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Naturism

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homesick247 · 23/11/2012 23:10

I have recently met a guy who is a naturist. The correct way to describe myself is more prudish but I have absolutely no objection to his choice in lifestyle. I wants both myself and my children to embrace the same lifestyle as him, go on holidays etc. I just wondered if anyone had been in my position of being slightly reticent to do this themselves while still being totally supportive of them.

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FuturePerfect · 27/11/2012 09:51

I have some experience of this as a child and hated it. We had no choice in the matter and we all felt coerced by our overbearing 'liberal-minded' 1970s DPs. It was their thing, not ours. Children do not embrace 'lifestyles'. What are you trying to achieve?

FuturePerfect · 27/11/2012 10:00

DParents!

CogitoErgoSometimes · 27/11/2012 10:20

I've never been in your situation but, should I be faced with the proposition, I'd have no hesitation in saying a great big 'no thanks'. Naturism is a minority pursuit that is not very far away from exhibitionism and I have my doubts about the motives of the participants. I'm not comfortable with that and, given that he's at the stage where he doesn't like his own DM seeing him in the buff, I wouldn't make my DS endure it either.

Same would apply if a boyfriend had any other interest I didn't share. If you're 'slightly reticent' why are you even in two minds about saying no?

OovoofWelcome · 27/11/2012 12:01

Don't inflict this on your kids. If you want to go and see how it feels and make up your mind about your comfort levels with it, fine.

But do not inflict this on your kids.

If I knew someone who had been seeing a new man for less than a year, who was considering pushing her kids into naturist holidays with new man, then I would be wondering when it would be appropriate to contact social services.

Seriously.

izzyizin · 27/11/2012 12:17

Having read your previous posts, it's clear that embracing naturism and forcing your dc to join you in stripping off and wandering around stark bollock nekkid in front of this guy should not feature anywhere on your agenda.

BritishNaturism · 01/12/2012 23:29

I appreciate that I'm coming into this thread a bit late, but I have only just discovered it!

Obviously I would recommend going for it; it is a great lifestyle and very family-friendly. There is a whole mass of evidence that supports positive benefits for children and none, other than prejudiced statements from those who have no knowledge of Naturism, against it.

o2binsxm.com/childrenandsocialnudity.htm

Having said that, if your children are approaching or passing through puberty that is not a good time to introduce them to the lifestyle, although some will take to it even then. Prior to that most children take to it like a duck to water - a lot depends on how you have brought them up. Reluctance to be naked when it is comfortable to be so, is a taught behaviour; it is certainly not instinctive. For that reason the younger the child, the more natural it is to them.

Never force a child to take part. No reasonable Naturist will mind if your children do not undress, especially if they know it is their first time. The only possible exception to this would be in the pool at a Naturist club where the wearing of costumes is usually banned - this is for hygiene reasons - yes, costumes are less hygienic and cause the pool filters to need more frequent cleaning!

To those who claim to have had dodgy experiences I ask; are you sure you were experiencing true Naturism? I'm sorry to say we can do nothing about swingers clubs masquerading as 'Naturist' as there is no copyright on the name. Most people who describe themselves as Naturists are genuine, so hopefully this applies to your new guy.

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