Naturism

[homesick247]

I have recently met a guy who is a naturist. The correct way to describe myself is more prudish but I have absolutely no objection to his choice in lifestyle. I wants both myself and my children to embrace the same lifestyle as him, go on holidays etc. I just wondered if anyone had been in my position of being slightly reticent to do this themselves while still being totally supportive of them.

Is this your interest or are you just trying to be 'cool' for your new fella?

Also why do your children need a suddne intro into the naturist lifetsyle? How old are they?

How old are your dc? When do you propose to introduce this guy to them?

I think your questions highlight my reason for questioning this. I'm interested to know if/how others have dealt with this.

izzyizin they have met him already. Clothed.

No experience of this, but my gut feeling is that if you're reticent, you should just tell him that you're not interested in doing that right now.

You may change your mind at some time in future, but basically you sound like you wd be very uncomfortable being nekkid in public. And if you're uncomfortable about it, you shouldn't do it.

Also your DC's - how would they feel about getting naked in public? My two wd find it ludicrous and as they are both going into puberty, wd not be into it at all (though they might have been OK with it when they were younger).

You say you "recently" met this man. I wouldn't enter into the lifestyle of anyone I'd met recently, whatever it was (unless it was a lifestyle I was already interested in and wanting to get more involved in).

I think you need to take this very carefully. Are you talking about occasionally venturing onto naturist beaches while on holiday in warmer climates, or does your "etc" & his lifestyle revolve around naturist clubs closer to home?

Do you usually introduce paramours you have recently met to your dc?

How old are your dc? Do you have dds?

I have had some experience of this lifestyle and would start off by saying small steps are best taken and to add emphatically that a naturist wouldnt urge children to embrace the "lifestyle", certainly not the sort I know. Pm me is probably best.

ugh

How old are dc's?? Couldn't see the answer to above posters asking.

pervy

If you want to get your bits out and feel very natural be pressurised by him maybe thats fine, you're an adult but no way would I involve my kids in it.

You want your children to 'embrace his lifestyle' (ie be naked around lots of naked adults)
Why?
Why?

If you don't feel comfortable then don't do it.
And if he pressures you, dump him.

If your children are very small, they would feel comfortable and natural
Older children would have to chose for themselves, again, with no pressure.

Why didn't you say how old they are?

No to the kids joining in for me.

Also naturist clubs can attract some dodgy people. Seriously I know this.

Ha ha....I can imagine my kids reaction if I suggested this to them...naked? You have got to be fucking joking mum

I didn't really want this turn turn into another OP bashing session. People's definition on 'recent' may be six months, may be year. Mine is somewhere in between. This is not about me being irresponsible with my children, it's about me asking about naturism. Thank you those who have genuinely replied. I wish I could hear more!

OP - I don't usually go looking for people's posting history, but I really wanted to see what age of children you were talking about. I can see from elsewhere that they are school age, and also can't help noticing you have posted about relationship issues - if you are not 100% in a settled and committed relationship with this man, then I think it is way too early for you to be "embracing" aspects of his lifestyle like this. Maybe you need to spend a bit of time working out what you want for yourself and your children, before throwing yourself into a new relationship.

If you want to find out about naturism so that you understand him, then perhaps talking to him would be a better way to go about it?

How awful for your children, to have this foisted upon them. Please don't do it.

The Vera Playa Hotel is good.

Are you a journalist Op? I wonder why you only want to hear about other people's experience of this.
Or maybe you're someone who gets off on hearing about other people's experiences....I don't know.
How old are your DCs, do you have any DDs and why do YOU want your DCs to embrace this lifestyle?

Yes, what do YOU want?

It seems to me that not enough women ask themselves this question when they negotiate relationships with men.

They focus on what he wants and how and if they can accommodate him, forgetting that the starting point should be what they want for themselves and their children.

If this bloke had never come along, would it ever have occurred to you to explore participating in naturism as a life-style?

If he suddenly dumps you today, do you think you'll still be interested in exploring naturism?

If the answer's no, then you need to be clear that you'll be "embracing" this for him and him alone and seeing as how that will impact your children, if you have massive doubts about it, it seems to me that it would be the wrong decision at this current time. Trust your instincts, they're there for a reason - to protect you and your children.

The reasonable approach would be for you to give it a go first and then only eventually involve the children if you feel it's a safe environment.

I'm sure many naturists have children, so in itself is not a problem, but I wouldn't jump into sonething with children on tow without knowing a lit about it first.
First hand, not on a messageboard.

It's one thing adults doing this whenever they are in a place that accepts it, but for people to ask their children suddenly start taking their clothes off in front of other people is horrific.

What sort of man is this that wants your children to do that?

You say, "I wants both myself and my children to embrace the same lifestyle as him, go on holidays etc."

Do you mean "He wants" or "I want"?

Imperial It's one thing adults doing this whenever they are in a place that accepts it, but for people to ask their children suddenly start taking their clothes off in front of other people is horrific.

That does depend on the age of the kids, I get my 5yo DS changed at the side of the pool before his swimming lesson, he is not at all bothered by this. I'm sure he would quite happily run around in the buff if the weather were warm enough.