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Who's got the worst mother in-law?

79 replies

Search · 12/04/2006 20:56

I have decided to have a competiton on who's got the worst mother in-law? I love to hear your stories! I will tell you mine, it will sure to shock u!

OP posts:
Chandra · 27/07/2006 17:30

MRs Spoon! you are not alone! MIL introduces DS with a different name (of her choosing) because she hates DS's name (as she kindly pointed out to me )

fattiemumma · 28/07/2006 00:14

nope sorry but i beat you all hands down.

she used to watch XP beat me up and then walk out half way through saying that I "was mental and just wind him up on purpose"

yeap...she's a gem. She also used to call my DD the wrong name because she doesnt like her actual one.
refuses to accept that DS has ASD and believes its just my bad parenting (she clealry knows better than every professional to ever meet him)

is basicly a prostitute..no seriously. if she needs a plumber she calls the local guy and when he comes round she pays him in kind...as she does with the electrician, carpenter, builder and any other tradesmen she uses.

sat in my front room after dd's brith and said to XP that he had better get a paternity test cos she doesn't look anything like him...i was sitting right there!

Chandra · 28/07/2006 00:18

You won!

fattiemumma · 28/07/2006 00:20

lol..told ya

DVX · 28/07/2006 07:35

Yes Fm you won! I have hiar raising stories but they are beaten hands down by yours!

YellowFeathers · 28/07/2006 07:41

FM!

Mines pretty bad. She's on form atm too.
She has these episodes of being a total pita and then being really nice.
It hurts my head to keep up.

Atm, I'm all thats bad because I forced dh to move away (nothing to do with the fact he works where we now lived and was previously commuting 70 miles each journey)
Her mother joins in too and her latest statement has been that "I'll not be happy until I move our family back to my home town" (not even on the cards, never has been)

In the past have been called a gold digger, witch, evil, blah blah.

Gets quite tiring really.

thechildsslave · 28/07/2006 09:44

If you think youve got it bad read these stories . WARNING this site is very addictive .
www.motherinlawstories.com/mother-in-law_stories_archive_calendar_2006.htm

julezboo · 28/07/2006 15:48

omg some awful mil's out there....

my turn..

  1. tells me i dont feed my child enough
  2. tells me Im a cruel mother
  3. tells me I will drive my ds (age4) away 4)dp was worried about turning out like his horrible father(who repeatedly beat them and treated them like muck mostly), he went to mil for a hug and reassurance during a sobbing moment, she proceeded to tell him that it was me who was being unfair... 5)mid argument ranted about me having the dryer on for 20 mins...
  4. insists that me and dp are crap at being adults and need her help
  5. told me Im a bad mother
  6. told me Im childish
  7. 10 weeks pg now after 5 losses all of which she knows about and she knows the medical reason behind them, had a heavy bleed at 6 weeks her coment "did you lift heavy things yesterday, maybe thats why" grr
  8. if i tell ds he cant have something she will defy me and give him it anyway
  9. constantly tells dp she has had a shit life, she wants to kill herself, she cries herself to sleep everynight!!
  10. tells us how to live
  11. slags me off to dp when Im out the room, will never say anything to my face..

good part is this morning i lost my rag, my poor dp is having a mini breakdown and she wouldnt give him a hug or reassurance she just kept harping on about feckin bills so i screamed "Will you just shut up and let us live our own lives"!!!

shes been out all day but i have a few choice words to say to her when she gets in, yes she helps us out financlly but n more than any other parent would, doesnt give her the right to treat us like children i am 24 and dp is 25, i have brought my ds up on my for 4 yrs hes not dead yet.... LOL

Quootiepie · 04/08/2006 21:02

My MIL left me to bleed to death when I was hemorraging (sp) 4 weeks after an abortion. She refused to get her son out of bed to take me to hospital.

theladyvanishes · 04/08/2006 21:41

OMG quootiepie thats horrific

Quootiepie · 04/08/2006 21:59

i know... was rushed in for an ERPC in the end.

israel · 04/08/2006 22:05

My mother in law...is a gem too...
We even emigrated to be clear of her...only to find she followed us out to Australia...the next year.....and told everyone how awful we were for leaving her behind...all alone....
She is still causing aguments here too.....but we see her as little as possible.
She will only visit...to give cards and presents for birthdays...for everyone...eccept me...
When my husband tried to commit suicide...just over a yr ago...it was down to her stupid behaviour....and self centeredness.
My dh and I celebrated 10 yrs of marriage last weekend....a bloody miracle on my behalf....with what she has put me/us through.

SittingBull · 04/08/2006 22:11

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LianCragg · 26/07/2007 16:15

I think this is the perfect place to have a rant about my MIL.

  1. She makes b1tchy comments about the kids not being her sons. Just because she's a cheat doesn't mean we all are 2) She think he should smoke cannabis all the time (£50) a week to relax and thats just fine, even to drive 3) She doesn't think her son should do anything around the house, even though we BOTH work full time 4) She hides porn in her house for her son (even though he has been moved out for 4 years) 5) She refers to me as "her or she" 6) Didn't think that her son should put any of the money down for the deposit on her house because its up to him if he wants to spend it all on cannabis 7) refers to him as her "precious little boy" even though he is 25 8) gets him undressed if he stays there and has drank too much 9) tries to touch his bum and his front bum every time we go round 10) makes his favourite pudding "jelly" or "jam roly poly" 11) tries to belittle me in front of everyone by making silly little comments 12) didn't want either of my daughters to go up to see him on fathers day because he was sleeping. 13) Thinks that i talk to him like a dog because I ask him to do things like "can you do the bottle for the baby" I think that is enough, there is sooooo much more i can add and if i feel i need to vend this anger again i think i just might. Thanks for reading
Weegle · 26/07/2007 18:16

Mine is "nice" to my face but there's loads of underlying stuff but because she is overtly pleasant I am trapped to do anything. At our wedding she got up on the stage and took the mike off the DJ and gave a 30min (!) speech about DH including bringing out all his childhood artwork. I was cringing with embaressment. My dad told me she was a nut and it was completely inappropriate as weddings are about the couple not the individual. She got off the stage and took DH off me to dance. He had to prise himself away from her in the end. She also commited the cardinal sin of ringing the delivery suite when I was in the final throes of labour (before c-section) because SHE couldn't wait any longer!!!!

Leati · 26/07/2007 18:22

My husband does!!!!

sarah985 · 27/07/2007 21:58

My MIL is staying with us at the moment (long story another time) and made the worst meal last night - despite being 7 mths pregnant I forced myself to eat the 'plop' thinking at least tomorrow we can have fish n chips! Came in from work was about to escape to get fish n chips when she said - ooh there's dinner in the fridge....slowly I opened the fridge door... and there it sat... the leftover plop from the previous night which had been added too.....dun dun dunnn - my heart sank, I could have cried...so I set three places at the table...only to be told... no dear I'm not eating tonight (ummm, so its that bad you won't eat it??!!) and so my husband and I force our way through another plate of the worst meal I've ever had in my life... cant even tell you what it was but a mixture of lasagne sheets, mince, and onion. Surely, I must be in the running for daughter in law of the year award for that???!!! I've made sure than none survived.... you are saying... she's only trying to help... yes she is... and I shouldnt be harsh...but it really was that bad!!!

loubes28 · 27/07/2007 23:14

My Mil is the most two faced cow I have ever met.She is an expert in bitchiness.If she gets you alone,she says what she really thinks about you.
I am sure she buys presents from charity shops-last Christmas my dd told me to open my present from her when no-one was around because it is so embarrassing to be given a pair of gloves that are for tiny hans(mine are enormous) for the 5th year running(they smelt moldy).
Everytime we go out for family occassions she complains in the restaurant about every course-it's never good enough for her.
In short spoilt,petulant bitch.
When my dh was sent away to boarding school at 10,he was told not to cry as it upset her!!

Also fil does all shopping,cooking,house maintenence,ironing and paperwork-she goes on holiday alot,sits on the sofa etc.

She has no interest whatsoever in my ds-apart from the development of his speech.She prefers my dd as she is the easiest child but only really wants progress reports.Never wants to offer any practical support,apart from inviting her relatives to stay at our house.
She lives 200 miles away and as she is so difficult we hardly ever see her--YES111

binklehasflipped · 27/07/2007 23:15

my mother in law waits til I am on holiday then comes and re-arranges my house, the way she prefers it - cushions on the setee, position of kitchen implements etc...

MyTwopenceworth · 27/07/2007 23:18

Binkle. Next time you go away, can you get a dartboard and a pic of her first? Mount dartboard on kitchen door and pin pic to it. Put dart thru forehead.

Go on holiday. Grin.

kimi · 27/07/2007 23:21

ME

binklehasflipped · 27/07/2007 23:23

I cam back from hols today to find one of my suitcases (taken from my bedroom wardrobe) in the hall with all my christmas decorations inside it.

Apparently, where I was storing them in cardboard boxes under the stairs was WRONG

kimi · 27/07/2007 23:44

oHHHH PUT THEM UP NOW

singledadofthree · 27/07/2007 23:46

mine was excellent - was her dd i struggled to get on with.

Sakura · 28/07/2007 07:04

Mine turned up at the birth of my child UNINVITED. I had turned down my own mother and never contemplated in my wildest nightmares that MIL had it in her to invent a "coming to watch me give birth" scenario). Luckily she was 40 minutes late, but turned up with childless SIL and grabbed my baby away and ran out of the room without asking, while my legs were still open and I was lying down, and I hadnt even held my own baby yet!! The MIDWIFE had to ask her to bring the baby back...She then expressed dissapointment that shed arrived too late and expected to see me in pain when she got there.
2 days later, while smugly holding my newborn "YouRe still fat arenT you" (Im wasnt, by the way, although she is)
Then she turned up at my place EVERY DAY for the next few months. It was a living hell. It was constant criticism, not giving the baby back when she was crying. Just awful, truly awful.
I threatened DH with divorce, and now I dont see the old bag anymore. I let DH take DD once a month on a Sunday to see her <span class="italic">without</span> <span class="italic">me</span>, and now me and MIL get along fine- we never see each other . It was a miserable 5 months though before I realised shes completely envious of other peoples happiness with every fibre of her being, and if she canT be happy and content herself, shes going to damn well destroy anyone elses happiness.
Feel sorry for her though, it makes you think what she`s been through to turn out like that, poor woman...

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