Well purse my fanjo, giraffes in wheelchairs and submariners going dowwwnnnn - the dating thread hits 30!

[JulietteMontague]

Off we go...

I always think if you get a rude or sarky reply to a perfectly polite text it just confirms you made the right decision to cancel!

lulu my thoughts were that I had had a lucky escape he was so rude!

kirsty exactly! I cancelled once and got a "well you're never going to meet anyone if you cancel dates"! Hmmm, my thoughts were, well if and when I do meet someone I'll make sure they are a lot more polite and nicer than you! I think so long as you know you have behaved nicely then it's water off a ducks back! Report back what!

I've cancelled loads of times, first dates second dates, 'sexy time' arrangements, if I dont feel right about it or I think it's just not going to work for me I aint gonna do it.
Some stupid response like 'your loss baby' just validates my decision :o

Milk re man boy I hadn't realised you met him OD. I had thought you already knew him in rl and he had worked his way into your ahem, affections. It does change things a bit as OD is so random so I get why you wouldn't want to text him. Yes, if he wants to see you he will do something about it.

I've just replied to Mr Residual Parent Commitments to say I think we have 'different approaches to life' and to watch he doesn't trip over his dressing gown cord and end up with his railcard up his arse politely decline a date. Very restrained I thought

"Residual Parenting Commitments" has to make it into the next thread title!

juliette that made me laugh! brilliant title thread too!

I thought that response was fine What :)

It is an Auditor night tonight .. we were supposed to be going to Body Combat and then dinner but I'd forgotten that I am going to see the last Twilight film with two of my pals at 4 so he is going to meet me for dinner in a restaurant just beside the cinema at 7

He has taken the changes to that and a night out next week with good grace I have to say ...

Just have to see how he does with Lunch on the 9th but he seems to tick my boxes so far

Highly unlikely I'll be seeing the prof tonight, haven't heard from him since Monday, I sent the last text. We weren't swapping filth or owt, just slightly flirtatiously reminiscing. Given we stopped contact previously when he just stopped texting me, withou givinga reason (whoch subsequently turned out to be makinga bgo of it with the banker). I suspose he has thought better of dinner with me and has gone to ground. I refuse to text him. Going to have a nice bath, just in case there is dinner, but more reasonably because it's a nice bath.

Fed up with flaky, unreliable, dishonest liars. As this seems to be the vast majority of people I seem to come into contact with, there seems to be little point in this Internet dating mullarkey. I retreat to the sofa with a good book and a lovely cat.

My typoes are disgraceful. Keyboard of RAGE!!!!

Typos are not a problem Snape, its bloody annoying. Its not coming through with an arrangement that pisses me off. I get tired very quickly of flakiness. Operate to my standards of arrangements and its a potential goer.

Im meeting date from last week or so tonight for a drink in a pub. He offered to pick me up and I think his intentions were ok as when I said Id meet him at the pub he was fine with that. I dont know whether I fancy him or not and he keeps his cards close to his chest.

No other dating news. I am meeting a fireman in a couple of weeks after he text me to compliment me and then radio silence. Have spoken to him on the phone and he seems good fun. He says he has been out of the "dating game" for some time and may come across as awkward. Who knows whether this is true but Im willing to go on a date with him.

Just bagged myself a tesco finest lamb rogon josh for 92p in the yellow ticket counter and I have Morgan's and diet coke, i can also wear my pyjamas, so you can stick your fancy dinner, you flake.

nothing makes me crosser than someone promising something and failing to deliver. Sometimes there are very good reasons, it just helps if I know them...

Voldemort did this all the time, 'lets have a weekend away! oh, wait, no...I'm saving up for a holiday to celebrate 'mutual friends' birthday, you're invited, do come, snape! 'come to the seaside for the weekend to celebrate my birthday snape! It won't be he same without you! Actually, no, lets do something else because I want to nail newgirl and you cramp my style

I refuse to continue to be an after-thought or second best. I will not be used to ego stroke those who lack kindness, clarity or basic sodding manners. I will not as suggested 're-fling' with the prof when 'who knows I may well fuck up this current relationship and re-flinging with you would be a silver-lining par excellence' stuff that.

And on the same theme, not lovely man has cancelled on me - too upset after some shite with his ex to see me tonight. Wtf. Spoke to him on the phone earlier when he told me about said shite, then I sent a text later to say a good night out will cheer him up and he replied with "I can't do this tonight, Western, I am sorry. Will call you over the weekend. X". I haven't replied.

I'm not here to be picked up and put down at his convenience. Shit attitude, too unreliable although great in bed.

Time to get that profile back up on jolly old PoF!

snape I'm so with you on the nothing pisses me off more than unfulfilled promises, however minor. Grrr @ prof, voldie and their types. I've also started to refuse to be an after thought.

kirsty enjoy your film and make time for the loo update!

Have continued to email mr funny throughout the day, we have lots in common, he ticks a lot of boxes but who knows what will happen when we meet on sat. We are going to speak on the phone later. He also googled me (my email contains my full name) and I did something when I was 18 which got me on tv. That bit's fine except I was a fat teenager, I want to say don't worry I don't look like that anymore! But I feel even bringing it up sounds wrong. He's an intelligent guy I hope he's working off the pics I have on my profile which are an accurate reflection of what I look like now, I've been told that by all my dates so far. Oh well.

Oh crap OWW that's not lovely at all. And over the weekend is so vague, which makes it worse. He should be grateful he's got a hot lady willing to take his mind of the shite.

Not any more he doesn't!!

Well, probably. The shite was quite shite but even so I'm fed up of him blowing hot and cold and not knowing where I stand with him. I think I deserve better than this. Or am I over-reacting?

You deserve better.

Is that how you feel generally with him, that you don't know where you stand? Not just based on this occasion. If so then I can understand why you'd be fed up now, despite him having a good reason. But would you do the same to him in the same circumstances? I'd maintain silence and see how he comes through the weekend.

You're not overreacting at all, OWW. I've personally thought he's been flakey since the op. I know you've tried to be patient, but I think he's pissing you about.