This weekend my children will meet the OW who was sleeping with my husband this time last year, while I was pregnant. I knew it would happen and it's a shit as I always knew it would be. That's not what this post is about though...
As a preamble to meeting them, I've received a charming letter through my solicitor stating that as they began their relationship AFTER we separated, and as she works with vulnerable children and is CRB checked, I should basically be thrilled that they are in her care (with XH of course). Because essentially they have been saintly to wait this long as my lovely DC are quite clearly going to benefit from having her in their lives.
What I can't get my head around is that OW is included in ALL correspondence my XH sends. Solicitors letters, emails etc. She reads the abusive ones to me and his own mother. She obviously knows that this hearts and flowers introduction to my DC is a load of twaddle, as she knew I was pg when she was having an affair with my XH. So how does she not twig that he's an absolute see you next tuesday with repugnant moral standards? Why would she want to build a life with a man like my ex? I know we all miss 'red flags' (I did when I married him after all!) but when someone is so clearly abusive and lies ALL the time even in legal documents, and you KNOW that they are lying, what bit of your brain has to be switched off to say "oh look, there's a keeper"?
Feel sick and low tonight :(
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I will never understand the OW
chocoreturns · 30/11/2012 18:54
You really have to give up trying to understand what goes on in their twisted brains ... for that way madness lies
and those of us who are not complete fuckwits like this have better things to do with the rest of our lives 
... Okay I'm speechless.
And that's me talking. 
What a horrible stupid senseless fucking fucker of a man. I hope he fucks off to fuck and finds them closed on a rainy afternoon. And then fucks off some more!
[sweary and hormonal, my apologies]
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and sweary blackcurrants makes me smile! not long now love! 
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No matter how much these tossers follow a script, they never cease to amaze me with their ability to show an utter contempt for the mother of their own children.
Do these women actually think that these men are a capture? Men who can turn their backs on their DCs (esp. when they are unwell) and haven't even got the gumption to book a holiday somewhere unique. Can they not work out that in a year or so their new relationship will have descended into routine and they wake up one morning and realise this prize is basically a dullard whose life will always be governed by lies.
Choco, I was incensed for you when I read that he has gone off on holiday days after sending you that letter clarifying how well behaved he had been, trying to formalise his lies. Haha, that will all come back and bite him in the bum.
Oh, and your lawyer might make use of the new Disclosure and Barring Service which came into service on the 1st Dec. CRBs have been superceded so her CRB should be a DBS (Definietly Beyond Stupid). I've never believed someone would use a CRB in this way as all it says is there is nothing on record. It tells you nothing about the person themselves. Using to jerk your chain makes them look incredibly unprofessional... and incredibly scared 
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