"I think we've taken it as far as we could" what did he mean?

[Flojo1979]

Had a great night out last night, been seeing him about a month or so now. Spent the night together last week.
Know him 13 yrs as friend, just over a month as dating.
He was relaxing, bopping, grinning, it was great to see and in the moment I said "theres the ?Jimbob? I know and love" as soon as I said it I thought shit have I just told him I love him by accident. But he replied "does that mean there's a me that u don't know and love?" I replied honestly "yes u are a complete enigma most of the time....as for the L word there's only one way to find out" (in my drunken haze thinking along the lines of u say it first) but he replied "I think we've taken it as far as we could" and then disappeared to the bar and the moment was lost and I was left thinking. What does he mean? Is he saying this is as far as he's commiting or is he referring to us having slept together in a hitting last base kinda way?
Would u give it a second thought?

I'd definitely give it a second thought. Sorry but it sounds like he's calling time or at least saying don't expect anything more, although it's a bit difficult to pick up tone etc from your post. Would he share your belief that you've been "seeing" each other, or are you a friend that he slept with last week?

Sorry, but reads like he thinks of you as fuckbuddy.

It sounds like he thinks the relationship has progressed as far as it ever will. If he loved you he would've told you.

in that context it sounds like he meant the conversation to me... what was he like afterwards?

What happened after that? Did you see him again that night?

It is the mooncup. Blame it on the mooncup

What happened after that?

I think he was saying that what has happened in your relationship so far, is as far as it can go.

That mooncup is going to haunt me forever!
He was usual self really, I left shortly after, it was time for me to go anyway.

I agree with the others who have said that he doesn't want a commited realtionship with you

You say he is a bit of an enigma most of the time?
In my experience, men that try and maintain that 'mysterious, non commital' persona are actually extremely tedious and boring.
Dump :)

I'm afraid it sounds like a brush off to me. Sorry.

He doesn't see you in his future OP sorry. If you're enjoying something uncomplicated and want to continue it for a while great. If you're looking for more, move on.

He wants fun not love.

No no I disagree! I think he was responding to your own statement: "there's only one way to find out".
I think that usually means kiss (shoop shoop song anyone?) , and he was saying you've already slept together

ie no need to try a kiss to see if you love each other as you already have

Pub talk is no talk. Don't go deep on nonsense! If you're wondering what he meant, ask him!

I too think he was saying that you'd taken that line of conversation as far as you could, not necessarily things between you.

You could always... and please don't flame me... Ask him?

I thought he meant the conversation too.

Though if hes "an enigma" most of the time Im not sure I would be saying the L word anytime soon.

call me fick but I can't work out what you said. therefore can't work out the context of what he said. But even then it sounds like a normal comment, not loaded. agree with tethers.

So I asked him and he replied "well declaring undying love for each other would be a bit bogus wouldn't it"
He thinks I'm a fuck buddy doesn't he?

I'm really confused... Maybe you should have a proper chat to him?

Sorry but I think so :(

Yes, I think he does.

He's telling you that what you have now is as much as you will ever have.

crunchiebar I'm confused too!
I did say 'so u just see us as friends still then?' but no reply.
I guess I will have to wait til I see him on wednesday, wary of becoming the stereotype gf who badgers for commitment. I was quite happy in my bubble of ignorance! But now I feel I'm in limbo I don't like it!
And I like him too much to take control and end it.

I don't blame you for feeling uneasy. Sometimes better to get thigs out in open though, especially if you known each other a long time... He might just have been drunk and either not communicating effectively or he was trying to tell you but couldn't quite... Horrible situation to be in... Not knowing. I thinknitsnbetter to find out though and cut your losses if you have too.