How often does your bf ring you/text you?

[charlottesmum5]

Been seeing this guy about 3 months now, although only see each other at weekends due to me having childcare/work commitments in the week, plus he said he likes to be in bed by 9pm midweek (he gets up at 7.15am). Anyhoo, he never texts me out of the blue in the week, even to say hello and at most he will ring once. I've stopped staying over on a Saturday night because to be honest he's a bit of a 'mauler' (I talked to him about it). AIBU to expect some mid week interaction from him? I text him every other day to say hello etc and I'll get a reply but he never initiates.

Few developments since, omg.

charlottesmum, my initial reaction is to ask why on earth you're irritated he hasn't called you on Xmas day - be glad! This man is a rapist, and even if he weren't (he is he is he is), he' s callous, disrespectful and uncaring.

Having read through this thread in full, I feel you' 're avoiding commenting on or dealing with the incident (am trying to put it kindly) - completely understand this; it' s very difficult to come to terms with, particularly when the perpetrator is not only trusted but a sexual partner, and also when a previous relationship has conditioned you. I hope you take time to look back over the consensus of opinionated, and use that info to arm yourself with some righteous bloody anger and a call to the police.

What a pig this man is. He rapes you when you're recovering from an operation. He controls when and if you speak. He is angry you can't go out with him when you're ill. He's a disgrace.

I think you should go to the police and log the rape. I doubt there is anything they can do now but if there's been a complaint about him in the past, they may do something. Is there a police officer around who would know?