Father's and daughters

[Andyrew]

At what age do father's need to start being dressed in front of their daughter's? My ex is unhappy that I have said that he should be dressed when DD stays with him at the weekend, am I being too prim? DD is just 7 and has not said she has a problem.

My mom always went naked and I hated it, for as long as I can remember! She thought I was a prude because I always covered up. Yet one more thing I got hassled for, not sharing her lack of inhibitions. Now as an adult I can think, "well, it was her home" -- but I wish she had been more sensitive to my feelings, too.

And ps: I also hated being dragged off to nudist beaches, too.

Thomcat, your Lottie and my Henry have that in common then!! He likes to give a good tweak and say, 'Eeek!", which is the noise I make His hand also goes down my front at every opportunity.

I'm terribly repressed about nakedness thanks to my mum's very prudish take on anything like this which sort of rubbed off on me. I hope not to pass on the same sort of baggage to my children (since this sort of prudishness can also correlate with sexual reticence - and does with me). So do what is comfortable for you, but be aware of subliminal messages to your dd and how this might influence her in later life

In my experience my Dad made the decision for my sister and I as he was always embarrassed if he was caught in between rooms!. Although it never bothered sis and I one bit.

Luckily (?) Mum wasn't so shy so nudity is not too much of a big deal.

My daughter is 3 and a half months and I know it is odd, but I feel really funny about her seeing her daddy naked!

My parents were terribly prudish too and i have NEVER seen them naked. I am free and easy with dd, (let's face it, you don't have much choice really when you can't even have a wee in peace) but dp is not comfortable with nudity(his) around her.

We were always pretty free and easy in our house too, but I think I stopped walking around naked in front of my parents when I was about 12/13. Now I don't give a monkeys! DHs family wasn't like that at all and it took a while before he was comfortable for DS1 to see his bits if DS1 walked in the bathroom etc. I don't know how he will be with DD though - shes only a baby at the moment, but hopefully he won't regress!!

Andyrew, I'm afraid I have to say that I don't think fathers 'have' to be dressed at all, unless its bothering DD.

funnily enough i can NEVER remember walikng round infront of my parents naked either. It was always a big Taboo in our house! I am not comfortable naked either si i guess it gets passed down. Though i don't think twice around my dd

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We try to make no issue out of it, ie if we're undressed/showering/getting dressed, that's just part of our life in the same way it's part of hers.

Dh stopped taking her in the shower with him when she was around 18 months because if he turned around and she was too close she would 'get an earful' and we certainly didn't want comments like 'daddy banged me with his willy' cropping up.

Apologies Harman, I'm not trying to belittle the reality of abuse, just to explain why we've altered our behaviour patterns.

I can only think of 2 occasions when I saw my dad without clothes, both accidentally, although mum and I still wander in on each in the bath/shower/having a wee (the latter more her than me !)

Dd is 4 and when changing at the leisure centre yesterday declared she would hide behind a bench so no-one would see her tummy - where has that suddenly come from ??

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Twink, I think you raised a good point as my dad admitted to me that he was more concerned with what we might say at school when we were younger that what was actually happening - I will always remember when he told my sister and I how nervous he felt about cuddling us because of what we might say something that may have been taken the wrong way by some well meaning individual. Luckily he is able to express his feelings of love without feeling awkward and now sis and I always feel able to be honest with our own kiddies ... hope that makes sense!