Spending a large(ish) amount of money on yourself - do you consult your partner beforehand?

[emkana]

That's it really! Would be interested to know what other couples do!

what sort of amount are we talking about here ?

wish i could say i didn't but i do.and he checks with me too. but we are skint most of the time so only makes sense.

£133!

depends if its out of my "secret fund" or the joint account.

depends on what it is, mostly no... ifthe amount is huge and will affect us then yes otherwise no.

Hmmm £133 probably comes in the range of where I'd probably fess up after - unless it was something I could be sure he'd never see or know the price of !!

No but then we both work. I suspect I'd behave differently if I didn't earn.

I'm asking really because dh wanted to spend that amount, asked me about it, I said why not wait till next month because we already have lots of outgoings this month, but then he was so desperate to have it (some computer thing) that he bought it anyway.

Which just confirmed for me that I'd rather he didn't consult me at all really.

Yes, if I am spending any amount of money on myself over say £50 I do tend to speak to Dh about it. He is very unlikely to say not tog et it. He does the same.

I get told off if I spend a small amount without consulting him , but then he never spends anything on himself without asking either, so I suppose it's only fair! And, I am a bit of a spendthrift

I very rarely spend money on myself and when I do I feel really guilty!!!!

Oh well, I would expect him to [hypocrite emoticon]

We have seperate bank accounts, so no I wouldn't feel guilty!

anything over £10 needs discussing in this house.

absolutley

But is it a case of just informing the other person about it or actually asking for permission?

defo asking for a discussion on the matter - like can we afford it etc. rather than permission

And then if the one person says we can't afford it and the other says but I really want it and I think we can - then what?

No, I' just spend it. £133 I'd just spend.

I think I probably spent about that amount on myself today, as I hit bluewater!

Yes.

well the sums would kinda show themselves wouldnt they.

we cant afford it this month becuase
a
b
c

ahh but next month we arn't paying b - and we can hold of a little on c

I spent £300 pound on a dress-dp didnt complain one bit as if you add up all the money he spends on beer and fags...........

no

but I work and have my own account