chips and shoved them into his mouth and you could actually hear him choking slightly and retching, he was actually making ME feel sick. Then he was ill with stomach pains and sickness afterwards Angry. Last weekend we bought a bag of 5 doughnuts and he ate 3 instantly to himself.

I do worry about his health but in all honesty his greedyness and piggish eating habits wind me up more than anything.

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jasper · 21/04/2006 23:14

how overweight is he?

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QuickSandJesus · 22/04/2006 10:27

He's 18 stone but he is also 6.2" so it doesnt look too bad if you see what I mean? He can just about "pull it off" and doesnt actually look 18 stone. He is very unfit though and I can see him having big health problems when he's older.

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flutterbee · 22/04/2006 10:32

My brother has been in the police for 13 years and is now a srgt, your partner may well sail through the medical, board interview and paper tests, but if he isn't physically fit then he will fail.

Lucycat · 22/04/2006 10:32

Tell him to try to work as a Special constable - then he'll see if he really does like the work and I believed it'll stand in his favour if he does decide to apply for the Force.

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QuicksandJesus · 22/04/2006 10:46

He wouldnt do that LucyCat, he calls them "Playmobile Police".

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Bobley · 22/04/2006 11:21

After reading what he normally eats in a day, maybe you should get him a copy of the "Super size me" TV documentry with that bloke living off McDonalds, that may put him off a bit!

It sounds really bad what he is eating, it is not up to you to make him special meals, he should be old enough to realise how gross his habits are, also this must be costing you a fortune!

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QuicksandJesus · 22/04/2006 12:02

He thought "supersize me" was a load of crap... he's in constant denial about it all, I remember when cadburys creme eggs came on sale just before easter, he bought a load of them and ate 3 all at once, putting the whole egg in his mouth one by one and more or less quick chew and them swallow.

Also, he is in a lot of debt and I have heard this puts the police off, is this true? He also has 6 points on his driving license for speeding and has had a police caution before...

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GDG · 22/04/2006 12:27

This is wind up right?

GDG · 22/04/2006 12:28

Why has your name changed from quicksandJesus to QuickSandJesus?

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QuicksandJesus · 22/04/2006 12:37

Because I am using an alias as my other name makes it too obvious who I am!

What makes you think it is a wind-up?

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